Zamkati
Mwambi wina wakale umati, “Chinsinsi cha mtima wa munthu ndi kudzera m'mimba mwake.” Ndipo timadabwa chifukwa chomwe chiwonetsero cha zisudzulo chikukulirakulirabe. Chifukwa chimodzi chotheka, malinga ndi kafukufuku wanga, ndikuti maanja sakugonana kochepa m'zaka za zana la 21 kuposa kale.
Zilakalaka zazikulu kwambiri zachilengedwe zomwe zimadziwika ndi abambo ndi amai ndi chakudya ndi kugonana. Chidandaulo chachikulu kuchokera kwa abambo omwe amabwera kuzomwe ndimachita ndichani? Kuti sakugonana mokwanira ndi akazi awo. Mkazi akafunsidwa zomwe amaganiza pafupipafupi zogonana, yankho lodziwika limakhala kuti, "Amafuna kugonana kwambiri, sindine makina."
Monga sing'anga wamwamuna yemwe amamvetsetsa bwino khumbo lachibadwa la amuna logonana, ndimakonda kumufotokozera mkaziyo kapena zofunikira, kuti chidwi cha amuna anu chogonana sichosiyana ndi chidwi chanu chodyera.
Makasitomala anga achikazi nthawi zambiri amawoneka osokonezeka, ndipo nthawi yomweyo amafunsa kuti, "Kodi akufuna kuti tigonane ndi ine kufuna chakudya tikufanana bwanji?" Nayi tanthauzo limodzi:
Amuna wamba komanso ukalamba wake amafotokozedwa ndi luso lakugonana. Pa nthawi yogonana komanso kugonana, amuna amakhala mikango ndi ogonjetsa, omwe sachita chilichonse kuti atenge mpando wachifumu.
Mpando wachifumuwo umapangidwa ndi umunthu wake komanso chikhulupiriro chabodza chakuti umuna wake umafotokozedwa ndimachitidwe ake ogonana, kuchuluka kwakugonana, komanso kukongola kwa mzimayi yemwe wamupatsa mwayi wolowa mnyumbayo.
Pokambirana, abambo samamvetsetsa kufunikira kwa chakudya pamoyo wamayi. Palibe azimayi ambiri omwe akuyenda padziko lapansi omwe angasankhe kugonana m'malo mwa chakudya chomwe amakonda.
Kodi pali kulumikizana kotani pakati pa amayi ndi chakudya?
Kodi nchifukwa ninji akazi amakonda chakudya kwambiri? Mayankho ake amachokera kuti "Ndizosangalatsa ndipo amandiika pamalo anga achimwemwe." Kuti, "Zakudya sizidzandigwetsa ulesi, ndipo ndikudziwa ndendende zomwe ndikuluma." Malinga ndi a Foodie Lolita M. Newell, "Chakudya chimandipangitsa kumva bwino, ndimakonda chakudya, chimandipangitsa kumveketsa, komanso chimasangalatsa moyo wanga. Zimalimbikitsa malingaliro anga, thupi, ndi mzimu. Chakudya chabwino chimakhala chosangalatsa, pomwe kugonana ndi gawo lokhazikika. ”
Buku la mutu wakuti “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus,” likhoza kuloŵedwa m’malo ndi lakuti, “Akazi ali pa Chakudya, monga Amuna Amachitira Kugonana.”
Ngati maanja akufuna maubwenzi okhalitsa, abambo ndi amai ayenera kumvetsetsa ndikuvomereza kusiyanasiyana kotereku. Mwamunayo akuvomereza kuti mkazi wake akudziwa kuti palibe chomwe angagone naye kuposa iye kukhitchini akukonzekera chakudya chomwe akufuna. Amawona izi ngati "zophatikizana."
Adzagonjetsa zilakolako zake zachilengedwe zazikulu usiku umodzi. Mosiyana kwambiri ndi mwamuna wake.
Mwamuna akufuna kugonana kopatsa chidwi (m'kamwa kuphatikizira momwe zimamusangalalira) ndipo pomwe amakhala mwamtendere, chakudya choyenera chimamuyika mwana, kwinaku akuyamwa chala chake chachikulu ndikumagona. Malinga ndi omwe amadziwika kuti ndi a Sex Savant a Maurice Turner, "Chakudya chachikulu ndichinthu chomwe mungapeze mwachangu kuchokera kulikonse, komanso nthawi iliyonse, pomwe kugonana kwakukulu sichinthu chomwe mungapeze pafupipafupi, zimangokhudza nthawi ndi mnzako wogonana, pomwe chakudya chabwino chimaperekedwa nthawi zonse. ”
Ngati ndingapangitse maanja kumvetsetsa kufanana kwa chakudya ndi kugonana kwa amayi ndi abambo, motsatana, ndikukhulupirira kuti maubale atha kukhala ogwirizana ndipo amatha kukhala nthawi yayitali. Kuzindikira malingaliro a mnzanu pankhani iliyonse ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ogwirizana.
Nazi chakudya chachikulu komanso zogonana - usikuuno! Njala!