Zamkati
- Nthawi zambiri timagwidwa pakati pa zenizeni, ndi zomwe timafuna
- Zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala mabwenzi musanakwatirane
- Anzanu poyamba, kenako okonda
- Mutha kucheza ndi anthu ena
- Kupanga chibwenzi musanakwatirane
- Mfundo yofunika
- Zambiri za Dr. LaWanda N. Evans
“Tiyeni tikhale mabwenzi!” Tonse tidamvapo kale.
Ganizilani mmbuyo, kodi mukukumbukira kuti munamva mawu awa mobwerezabwereza osadziwa choti muchite ndikumva kukhumudwa, kupenga, komanso kukhala ovuta kuwalandira?
Amafuna kukhala bwenzi lanu, koma pazifukwa zina, mudapotoza ndikutembenuza ndikuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muwatsimikizire kuti kukhala anzanu sizomwe mumafuna. Mumafuna chibwenzi. Limbani mtima chifukwa mwina sangakhale nkhani ina yachikondi chosafunsidwa.
Kukulitsa Ubwenzi pamaso pa chibwenzi pamapeto pake ndichinthu chabwino kwa nonse.
Nthawi zambiri timagwidwa pakati pa zenizeni, ndi zomwe timafuna
Mutayesetsa kuwatsimikizira, mwina mutha kuganiza kuti inali nthawi yoti mupereke mpumulo ndikuchokapo. Komabe zinakutengerani nthawi yayitali kuti musiye.
Anthu ambiri adakumana ndi izi. Anthu ambiri amafuna kukhala ndi munthu amene safuna chibwenzindipo amangofuna kukhala abwenzi kapena kungokhala abwenzi asanayambe chibwenzi.
Kodi kusunga chibwenzi musanakwatirane kumakhala kwabwino kapena koipa? Tiyeni tipeze.
Zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala mabwenzi musanakwatirane
Ubwenzi ndichinthu choyamba chomwe mukufuna ndipo ndichofunika kwambiri pakakhazikitsa chibwenzi. Kukhala abwenzi kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa munthu yemwe ali komanso kumakupatsani mwayi wophunzirira za iwo omwe simukadaphunzila mwinanso.
Mukalumphira pachibwenzi osakhala abwenzi poyamba, zovuta zamitundu yonse zimatha kuchitika. Mumayamba kuyembekezera zambiri kuchokera kwa munthuyo ndipo nthawi zina mumayembekezera zosatheka.
Mwa kuyika Ubwenzi musanakhale pachibwenzi, mutha kusankha mosavuta ngati iwo ali abwino kukhala pachibwenzi kapena ayi popeza sipadzakhala chinyengo komanso malo otseguka olankhulirana pazinthu zofunika.
Anzanu poyamba, kenako okonda
Chifukwa chiyani mumapanikiza kwambiri munthu wina chifukwa cha zomwe mukuyembekezera komanso zokhumba zanu? Mukakhala ndiubwenzi weniweni, pamakhala zosayembekezereka. Nonse mutha kukhala enieni. Mutha kuphunzira zonse zomwe mukufuna kudziwa za wina ndi mnzake. Simuyenera kuda nkhawa ndikudziyesa kuti ndinu anthu omwe simuli.
Mnzanu yemwe angakhaleko pachibwenzi akhoza kumasuka podziwa kuti atha kukhala okha, ndipo osadandaula ngati mupempha chibwenzi.
Kupanga ubwenzi musanakhale pachibwenzi kungakhale kwabwino kuposa kungolora kukopeka ndikuzindikira pambuyo pake kuti simungakhalenso anzanu abwino.
Mutha kucheza ndi anthu ena
Pankhani yaubwenzi, palibe zingwe zomwe zilipo ndipo ndinu omasuka kukhala pachibwenzi ndikuwona anthu ena ngati mungafune. Simuli womangika kapena wokakamizidwa kwa iwo. Simukuyenera kuwalongosola chifukwa cha zisankho zomwe mumapanga.
Ngati amene akufuna kudzakwatirana akufunsani kuti muzingocheza nawo, tengani momwemo, ndipo apatseni zomwezo. Mpatseni ubwenzi osayembekezera kuti ungasanduke chibwenzi. Mutha kuwona kuti kukhala abwenzi ndikwabwino komanso kuti simukufuna kukhala nawo pachibwenzi.
Ndikwabwino kudziwa panthawi yamaubwenzi kuti simukufuna chibwenzi, m'malo mofufuza pambuyo pake, mutalumikizana nawo mwamalingaliro. Kukhala mabwenzi pamaso pa okondana kumatsimikiziranso kuti kutengeka koyambirira kumatha.
Mukutha kuwona munthu winayo momwe alili komanso kudziwonetsera nokha kwa iwo, omwe ndi maziko abwino aubwenzi wanthawi yayitali. Mulimonsemo, ubwenzi muubwenzi wotere ndiwofunikanso kuti ma cog atembenuke.
Scarlett Johansson ndi Bill Murray adachita (Lost In Translation), Uma Thurman ndi John Travolta adachita (Pulp Fiction) ndipo koposa zonse Julia Roberts ndi Dermot Mulroney adachita kalembedwe kameneka (Ukwati wa My Best Friend).
Chabwino, onse adayikaubwenzi asanakwatirane ndipo ubale wawo wa platonic udayenda bwino. Ndipo zitha kuchitika chimodzimodzi m'moyo weniweni. Pokhapokha ngati mupanga chibwenzi musanakwatirane ndizofunika kwambiri kwa inu.
Kupanga chibwenzi musanakwatirane
Kukhala abwenzi musanakwatirane sikulakwa konse chifukwa kumatanthauza kuti palibe chachabechabe paubwenzi. M'malo mwake, mwayi wokhala ndiubwenzi wabwino umakwereranso ngati ndinu mzanga poyamba.
Koma musanapange chibwenzi musanakhale pachibwenzi, mutha kukhala ndi chisokonezo chenicheni komanso mafunso monga 'momwe mungakhalire abwenzi musanapange chibwenzi' kapena 'muyenera kukhala nthawi yayitali bwanji musanakhalepo pachibwenzi.'
Zonsezi zimadalira momwe zimapangidwira momwe zimakhalira poyamba komanso momwe zimakhalira mukamadziwana. Kwa ena, kusintha kuchokera kwa abwenzi kupita kuzokonda kumachitika patangotha miyezi ingapo pomwe zina zimatha kutenga zaka.
Chifukwa chake, nthawi yotsatira akakufunsani kuti mukhale abwenzi, ganizirani zonena, ndipo kumbukirani kuti uwu ndi mwayi woti muwadziwe popanda kumangika. Sikumapeto kwa dziko lapansi kuyika ubale patsogolo paubwenzi.
Ngakhale sizomwe mukufuna kapena kuyembekezera, palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala anzawo ndikuvomereza kuti izi ndi zomwe akufuna. Nthawi zambiri, kukhala mabwenzi ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri.
Nazi zifukwa 12 zomwe kuvomereza kuti tikhale abwenzi, ndichinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe chingakuchitikireni, chifukwa-
1. Mumayamba kudzidziwa okha osati omwe amadzinamiza
2. Mutha kukhala nokha
3. Simuyenera kuyankha mlandu
4. Mutha kukhala pachibwenzi ndikudziwana ndi anthu ena ngati mukufuna
5. Mutha kusankha ngati kukhala abwenzi ndibwino kuposa kukhala pachibwenzi nawo
6. Simuyenera kuchita kukakamizidwa kuti mukhale nokha kapena kuti mukhale winawake
7. Simuyenera kuwalimbikitsa kuti azikukondani
8. Simuyenera kuwatsimikizira kuti ndinu "Mmodzi"
9. Simuyenera kulankhula zakulowa nawo pachibwenzi
10. Simuyenera kuyankha mafoni awo kapena mameseji awo nthawi zonse ngati simungathe kapena simukufuna
11. Simuyenera kuchita kukambirana nawo tsiku lililonse
12. Simuyenera kuwatsimikizira kuti ndinu munthu wabwino
Mfundo yofunika
Kuyika ubale patsogolo paubwenzi kumakupatsani mwayi wokhala womasuka, womasuka kukhala yemwe muli, komanso womasuka kusankha kukhala naye paubwenzi kapena ayi.
Werengani zambiri: Chimwemwe ndikukwatiwa ndi Mnzanu Wapamtima
Tikukhulupirira, mutawerenga izi, mudzazindikira kuti "Tiyeni Tikhale Anzathu" si mawu oyipa choncho.
Dr. LaWanda N. Evans 
Katswiri Wotsimikizika LaWanda ndi Mlangizi Wophunzitsidwa Wokhala Ndi Chilolezo komanso mwini wa LNE Unlimited. Amayang'ana kwambiri pakusintha miyoyo ya amayi kudzera muupangiri, kuphunzitsa komanso kuyankhula. Amachita bwino kuthandiza azimayi kuthana ndi ubale wawo womwe siwoyenera ndikuwapatsa mayankho ake. Evans ali ndi njira yapadera yolangizira komanso yophunzitsira yomwe imadziwika chifukwa chothandiza makasitomala ake kuti adziwe muzu wamavuto awo.
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