Zamkati
- Kukondana muukwati wachikhristu
- 1. Fotokozerani kuti mumakonda
- 2. Gwirizanani monga “thupi limodzi”
- 3. Funani uphungu wachikhristu
- 4. Pezani nthawi yocheza
- 5. Yesetsani kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima ndi Mulungu
Kotero chibwenzi muukwati Kodi kukondana m'banja ndi chiyani? Lingaliro loyamba lopangidwa ndi maanja ndikuti kukondana muukwati kumabwera mwachibadwa ndipo chikondi chawo chidzakhala chokwanira kukulitsa kukondana.
Kukondana m'banja ndichinthu chomwe chimathandiza okwatirana kukwaniritsa zosowa zawo zakuthupi, zamalingaliro, ngakhale zauzimu. Kukondana kumathandiza anthu kukhala osatetezeka komanso omasuka kukhala ndi wokondedwa wawo zivute zitani.
Zambiri zomwe mabanja aliwonse amakumana nazo m'banja lawo zimachitika chifukwa cholephera kukwaniritsa zosowa zawo. Ngati sizingasamaliridwe munthawi yake, mavuto otere amatha kukula ndipo pamapeto pake amakhala chifukwa chomwe banja lithe.
Kukondana muukwati wachikhristu
Nthawi zambiri, anthu amaganiza kuti Mabanja achikhristu ndizosangalatsa kuchipinda. Lingaliro litha kukhala kuti kudzipereka kwawo kwa Mulungu sikuwalola kuti akwaniritse zosowa zawo zaubwenzi. Komabe, maanja okwatirana achikhristu, monga banja lina lililonse amayesetsa kukondana komanso kulimbikira m'chipinda chogona.
Ntchito yakugonana idapangidwa ndi Mulungu ndipo chidwi chanu chofuna kukhala pachibwenzi sichiri "chosayera". Ukwati ndi chikhalidwe choyeretsedwa ndi Mulungu ndipo zonse zofunikira m'banja ndizofunikira kwa Iye.
Koma monga china chilichonse muukwati, kuyanjana kumafunika khama komanso kwa mabanja achikhristu momwe angalimbikitsire chibwenzicho chifukwa cha chikhulupiriro chawo komanso Baibulo.
Mofananamo, monga ukwati uliwonse, anthu omwe ali muukwati wachikhristu amathanso kuwapeza pamphambano pomwe sangathe kumvetsetsa momwe angachitire ndi nkhani zachikondi m'banja lawo. Nazi zinthu zisanu zomwe okwatirana angagwiritse ntchito kuti alimbikitse chikondi muukwati wawo wachikhristu.
1. Fotokozerani kuti mumakonda
Maanja nthawi zambiri samalankhulana za kugonana, kugonana kapena kugonana muukwati wachikhristu. Kuperewera kwa kulumikizana kumatha kubweretsa ziyembekezo zosakwaniritsidwa ndipo kuyembekezera nthawi yayitali kuyerekezera zomwe zingachitike kumabweretsa mavuto ndi mikangano.
Munthu aliyense m'banja akhoza kukhala ndi ziyembekezo zosiyana ndi malingaliro zakuti kukondana kuyenera kuwoneka bwanji ndipo ngati palibe kukondana, maziko a ukwati wachikhristu atha kusokonekera kwambiri.
Osalankhulana mokhumudwa kapena mokwiya, koma m'malo mokonda zachikhristu. Kambiranani ndi wokondedwa wanu za momwe angalimbikitsire chikondi m'banja.
2. Gwirizanani monga “thupi limodzi”
Baibulo limaona kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi wake ndi thupi limodzi. Mabwenzi amasiyana nthawi ndi nthawi pamlingo kapena mtundu waubwenzi womwe ungachitike m'banja.
Ndikofunika kuti bwenzi lirilonse likawuza zokhumba zawo, kuti nonse pamodzi muvomereze momwe mungalimbikitsire ubwenzi wawo m'banjamo.
Ena Mabanja achikhristu khulupirirani kuti Mulungu sakugwirizana ndi zochitika zina zachikondi, pomwe ena amaganiza kuti m'banja ndi mgwirizano pakati pawo, zochitika zonse zaubwenzi ndizogwirizana ndi moyo wachikhristu.
Ngati nonse limodzi zikukuvutani kuvomera ngati chinthu chimodzi, kulingalira zopemphera ndi / kapena kufunsira uphungu kwa membala wa mpingo wanu.
3. Funani uphungu wachikhristu
Ukwati wachikhristumalingaliro Zitha kukhala zosadziwika kwa banja latsopanoli kapena banja lomwe likufuna kukulitsa chibwenzicho. Mafunso ochokera kwa okwatirana kuti achite chiyani mpaka pachibwenzi komanso ngati zokhumba za wokondedwa wawo zikugwirizana ndi chifuniro cha Mulungu zimamveka bwino ndi wina wachikhristu.
Kupeza chitsogozo kuchokera kwa m'modzi mwa atsogoleri amatchalitchi anu achikristu kumatha kuwongolera maanja achikhristu omwe akufuna kukulitsa ubale wawo osasokoneza chikhulupiriro chawo. Uphungu wachikhristu uwu uthandiza onse mwamuna ndi mkazi kukwaniritsa zokonda za mnzawo.
4. Pezani nthawi yocheza
Moyo ukhoza kukhala wotanganidwa ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku. Chibwenzi chimafuna nthawi, chidwi ndi chipiriro. Mutatha kufotokozera zokhumba zanu, kuvomera zomwe zichitike ndikufunafuna upangiri wachikhristu, ndi nthawi yoti mugwire ntchitoyo.
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti inu ndi mnzanu mukhale ndi nthawi yopanga chiwonetsero chazogonana; chifuniro ichi limbikitsani ukwati wanu wachikhristu.
5. Yesetsani kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima ndi Mulungu
Kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima muukwati wachikhristu ndikofunikira kwambiri chifukwa kumaphunzitsa awiriwa momwe angalemekezere, kudzipereka, kudalirana ndikugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zawo pokwaniritsa chifuniro cha Mulungu pamodzi komanso aliyense payekhapayekha.
Banja lachikhristu lirilonse likhoza kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima podzigwirizanitsa ndikupeza kudzipereka kwathunthu ku chifuniro cha Mulungu, polemekezana.
Ukwati wachikhristunkhani Nkhani zaubwenzi m'banja lililonse zimachitika ngati anthu sangathe kupeza zomwe mtima wawo umalakalaka. Chibwenzi chauzimu chimaphunzitsa kuti muukwati wachikhristu kapena ukwati uliwonse, ayenera kulemekeza ndikuyesetsa kuti asasokoneze maloto ndi zofuna zawo.
Poyesayesa kukulitsa kukondana muukwati wanu wachikhristu, kumbukirani kuti onse amuna ndi akazi amafuna kukondana komanso kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala malo oti achite zambiri kukulitsa chikondi m'banja lanu.