Zamkati
Monga m'badwo, chibwenzi chimasintha pang'onopang'ono kuchoka pachisangalalo ndi chinthu chosangalatsa ndikukhala chowopsa komanso chosatsimikizika. Ngati mukuwona kuti kukhala pachibwenzi ndi chinthu chophweka komanso chinthu choyenera kuchita chidwi ndi achinyamata anu, mwina simungaganize choncho mutakula. Koma siziyenera kukhala choncho. Inde, zingakhale zovuta kukhala pachibwenzi mutakula, makamaka ngati munthu amene wasudzulana kale, koma sizitanthauza kuti ziyenera kukhala zomwe mumawopa kapena kuzipewa.
Pali magawo achisoni ndi nthawi yofunikira kuti musinthe musanakonzekere kuyambiranso ndipo munthu aliyense ayenera kupyola paulendo wake. Palibe bukhu lamalangizo lachinsinsi lothandizira kuti munthu afupikitse njirayi, ngakhale kungozilumpha zonse. Anzanu ndi abale atha kukhala ndi zolinga zabwino akamakulangizani kuti "pitani kunja uko" ndi "kuyambiranso", koma pali zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kuziganizira musanabwerere mumasewera.
Kuyambira posachedwa
Zolinga zabwino monga ena angakhale, koma kuyamba chibwenzi mukangomaliza chisudzulo chanu sichinthu chomwe chingakuthandizeni mtsogolo. Kwa ena, zitha kutenga malingaliro awo pakadali pano, koma kwa ambiri, ndi ntchito yovuta komanso yosatheka. Ndipo ndizomveka ngati mutaziwona moyenera.
Anthu omwe atha kusudzulana amatha kukhala osatsimikizika, osakonzekera kapena osafuna kuyamba chibwenzi china. Ndipo sikuti aliyense ndi wofunitsitsa kapena wokhoza kungocheza popanda cholinga m'maganizo kapena chiyembekezo chilichonse chamtsogolo. M'malo mwake, amawopa kuti ayenera kuyambiranso ndi munthu wosadziwika yemwe sangakhale chisankho choyenera paubwenzi wanthawi yayitali. Kapenanso mwina sangadziwe komwe angayambire kapena momwe angachitire zimenezo. Kubwereranso pamasewerawa, monga ena angatchulire, sichinthu chomwe munthu amene wakhala "osasewera" kwazaka zingapo ali m'banja angabwerere mosavuta.
Musanayesenso kukhala pachibwenzi, zinthu zina ziyenera kuthandizidwa kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso lokwaniritsa.
Fotokozani momveka bwino
Choyambirira, onetsetsani kuti muli ndi malingaliro omveka bwino pazomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe simukufuna kuchokera kwa omwe mudzakhale naye pabanja ndikukhazikitsa zomwe "Ayi" pachibwenzi chanu. Ngati simungathe ngakhale kuyankha yankho pafunso lililonse zikuwonekeratu kuti mumafunikira nthawi ndi malo musanayese kucheza ndi wina. Pokhapokha mutatha kufotokozera zomwe mumakonda ndi zomwe mungafune kuchokera kwa munthu wina ndi zomwe muyenera kupereka pobwezera, kuyesaku kukulephera ndipo pamapeto pake kudzakupangitsani kuti musafune kuyesa kuchita zibwenzi mtsogolo.
Chachiwiri, khalani oona mtima ndi inu nokha. Kodi mungatenge chidwi chochepa kwambiri kapena chilimbikitso chodziwira ndikusamalira wina? Simusowa kukhala otsimikiza za izi 100%, koma muyenera, osachepera, kupeza chibwenzi ngati chinthu choyenera kuyesanso. Malingana ngati mtima wanu ndi malingaliro anu ali odzaza ndi malingaliro ndi nkhawa zokhudzana ndi mbali zina za moyo wanu, chiyembekezo chokhala ndi zibwenzi chimangokhala chokhumudwitsa.
Kumvera wokondedwa wanu
Pomaliza, musakhale pachibwenzi ngati mumakondabe bwenzi lanu lakale. Ndipo mawu oti 'kukhudzika mtima' samangotanthauza kukhudzika kwachikondi, komanso kudana, kukwiya kapena ena ochokera mbali yakuda. Kuti muyambe chinthu choyenera kuyambitsa, muyenera kumverera kuti simulowerera ndale ndi mnzanu wakale. Kulowa muubwenzi watsopano muli ndi malingaliro okondana ndi okondedwa wanu kumangochepetsa zomwe mumakumana nazo munjira zoyipa kwambiri. Zitha kubweretsa kutaya munthu woyeneradi kukhala naye pachibwenzi chatsopano.
Nthawi zambiri, njira yotsimikizika yopewera zovuta zambiri zomwe zimadza ndikubwereranso kwa munthu yemwe wasudzulana pachibwenzi ndikukhazikitsa mayendedwe. Palibe chinthu chonga kupewa maubwenzi amtundu uliwonse kwa zaka zingapo kuti mukhale ndi chibwenzi chatsopano. Palibe chitsimikizo cha kuchita bwino ngakhale mutatenga njira yotani. Kuganizira zodzichiritsa nokha ndikupezanso chidaliro chanu ndiyo njira yokhayo yopezera tsogolo lachikondi labwino. Kwa ena zimatha kutenga chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri pomwe kwa ena izi zitha kukhala zazitali. Kuphunzira kukhala ndi moyo watsopano mukalekana si sayansi ndipo mwatsoka sangaphunzitsidwe. Ndipo, pamapeto pake, ndi nkhani yongoyerekeza.