Zamkati
- Kulankhulana ndi mnzanu
- Palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi polankhulana za kugonana
- Mungafunike thandizo lina nthawi yoyamba
- Mukuda nkhawa ndi kukonzekera kwanu?
- Bwanji ngati simungathe kukonzekera, kapena kuchirikiza?
- Chitani mwachifatse
Ngati ndinu namwali amene mukukwatira, sikuti mukungokhalira kutsindika za tsatanetsatane waukwatiwo, komanso zokhudzana ndi kugonana komweko.
Kodi ndikwanitsa kuchita? Kodi ndipangitsa mnzanga kukhala wosangalala? Kodi akuyembekezera chiyani? Zanga ndi chiyani? Muli ndi mafunso ambiri omwe amayenda mozungulira m'malingaliro anu.
Nawa maupangiri amuna achimuna okwatirana usiku omwe angakuthandizeni kuti ndimeyi isakhale yopanikiza ndipo mwachiyembekezo ikhale chochitika chosangalatsa.
Kulankhulana ndi mnzanu
Inu ndi mnzanu simunakhalepo pachibwenzi chogonana ndipo mumakhala ndi nkhawa zaukwati wanu.
Zikuwoneka kuti alinso wamanjenje. Funafunani nthawi yomwe muli nanu awiri, ndipo kambiranani za momwe nonse mumamvera. Yesani kuzindikira mtundu wa mantha anu.
Kodi mukuchita mantha chifukwa ali ndi chidziwitso koma inu simukudziwa?
Ngati ndinu namwali, ndipo iyenso ndi namwali, malangizo ena a usiku waukwati angakhale kumufunsa ngati akuwopa zowawa zilizonse zomwe zingachitike atagonana koyamba. (Mutsimikizireni kuti mudzakhala wofatsa komanso kumamumvera nthawi zonse akamakufunsani kuti muyime kapena muchepetse.) Fotokozerani kuti mukuyembekezera kuti mwina simungathe kusewera, kapena, m'malo mwake, mutha kufika pachimake msanga kuti mumukhutiritse.
Kwa abambo osakwatirana, kuyika mantha anu onse kunja kumathandizira kuwafalitsa ndikulola yemwe adzakhale mkazi wanu kuyankha ndi mawu otonthoza (ndikufotokozerani nkhawa zake).
Kuyankhulana kotere ndikofunikira kwa amuna osakwatirana, komanso masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe mungasinthireko nthawi zina m'moyo wanu wapabanja pomwe mudzafunika kulankhulana zakukhosi.
Palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi polankhulana za kugonana
Uyu akhala mnzanu wapamtima.
Sizachilendo kuti inu nonse muzikhala ndi zokambirana zambiri pamutuwu m'banja mwanu. Ndipo ndicho chinthu chabwino! Kugonana ndi gawo labwino kwambiri m'banja ndipo mudzafuna kukhala omasuka kuyankhulana mutuwu nthawi zonse.
Mungafunike thandizo lina nthawi yoyamba
Ngati nonse muli anamwali, mungafune kukhala ndi thumba kapena botolo la mafuta odzola poyimilira usiku, kapena "lube" monga momwe amachitchulira maanja, kotero thandizani izi kuti zisamapweteke akazi anu.
Kwa abambo osakwatirana, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti si amayi onse omwe azimva kuwawa kapena kutuluka magazi pogonana koyambirira, makamaka ngati wachita masewera othamanga kapena adagwiritsa ntchito zipsera kapena zoseweretsa zakugonana. Izi zidzasokoneza nyengoyi, yomwe ndi nembanemba yomwe imakuta pang'ono kulowa kwa akazi mwa anamwali.
Monga mwamuna namwali, muyenera kudziwa kuti nyimbo zimasweka mosavuta ndi tampon kapena kugwiritsa ntchito chidole chogonana ngati samatuluka magazi mukangogona limodzi, sizikuwonetsa kuti si namwali.
Kugwiritsa ntchito mafuta opangira mafuta kumathandiza kuti zinthu ziziyenda bwino komanso kuti muzisangalala. Osazengereza kuyikanso ngati kuli kofunikira.
Mukuda nkhawa ndi kukonzekera kwanu?
Sizachilendo kuti abambo osakwatiwa azikhala ndi nkhawa ndi momwe amakhudzidwira. Kuyeserera kusanachitike tsiku lofunikira ndi imodzi mwamalangizo ofunikira usiku woyamba kuti musangalale ndikupanga chikondi.
Chodetsa nkhaŵa kwambiri pakati pa amuna namwali chikufika pachimake posachedwa, ndipo osatha kukhala nthawi yokwanira kubweretsa mnzanu pachimake. Ngati mwazolowera kudzisangalatsa nokha, mungafune kuchita izi pafupi ndi tsiku laukwati kotero kuti mukhale kanthawi kochepa kuposa momwe simunafikire kwakanthawi.
Ndipo ngati mumachita chiwerewere mwachangu kwambiri, palibe vuto lalikulu. Ino ndi nthawi yanu yoyamba kugona ndi mkazi, ndipo ndizosangalatsa. Muuzeni ndendende izi, kuti amvetsetse kuti mumamupeza wokongola komanso wokongola. Kenako dikirani pang'ono, ndikuyesanso. Mudzadabwitsidwa ndi momwe mudzabwezeretsere kukondana mutatha chiwonetsero choyamba.
Chimodzi mwamalangizo ofunikira kwa anamwali achimuna ndikuti kukumbukira kuti nthawi yachiwiri idzakhala yabwinoko; mutenga nthawi yayitali ndikukhala olimba mtima popeza mudachitapo kale izi kale!
Bwanji ngati simungathe kukonzekera, kapena kuchirikiza?
Momwe mungakonzekerere usiku waukwati ngati mumakhala ndi nkhawa yoti simukukhazikika kapena kuthandizira? Dziwani kuti izi zitha kuchitika nthawi yanu yoyamba.
Dongosolo lamanjenje limakhala lovuta, ndipo ngati mukuda nkhawa za nthawi yoyamba iyi, mbolo yanu ikhoza kumamvera manthawo ndikukusiyani pansi.
Malangizo kwa anamwali? Kumbukirani, sichinthu chachikulu. Osangokhala amuna okhaokha, koma ngakhale anthu odziwa zambiri.
Chotsani kukakamiza nonse awiri, ndikupanga china.
Malangizo ozizira aamwali? Mutha kuwona thupi la mkazi wanu watsopano ndi maso anu, manja anu, zala zanu, ndi pakamwa panu.
Chibwenzi sichimangokhudza mbolo komanso kulowa.
Pali njira zambiri zomwe zingamuthandizire kupumula ndikufika pachimake chomwe sichikhudza mbolo yanu.
Chokhazika mtima pansi kwambiri chomwe amunawa amayenera kudziwa ndikuti patadutsa magawo ochepa kuti mumudziwe motero, ndiye kuti mbolo yanu imagwirizana. Izi zikachitika, tayani kutsogolo!
Chitani mwachifatse
Ngakhale ubongo wanu ukhoza kukuwuzani kuti "pitani, pamapeto pake mutha kugonana!", Mudzafuna kusangalala ndi nthawi yapaderayi. Mutha kukhala ogonana monga mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndi chiyero chonse chomwe, kutanthauza.
Upangiri wina wamadzulo aukwati omwe amuna amapanga kuti ukwatiwo ukhale wosaiwalika ndikuti mukafika kuukwati wanu womwe mwakhala mukuyembekezera kwanthawi yayitali, khalani ndi nthawi.
Mudangokhala ndi tsiku lalikulu, ndipo tsopano ninu nokha. Mwina kusamba limodzi, kapena uthenga kuti zikuthandizeni kumasuka. Tambasulani pabedi ndikungogwirana ndi kupsompsonana, pang'onopang'ono komanso modekha. Kukhazikitsa zidole zogonana usiku waukwati ndi imodzi mwamalangizo osangalatsa ausiku waukwati wopititsa patsogolo chisangalalo chogonana usiku waukwati.
Pofunafuna maupangiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chofunikira kwambiri kwa amuna osakwatirana omwe akufuna kumangika ndikulankhulana wina ndi mnzake ndikufunsana zomwe zimamveka bwino, komanso zomwe sizabwino. Ino ndi mphindi yabwino komanso yomwe mumakumbukira nthawi zonse, chifukwa chake musathamangitse zinthu.