Zamkati
- Kodi ubwenzi ndi chiyani?
- Zinthu 3 zofunika kutsatira
- Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi koyamba ndikumverera
- Zochita zachiwiri ndizoyamika
- Zochita zomaliza ndi pemphero
Tiyeni tikambirane momwe mungakhalire msanga m'banja lanu. Ngati muli pachibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali kapena muukwati, mutha kukhala pachibwenzi. Tiyeni tifotokozere zaubwenzi kwakanthawi. Kutanthauzira kwachikale, "Mwa ine onani," ndichabwino kwambiri. Zimatanthauza kulumikiza mitima yanu pamodzi, kukhala okhoza kumvetsera ndi kumva mitima ya wina ndi mnzake. Chimenecho ndiye chibwenzi chenicheni mukakhala ndi anzanu otere. Ndinakwatiwa ndi mzanga wapamtima Lisa. Takhala m'banja zaka makumi atatu ndi chimodzi tsopano. Alidi bwenzi langa lapamtima. Amamva mtima wanga. Ndikumva mtima wake. Sitimagwirizana nthawi zonse koma timavomereza kumva ndipo tikangomva, zimapangitsa zinthu kukhala zamphamvu komanso zabwino. Tili ndi zida zomwe takhala tikugwiritsa ntchito kwazaka zopitilira makumi atatu tsiku lililonse zomwe ndikugawana nanu.
Kodi ubwenzi ndi chiyani?
Ubwenzi ndi zotsatira. Sizibwera chifukwa ndiwe wokongola. Sichikhala chifukwa choti ndiwe wokongola, wopeza bwino, kapena wowonda. Mutha kukhala zinthu zonsezi komanso zochulukirapo osakhala ndiubwenzi m'banja lanu, chifukwa kukondana ndi chifukwa chazomwe mukudziwa. Mu chikhalidwe chakumadzulo, timakonda kuti zinthu zichitike nthawi yomweyo. Tikufuna kukankha batani ndikukhala owonda. Tikufuna kukankha batani kuti tikhale olemera. Nthawi iliyonse mukafuna kusintha moyo wanu, mumasintha machitidwe anu.
Simupeza kusintha pokhapokha mutasintha. Mukapitilizabe kuchita zomwezo, mupitiliza kupeza zotsatira zomwezo. Zinthu izi zimadziwika kwa inu. Ndikudziwa ndikamafuna kusintha ndiyenera kuwunika maphunziro omwe ndiyenera kutsatira kuti ndipeze zosintha. Ngati ndikufuna thanzi, ndiyenera kusintha zinthu. Ngati ndikufuna kukondana muukwati wanga, kapena ubale wanthawi yayitali, ndiyenera kukhala ndi machitidwe omwe amapanga zotsatirazi.
Zinthu 3 zofunika kutsatira
Mukachita ma daili atatuwa, ndikukutsimikizirani, ngakhale m'masabata angapo, mudzamva kuti muli pafupi ndi mnzanu. Mumakonda mnzanu wabwino ndipo mudzakhala ogwirizana. Ndikutsimikizira izi chifukwa ndakhala ndi maanja omwe sanagonepo zaka makumi awiri, ndipo patatha milungu ingapo akuchita zinthu zitatuzi, amakondana mokwanira kuti agone. Zimasinthiratu ubale wanu, koma ndi ntchito, WOC. Ngati mukufunitsitsa kugwira ntchitoyi, mutha kukhala ndi zotsatira zake. Lembani izi penapake. Dzipangeni nokha kuyankha pa kalendala tsiku lililonse. Mwinamwake dzipatseni nokha zotsatira ngati simukutsatira. Mwina mumakakamizika kuchita zinthu zina zing'onozing'ono kuti muyambe kulandira malangizowo muukwati ndiubwenzi wanu, chifukwa maukwati ambiri amakhazikika pamalingaliro. Maanja samalangizidwa momwe amalumikizirana wina ndi mnzake ndipo chifukwa cha ichi, ali ndi maubwenzi osasamalika komanso maubwenzi ochepera thanzi.
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi koyamba ndikumverera
Kuzindikira ndikulankhula zakukhosi ndi luso. Luso lingaphunzire ndi aliyense. Ndikhoza kuchitira umboni ndekha komanso aliyense. Ndawona maanja ambiri omwe akulira luso lakuzindikira ndikulankhula zakukhosi kwawo.
Ponena za Mndandanda Wamomwe Tikukutumizirani, pamwamba patsamba pali malangizo atatu omwe muyenera kutsatira. Nambala yoyamba ndi palibe zitsanzo za wina ndi mzake. Chifukwa chake mukamafotokozera zakukhosi kwanu, simumati, "Ndimakhumudwa mukama ..." Mutha kukhumudwitsidwa ndi ana, agalu, zigawenga, ndale, zipolowe, china chilichonse m'moyo wanu kupatula mnzanu. Nambala thuu, yang'anani maso, ndichofunika kwambiri. Anthu ambiri samayang'anitsitsananso m'maso. Nambala firi-palibe ndemanga. Chifukwa chake simukunena, “O, sindikumvetsa. Sindikumvetsa. Kukumba mozama, ndiuze zambiri. ” Palibe zonsezi — mukungomumvera mnzanuyo akumva chimodzimodzi.
Mwachisawawa lembani chala chanu pamndandanda wazomwe mukumva. Boom. Chabwino, mwafika pa "bata." Tsopano papepala lanu pali ziganizo ziwiri, "Ndimakhala wodekha pamene ... ndimakumbukira koyamba ndikumakhala bata ndik ..."
Mumachita izi ndendende masiku 90. Pambuyo pake, ingokhalani ndi malingaliro awiri kuyambira tsiku lanu, koma zimatenga masiku 90 kuti mumve kuwerenga. Ngati mukufuna kufulumizitsa izi, buku la "Emotional Fitness" lingakuthandizireni kukulitsa malingaliro.
Zochita zachiwiri ndizoyamika
Ganizirani zinthu ziwiri zomwe mumakonda, monga, kapena kuyamika za mnzanu. Atengereni pamutu panu. Ameneyo ali ngati ping pong. Mumachita chimodzi, mnzanu amachita chimodzi, inu mumachita chimodzi, ndipo mnzanu amachita chimodzi. Mwachitsanzo, "Ndimakonda kwambiri kuti mudali anzeru kwambiri pothetsera vutoli." Kenako ayenera kunena kuti zikomo. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Muyenera kunena kuti zikomo kuti mulole matamando alowe. Anthu ambiri amatamandidwa koma salola kuti zilowemo, chifukwa chake akaunti yawo imakhala yoperewera chifukwa sakulola ndalama zomwe zili mu akauntiyi. Wina akatamanda, winayo amayenera kunena kuti zikomo.
Zochita zomaliza ndi pemphero
Kaya mukukula bwanji mwauzimu, chitani zomwezo. Ngati mulibe imodzi, ingonena kuti, “Mulungu, timangofunika kuti tizipemphera. Zikomo kwambiri lero. Zikomo chifukwa cha mkazi wanga. Zikomo kwambiri chifukwa cha banja langa. ” Ndikokwanira, mukufuna kulowa mukulumikizana kwamtundu wina wauzimu chifukwa muli ndi mzimu koma momwe mumawonetsera izi kapena mumakumana nazo, mumafuna kuchitira limodzi. Ndikukuwuzani machitidwe atatu awa: kumva ziwiri, matamando awiri, ndi pemphero, kusinkhasinkha (kulumikizana, mtundu wina wamalumikizidwe auzimu) tsiku lililonse limakhala langizo. Tsiku lililonse, inu ndi mnzanu mukukambirana zakukhosi kwanu. Mukumana ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu ngati munthu wotetezeka kwambiri. Popita nthawi, mumayamba kunena kuti, "Mkazi wanga ali bwino. Nditha kuuza mnzanga zakukhosi kwanga. ”
Zomwe zimachitika ndikuti mumayamba kuyandikira ndikuyandikira kwambiri. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti patatha masiku makumi asanu ndi anayi mutha kuyika mndandanda wazomvera. Lisa ndi ine takhala tikugawana malingaliro awiri kuyambira tsiku lathu tsiku lililonse. Timadziwana bwino ndipo timakhalabe abwenzi chifukwa abwenzi amagawana momwe akumvera.