Zamkati
- Kumvetsetsa chomwe chimatanthauzira chikondi m'banja?
- Chithunzi chowona
- Kukumbukira masiku akale abwino
- Kuwona mtima nthawi zonse kumakhala njira yabwino kwambiri
- 1. Dzidziwe bwino
- 2. Phunzirani kusangalala ndi kukhala nanu
- 3. Dziwonetseni nokha
- Kupanga tanthauzo lachikondi komanso maubale
Zimatengedwa ngati zopanda pake kuti aliyense ndi wachilengedwe pakupanga ndikusunga maubwenzi kapena kutenga nawo mbali pachibwenzi chilichonse. Palibe makalasi ogwirizana kusukulu, makolo athu nawonso alibe nzeru ndipo mayendedwe athu ndi ena amangosiyidwa mwangozi.
Komabe, tonsefe tiyenera kuphunzira kumvetsetsana bwino ndikulankhulana bwino. Umu ndi m'mene tingasangalalire kugawana miyoyo yathu ndi iwo omwe timawakonda ndikumvetsetsa tanthauzo lenileni la chikondi pachibwenzi.
Ndife zopangidwa kuchokera momwe tidaleredwera.
Ubwino wathu waubereki komanso chikhalidwe chathu udalowetsedwa mwa ife tisanadziwe kuzindikira kwathu ndikuweruza. Chifukwa chake, onse adapita molunjika kuti apange maziko a umunthu wathu ndikudziwitsa zisankho ndi machitidwe athu.
Pozindikira, titha kupanga zisankho zathu.
Chifukwa chake, sitifunikiranso kukhala zidole za momwe tidaleredwera ndipo tsopano titha kukhala ndi mphamvu zopanga umunthu wathu, machitidwe athu, moyo wathu momwe timafunira.
Dziwani, anthu ena samadzifunsa mafunso awa ndipo chifukwa chake kuzindikira kwawo kumakhala kochepa ndipo akupitilizabe kukhala ndi zizolowezi, kutha kukhala ndi zotsatira zomwezo ndikukhala 'O! Ndinadabwa nazo.
Kumvetsetsa chomwe chimatanthauzira chikondi m'banja?
Timasankha kupanga ubale ndi munthu chifukwa timawakonda. Timakonda anthu omwe ali ngati ife. Chifukwa chake timakhala limodzi ndikupita patsogolo kudzera muubwenzi woyembekezera kuti nawonso akhale ngati ife m'njira zonse.
Musanadziwe, nthawi yadutsa, kulumikizana kwakula, malonjezo apangidwa ndipo nthawi zina, anthu ena ang'ono amabadwa. Kusamvana kwakanthawi sikunadziwike ndipo mkangano udayiwalika patatha mphindi yayitali yakukondana komanso chidwi.
Chithunzi chowona
Koma, kukondana sikuli bedi la maluwa nthawi zonse. Mukumvetsetsa tanthauzo la chibwenzi? Ubale uli ndi chikondi ndi chidani, mgwirizano, kusagwirizana, kukondana ndi mkwiyo zosakanikirana bwino.
Ngati chibwenzi chanu chitha kupirira nthawi zovuta, ndiye kuti nonse awiri mwazindikira tanthauzo lenileni la chikondi.
Chifukwa chake, musanazindikire (kapena nthawi zina patapita nthawi yayitali), kukondana kumachepa, moto wachikondi umachepa muubwenzi womwe munali nawo kale, ndipo zonse zomwe mwatsala ndi anthu awiri omwe tsopano akuzindikira kusiyana kochulukirachulukira komwe kukuchitika pano ndipo pamenepo.
Zokhumudwitsa zazing'ono zimasanduka zodandaula ndipo ndi nthawi yokwanira ngakhale mkwiyo suli patali. Onjezerani ndi chiyembekezo chochokera kwa mnzanu kuti mukwaniritse malonjezo omwe munapangana wina ndi mnzake komanso kukakamizidwa kwa ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku kungowonjezera pamndandanda.
Vuto limakhala mwa ife osati muubwenzi wathu wachikondi.
Tili ndi chiyembekezo chobadwa kuti machitidwe amzathu azikhala chimodzimodzi kwamuyaya.
Kukumbukira masiku akale abwino
Ingokumbukirani, mukuganiza kwambiri ndi kuyesetsa kotani komwe mwaika pamasiku onse amoyo wanu, makamaka woyamba uja?
Pakapita nthawi, kupaka pulasitala kochuluka kumeneku kudzayamba chifukwa pang'onopang'ono mudzabwerera kwanu komweko. Paubwenzi wokondana, nthawi imeneyi imatchedwa kuti kukondana, kuyandama m'mitambo, gawo lokondwerera ukwati, ndi zina zotero.
Mukadzisinthiranso nokha, mwadzidzidzi zomwe ziyembekezo za mnzanuyo sizingakumane, mikangano imatsatira, ndipo mkwiyo utenga malo achikondi - Nena moni kukhumudwa!
Kuwona mtima nthawi zonse kumakhala njira yabwino kwambiri
Chifukwa chake, kudzikhalira mulimonse momwe zingakhalire kudzakopa anthu omwe angakukondeni momwe muliri osati chifukwa cha omwe mukuyesera kuti mukhale. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zonse 'Takulandirani Kuona Mtima' muubwenzi wanu wachikondi.
Komanso, ngati mukuyesetsa kuchita izi, zikuwonetsa kuti simukusangalala ndi momwe muliri pachibwenzi, kapena mungaganize kuti 'sitikwanira' wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo, kuti mubise "kuwonongeka" uku, mudzayesa kuyeserera. Koma, mukakhumudwa, kusamvana kumabuka. Mwadala kapena ayi, pamapeto pake mutha kunamiza munthu winayo.
Ndiye mukuyembekezera chiyani kuchokera muubwenzi wanu wachikondi ndi wokondedwa wanu? Mwachidziwikire, chikondi ndi mgwirizano kwamuyaya.
Tsopano muchulukitsa magwiridwe awiriwa ndipo chimasiya chipinda chochepa chodabwitsa kuti chibwenzicho sichingachitike monga momwe mudakonzera.
Apa titha kuwona momwe kusakhulupirika ndi kuwona mtima zikusokonezedwera musanakumane ndi munthu wina. Muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali, machitidwe oterewa amawonetsa ngati nsanje, kubera, komanso kusakhulupirira.
Kodi mnyamata kapena mtsikana angatani?
1. Dzidziwe bwino
Ngati simukudziwa kuti ndinu ndani, zosowa zanu ndi zomwe mumakonda, mungadziwe bwanji nokha kwa wina? Ngati simusangalala ndi inu nokha, kodi mukuyembekezeradi wina kuti azisangalala kucheza nanu?
2. Phunzirani kusangalala ndi kukhala nanu
Khalani ndi nthawi yocheza nokha ndikufufuza zolinga zanu ndi zokhumba zanu.
Timakonda kudikirira kuti winawake wapadera atibweretsere zabwino zonse ndikutikonda mopanda malire, koma zonse zimatanthawuza kuti sitingavutike (kapena sindikudziwa momwe tingapangire) kuti tizipukutira tokha ndikufuna wina kuti chitichitireni ife.
3. Dziwonetseni nokha
Pangani kudalira nokha, phunzirani kuyifotokoza ndikuwonetsetsa kuti inu ndi uthenga wanu mukulandilidwa ndi wina momwe mukufunira.
Ndi pamwambapa, mukutsegula njira yolumikizirana ndi munthu wamkati mwanu komanso tsiku lanu, mnzanu, mwana wanu, komanso wodutsa mwa apo ndi apo.
Kupanga tanthauzo lachikondi komanso maubale
Mukakhala pachibwenzi chokhalitsa, kukangana kumachitika, kuwona mtima uku komanso kuthekera kofotokozera zakomweko kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa malingaliro anu pazomwe mukumvazo ndikumvetsetsa za za mnzanuyo.
Chifukwa chake, sangalalani mwamtendere ndikumverera kukondedwa muubwenzi wanu wachikondi.