Zamkati
- Lemekezanani
- Kumbukirani makonzedwe musanayambe kukambirana
- Kulemberana mameseji kapena kutumizirana maimelo posonyeza kukwiya si njira yabwino yolankhulirana
- Gwiritsani ntchito zida zolankhulirana zathanzi pazochitika zonse
- Zindikirani kusiyana pakati pa kulumikizana kosayenera ndi koyenera
- Khalani womvetsera wabwino
- Nenani zomwe mukufuna
Kuyankhulana munjira yathanzi kuyenera kukhala pamwamba pamndandanda wazolinga zonse za mabanja. Mabanja omwe amayesetsa kuti banja lawo likhale lolimba amaphunzira momwe angayankhulirane bwino. Ofufuza ku Pew Research Center adapeza kuti mabanja achimwemwe kwambiri amakhala ndi zokambirana zopindulitsa pafupifupi maola asanu pa sabata. (Izi ndizopanda macheza wamba.) Zina mwa zinsinsi za kulumikizana kwabwino kwa maanja ndi ziti?
Lemekezanani
Nthawi zonse lankhulani ndi mnzanu ngati kuti ndi mnzanu wapamtima. Chifukwa mukuganiza chiyani? Ali! Mawu anu, kalankhulidwe kanu ndi kamvekedwe ka mawu ndizisonyezero za momwe mumamuonera mnzanuyo. Okondana omwe amalemekezana, ngakhale akamakangana, samangokhalira kukangana kapena kunyozana. M'malo mwake, amasinthana malingaliro pogwiritsa ntchito mawu omwe amawathandiza kufotokoza malingaliro ndi malingaliro awo popanda kunyoza mnzawoyo. Akhozanso kusokoneza mkanganowo ndi nthabwala ndipo atha kupereka mfundo zingapo kwa wokondedwa wawo atazindikira kuti mwina akunena zowona!
Kumbukirani makonzedwe musanayambe kukambirana
Simukufuna kutsegula zokambirana zofunika pamene amuna anu akutuluka panja kukagwira ntchito, kapena muyenera kukakumana. Olankhulana athanzi amakonza nthawi yokambirana izi kotero kuti 1) nonse mukonzekere zokambiranazo ndi 2) mutha kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ndi mphamvu zomwe zikufunika kuti mufotokoze bwino nkhaniyi ndikuonetsetsa kuti nonse muli ndi mwayi amveke.
Kulemberana mameseji kapena kutumizirana maimelo posonyeza kukwiya si njira yabwino yolankhulirana
Mabanja ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito njirazi, komabe, chifukwa kukumba nkhani yovuta, yomwe ingayambitse mikangano, ndikosavuta kuchita ngati simukuyang'anizana. Koma kubisala kuseri kwazenera kumatha kuonedwa ngati kwachabechabe, ndipo sizilola kuti zinsinsi zonse zomwe anthu amakambirana mukamacheza. Ngakhale zingaoneke ngati zosavuta kulumikizana ndi imelo kapena meseji, sungani njirazi kuti mupeze "zowonjezera" zomwe zimakweza mtima wa mnzanu masana: zolemba za "kukuganizirani" kapena "Kukusowani". Pazokambirana zomwe zimafunikira chidwi chonse, onetsetsani kuti mulipo ndi mnzanuyo kuti mulimbikitse kutulutsa kwachilengedwe. Kulankhulana pamasom'pamaso kumakondana kwambiri kuposa kutumizirana mameseji, ndipo pamapeto pake kumakupangitsani kuyandikira limodzi mukamayesetsa kuthetsa vutoli.
Gwiritsani ntchito zida zolankhulirana zathanzi pazochitika zonse
Osasunga maluso oyankhulirana athanzi pamitu yayikulu, monga bajeti, tchuthi, nkhani za apongozi kapena maphunziro a ana. Yesetsani kuti nthawi zonse muziyeseza kulumikizana bwino posinthana. Mwanjira imeneyi mudzakhala okonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito zida izi mukafunika kuukira "mitu yayikulu"; mudzakhala kuti mwakhala mukuyeserera kwambiri kotero kuti kulumikizana kwabwino kumakhala chikhalidwe chanu chachiwiri!
Zindikirani kusiyana pakati pa kulumikizana kosayenera ndi koyenera
Oyankhula opanda thanzi amagwiritsa ntchito njira zokuwa, kukuwa, kumenya nkhonya kapena "chete" kuti amve zomwe akunena. Mabanja omwe amamenya nkhondo motere amatha kudzivulaza mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo, kuthamanga kwa magazi, kupweteka pachifuwa ndi kupweteka, komanso kupuma mpweya. Omwe "samangokhala chete" polumikizana amakhala mkati mwa mkwiyo wawo womwe umapangitsa kuti thupi lizilimba, zomwe zimapangitsa kupweteka kwakumbuyo, nsagwada zopweteka komanso kupweteka mutu. Mwamwayi, kuzindikira njira zoyankhulirana zosakhwima ndi njira yoyamba yophunzirira kulumikizana bwino pogwiritsa ntchito zida zomwe zingakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanuyo kuti muyambe kukambirana m'njira zomwe sizingavulaze matupi anu komanso ubale wanu. Mukawona kuti zinthu zikuwotha moto, khalani ndi "nthawi yopuma" mpaka mutha kupumula ndikukhazikitsanso malingaliro anu. Chokanani wina ndi mnzake, ndipo yendani pamalo opanda phokoso komanso osalowerera ndale. Mukakhala kuti mwayambanso kukhazikika, bwererani limodzi, kukumbukira kufunika kokhala omasuka kuti mumvetsere zomwe wina akunena.
Khalani womvetsera wabwino
Olumikizana athanzi amadziwa kuti kulumikizana kumapangidwa ndimagawo ofanana poyankhula ndikumvetsera. Muwonetseni mnzanuyo kuti mukumvetsera mwachidwi zomwe akugawana (osati kungoganiza za zomwe mukanene akamaliza) mwa kuyang'anitsitsa, kugwedeza mutu, kugwira dzanja lawo kapena gawo lina losalowerera m'thupi lawo. Zizindikirozi zikuwonetsa kuti mukuchita nawo zokambiranazi. Itafika nthawi yanu kuti mulankhule, yambani ndi kubwereza kumvetsetsa kwanu zomwe zanenedwa. "Zikumveka kuti pali kukhumudwitsidwa ndi momwe timayendetsera bajeti yathu," ndi chitsanzo cha kumvetsera mwachidwi. Ngati mungafune kumveketsedwa bwino pamfundo iliyonse, mungamupemphe kuti anene kuti “Sindikumvetsa kuti mukutanthauza chiyani kwenikweni. Kodi mungakulitse izi kuti ndimvetse bwino? ”. Izi zili bwino kuposa "Nthawi zonse mumakhala osasamala!"
Kumvetsera ndi luso. Chimodzi mwa zinsinsi za kulumikizana kwabwino kwa maanja chimaphatikizapo kukonza luso lakumvetsera lomwe limathandiza kwambiri kupewa zinthu zazing'ono kuti zisakwere ndikumangomva zomwe mnzanu akunena.
Nenani zomwe mukufuna
Olankhula athanzi samasiya chilichonse mwamwayi; amafotokoza zosowa zawo. Wokondedwa wanu sakonda kuwerenga (monga momwe tikufunira kuti izi zikhale zowona.) Mnzanu akafunsa inu momwe angakuthandizireni, sibwino kunena kuti "O, ndili bwino." pamene kwenikweni, mufunika thandizo kuti, kunena, kuyeretsa mukadya chakudya. Ambiri aife timagwiritsa ntchito njirayi, kenako timayakira mwakachetechete mukawona anzathu akukhala pansi patsogolo pa TV pomwe tatsala kutsuka mbale, zonse chifukwa sitinanene zomwe tikufuna. “Ndimatha kugwiritsa ntchito dzanja posamba; ungakonde kutsuka kapena kuyanika mbale? ” ndi njira yabwino yolongosolera zosowa zanu ndikupatsa mnzanu chisankho pa ntchitoyi. Kumbukirani kuwathokoza chifukwa chothandiza; zithandizira kuwonetsetsa kuti adzakwera mbale nthawi ina popanda kufunsa.
Izi zimafunikiranso zosowa zokhudzana ndi ntchito. Olankhulana athanzi adzanena zomwe amafunikira kuti awalimbikitse; samadikirira kuti wokondedwa wawo aganizire. "Ndikumva kukhala wokhumudwa kwambiri pakadali pano ndipo ndikhoza kukumbatira," ndi njira yosavuta yofunsira kuti muthandizane mutakhala ndi tsiku loipa.
Kuphunzira njira zoyankhulirana bwino kwa maanja ndi njira yotsimikizika yolimbikitsira banja lanu ndikusungabe njira yachikondi. Mudzawona kuti kugwiritsa ntchito maluso awa m'mbali zonse za moyo wanu, kaya kuntchito kapena kunyumba, kudzakupindulitsani kwambiri pokhudzana ndi thanzi lanu.