Zamkati
- Chochita, koti muyang'ane
- Sinthani ma BFF anu
- Kusankha mwayi waluso
- Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira
- Chotsatira nchiyani?
- Zimatha bwanji?
Chigololo. Kubera kwa AKA, kunyalanyaza kawiri, kuchita zibwenzi, kumangoyenda pambali, pang'ono pambali, kusakhulupirika, kusakhulupirika, ndipo mwina mathedwe ena khumi ndi awiri pazomwe ndichimodzi mwazinthu zoopsa kwambiri zomwe zitha kuchitika muukwati.
Chigololo chingakhale chimodzi mwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri zomwe munthu angakumane nazo. Ndipo sizachilendo, mwatsoka. Ziwerengero zodalirika ndizosatheka kusonkhanitsa, koma kuyerekezera kukuwonetsa kuti pafupifupi maukwati atatu amakhudzidwa ndi m'modzi kapena onse awiri akunyengana.
Chifukwa chake tinene kuti zoyipa kwambiri zimakuchitikirani. Mukuganiza kuti banja lanu ndi lolimba komanso losangalala kwa inu ndi mnzanu. Mukudutsa masiku anu mosangalala ndipo mwanjira ina mumapeza umboni kuti zonse sizomwe mumaganizira.
M'masiku akale, umboniwo ukhoza kukhala chiphaso, cholembedwa m'buku la deti, zokambirana zomwe mwamva mwangozi, koma tsopano chigololo ndikosavuta kubisa, chifukwa zimatenga nthawi kuti mupeze mnzanuyo akuchita zachinyengo.
Tekinoloje yathandizira anthu omwe amanamiza anzawo okwatirana kuti abise zomwe akuchita, komanso kuti apezeke ndi okwatirana omwe ali ndi chidziwitso chazanema.
Ndipo mwapeza, titi, mndandanda wa zolemba ndi zithunzi pakati pa wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu wina zomwe zikuwonetseratu kuti banja lanu silomwe mumaganizira. Anthu ena apeza ubale wachigololo pa Facebook, Instagram komanso m'malo ena ochezera.
Chochita, koti muyang'ane
Pambuyo podzidzimutsa ndikupeza kukangana ndi bwenzi lanu lachinyengo, nonse muganiza kuti mukufuna kupulumutsa ukwati.
Simunayambe mwakhalapo kale, mwina mungasokonezeke pazomwe mungasankhe komanso komwe mungapite.
Pali zinthu zambiri pankhani yopulumutsa banja lanu pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika: Poyamba, pali makanema a Youtube, ma podcast, masamba awebusayiti, ndi mabuku.
Vuto ndiloti mtundu wazidziwitso zomwe zimaperekedwa zimatha kusiyanasiyana ndi balderdash ndi zamkhutu mpaka zothandiza komanso zomveka, koma kuzindikira kusiyanasiyana kungakhale kovuta kwa anthu ena, makamaka munthawi yovutayi.
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Zachidziwikire, pali abwenzi anu, anthu achipembedzo ngati mukusamala, komanso pali akatswiri omwe amaphunzitsidwa komanso odziwa zambiri pothandiza anthu omwe akukumana nawo kapena omwe adachitapo chigololo posachedwa kapena m'mbuyomu. Akatswiriwa amapatsidwa mayina osiyanasiyana: alangizi am'banja, othandizira mabanja, alangizi a mabanja, othandizira maubwenzi ndi kusiyanasiyana komweku.
Sinthani ma BFF anu
Anzanu atha kukhala dalitso munthawi yovutayi, koma amathanso kukupatsani upangiri woyipa chifukwa sangakhale acholinga. Amatha kukhala abwino pakulimbikitsa pamakhalidwe komanso phewa lofuulira.
Koma, nthawi zambiri kungakhale bwino kufunsa alangizi othandizira mabanja kuti muwone ngati mungakwanitse ndipo muyenera kuyambiranso banja lanu.
Kusankha mwayi waluso
Inu ndi mnzanu mwaganiza zopempha akatswiri kuti awone momwe mungathetsere zopweteketsa zomwe zachitika. Kodi mungasankhe bwanji katswiri yemwe angakuthandizeni nonse kuthana ndi chigololo?
Musanayambe kuyang'ana, onetsetsani kuti onse akudzipereka kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ndi chisamaliro chofunikira pakukonzekera banja mothandizidwa ndi katswiri. Ngati nonse simuli odzipereka, mukuwononga nthawi ndi ndalama.
Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira
Iyi ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri, ndipo kupanga chisankho chofunikira chopeza upangiri sikophweka.
Koma mutapanga chisankho, izi ndi zina mwazinthu zomwe muyenera kuganizira mukamafunafuna mlangizi wazokwatirana yemwe angakuthandizeni pambuyo pa chigololo kulowa m'banja lanu.
- Zizindikiro za mlangizi. Onani zomwe oyambitsa onse amatanthauza (pambuyo pa dzina la wothandizira).
- Mukaimba foni ku ofesi ya wothandizira, funsani mafunso. Ngati ogwira ntchito kuofesi akukana kupereka mayankho athunthu, tengani ngati chenjezo la mbendera yofiira.
- Kodi wothandizira okwatirana wakhala akugwira ntchito kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji? Kodi akumanapo ndi nkhani zokhudzana ndi chigololo?
- Funsani mtengo. Kodi ndi gawo limodzi? Kodi pali sikelo yotsetsereka? Kodi inshuwaransi yanu imalipira chilichonse mwazovuta zake?
- Kodi gawo lililonse limatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji? Kodi pamakhala magawo angapo?
- Kodi nonse mumafuna othandiza kapena othandizira? Nthawi zina, maanja amayamba ndi othandizira kenako kupita kwa othandizira.
- Ngati mukupita kwa asing'anga, kodi munthu ameneyo adzakhala wopanda tsankho? Mlangizi wa maukwati akuyenera kuwamvera chisoni anthu onsewa kuti alimbikitse zokambirana zabwino.
- Kodi mlangizi wa maukwati amavomereza chiphunzitso chimodzi cha kuyanjanitsidwa ndi kuchiritsidwa kapena ali ndi mwayi wopereka upangiri wa chigololo?
Chotsatira nchiyani?
Inu ndi mnzanu mudapanga chisankho chofunikira chokaonana ndi mlangizi wamaukwati. Mukuyembekezera chiyani nthawi yomwe mumakhala ndi mlangizi?
Nthawi zambiri, wothandizira okwatirana adzafuna kudziwa mbiri yaubwenzi wanu kuchokera kwa onse awiri ngati poyambira. Onse awiri akambirana zomwe akuganiza kuti zidapangitsa kuti achite chiwerewere komanso chifukwa chomwe akuganiza kuti zidachitika.
Izi zitha kukhala zotopetsa, koma ndikofunikira kuti onse awiri apite patsogolo ndikupezanso kukhulupirirana.
Magawo sayenera kukhala kufuula mothandizana ndiuphungu ngati wotsutsa. M'malo mwake, mlangizi akuyenera kufunsa mafunso oganiza bwino omwe amafotokoza zakukhosi kwake ndikukhazikitsa malo omwe aliyense angathe kulankhula momasuka.
Cholinga chimodzi cha upangiri wachigololo ndikuti kudalirana kumangidwanso muubwenzi. Pamene — ndipo ngati — izo zikuchitika, banjali lili paulendo wopita ku chiyanjanitso chenicheni.
Katswiri wothandiza adzagwira ntchito ndi banjali kuti awunike zizolowezi zakale ndi machitidwe kuti awone ngati zina mwa izi zathandizira kuti achite chigololo.
Akangodziwa zovuta zomwe zingabwerere ku njira zakale zomwe zilipo, onse atha kugwira ntchito molimbika kuti apewe mayendedwe omwe adayambitsa kusakhulupirika.
Zimatha bwanji?
Palibe nthawi yoikika yomwe upangiri wabanja uyenera kutenga. Banja lililonse ndi losiyana, monganso othandizira. Wothandizira adzakupatsani lingaliro la kupita patsogolo komwe mukukula mukamalimbana naye mavuto am'banja. Pamapeto pake komanso moyenera, upangiri wokhudza chigololo wothandiza banja kuthana ndi chinyengo kumawapangitsa banjali kudzipereka, kudalirana ndi kukondana.