Zamkati
- 1. Kuphunzira maluso atsopano a ubale
- 2. Kuyankhula za zinthu zofunika kale
- 3. Kusintha kulumikizana
- 4. Kupewa kusudzulana
- 5. Maganizo osalowerera ndale ndi chitsogozo
- 6. Kuthetsa mavuto asanakhale ovuta
Tisanayambe kugula zodzikongoletsera kapena mankhwala, timaonetsetsa kuti tifunsa malingaliro a ena ndikudzifufuza tokha. Mofananamo, palibe cholakwika kupeza malingaliro, ndikukambirana pazokhudza maubwenzi, makamaka ngati mukufuna kuti ubalewo ukhale kwamuyaya. Ndi kuchuluka kwa zisudzulo, tikuwona kuti pali maanja ambiri omwe amayembekezera zosiyana ndi kusamvetsetsa zambiri ukwati usanachitike. Kusamvana uku sikuwoneka kowonekera mu 'nthawi yachisangalalo' popeza maanja ali pachibwenzi, koma pakapita nthawi, sizitenga nthawi kuti athane ndi zovuta zaubwenzi kotero kuti onse awiri amayamba kulingalira zosudzulana.
Poyamba, aliyense ali ndi chiyembekezo chambiri chokhudza ubale wawo. Onsewo akuti 'tili okondwa limodzi' ndipo 'palibe chomwe chingatilekanitse', kapena 'palibe chomwe chingalakwika'. Komabe, muyenera kuzindikira kuti ngakhale chokoleti chokoma kwambiri chimabwera ndi tsiku lotha ntchito, ndipo ngakhale chisangalalo chachikulu pamayanjano onse chitha kugwa popanda chidwi, kukonzekera ndi kugulitsa.
Uphungu usanalowe m'banja ungakhale wothandiza kwa inu ndi mnzanu. Nazi njira 6 zomwe zingathandizire:
1. Kuphunzira maluso atsopano a ubale
Mlangizi asanakwatirane sadzakuwunikirani chabe ndi chidziwitso chawo, komanso akuphunzitsani njira zina zothandizira kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino. Ngakhale mabanja osangalala kwambiri amamenya nkhondo ndipo sizachilendo. Koma momwe mumathana ndi kusamvana ndikupita patsogolo ndi moyo ndizofunika kwambiri. Chifukwa chake kuti athane ndi kusamvana, muyenera kuphunzira njira zothetsera kusamvana. Mwanjira imeneyi, muchepetsa zokambirana zanu ndikusandutsa zokambirana zambiri.
Mavuto amabwera pamene maanja atenga njira zolakwika zothanirana ndi mikangano monga kuchoka, kunyozana, kudzitchinjiriza, ndikudzudzula. Uphungu usanalowe m'banja udzaonetsetsa kuti musapitilize izi ndikulimbikitsa kulumikizana bwino.
2. Kuyankhula za zinthu zofunika kale
Ndi ana angati omwe mukukonzekera kukhala nawo, nsanje komanso zoyembekezera - zinthu izi zimayenera kulankhulidwa mokweza, kuti maanja amvetsetse, ndikupeza njira zothanirana ndi izi ngati zingachitike. Miyezi ingapo mutalowa m'banja, simukufuna kudzuka modzidzimutsa kuti mwakwatirana ndi "wolakwika" kapena ndi munthu wosagwirizana.
3. Kusintha kulumikizana
Kuyankhulana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri muubwenzi uliwonse, ndipo mlangizi wanu asanakwatirane adzakuthandizani kuti muzichita bwino ndi mnzanu. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti inu kapena mnzanu simumatha kuwerenga malingaliro. Chifukwa chake ngati mwakwiya, musalole kuti zizikukhalirani, kapena choyipa, ziziphulika mokweza. M'malo mwake, pezani njira yabwino yofotokozera zakukhosi kwanu komanso zosowa zanu kuti ubale wanu ukhale wathanzi komanso wowona mtima. Kulira mokweza sikunathetse vuto lililonse, ndipo lanu silikhala losiyana. Chifukwa chake phunzirani njira yolankhulirana musanalowe m'banja, ndipo pewani ndewu.
4. Kupewa kusudzulana
Ntchito yayikulu komanso yofunikira ya upangiri musanakwatirane ndikupanga njira zabwino zomwe zingapewe kusudzulana. Zimathandiza maanja kumanga mgwirizano wolimba, ndikukhulupilirana. Mwanjira imeneyi, njira zawo zoyankhulirana sizoyipa ndipo zimawathandiza kuthetsa mavuto molongosoka. Anthu omwe amakwatirana ndikupita kukalandira upangiri asanakwatirane amakhala ndi mwayi wopambana 30% komanso mabanja osudzulana ochepa kuposa omwe sanatero (Kufufuza kwa Meta komwe kunachitika mu 2003 komwe kunatchedwa "Kufufuza Kupambana kwa Ntchito Zopewera Ukwati")
5. Maganizo osalowerera ndale ndi chitsogozo
Musanalowe m'banja, muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro akunja kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe alibe tsankho komanso wotseguka kwathunthu. Aphungu angakuuzeni momwe mumakhalira ogwirizana komanso okhazikika m'maganizo ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikukulangizani za kuthana ndi zovuta. Kuphatikiza apo, mumakhala ndi mwayi wolankhula nawo ndikufunsani chilichonse popanda kuwopa kuweruzidwa.
6. Kuthetsa mavuto asanakhale ovuta
Nthawi zambiri, anthu samalankhula za 'bwanji ngati' zochitika. Amakhulupirira kuti zisokoneza ubale wawo, komanso kuti ndi njira yopanda chiyembekezo yoyambira. Koma, izi sizowona. Pokambirana za izi, mutha kupeza zovuta zomwe zingakhale zovuta mtsogolo, ndikuyang'ana mayankho awo pasadakhale.
Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuwona maubale abwino akusandulika, chikondi chikusunthira kunyalanyaza, ndipo izi zonse zitha kupewedwa ndi kuyesetsa pang'ono komanso upangiri usanakwatirane. Poyamba, zovuta zonsezi ndizosavuta kusamalira. Komabe, pakadutsa nthawi komanso umbuli, izi zimangolimbanirana ndipo maanja amadzifunsa kuti chikondi chawo chonse chapita kuti. Uphungu asanalowe m'banja ndi chisankho chanzeru kwa banja lililonse. Mukangopezekako mwachangu, ndiye kuti mudzatsogozedwa kuti mupange ubale wabwino komanso wachimwemwe. Chifukwa chake pemphani upangiri osati pakakhala vuto chabe, komanso kuti muthane ndi mavuto omwe abwera koyambirira.