Zamkati
- 1. Kusamalira momwe mukumvera
- 2. Kukhala wathanzi komanso wokhazikika
- 3. Maphunziro a moyo oti aphunzire
- 4. Kuyankhulana munjira yatsopano
- 5. Kuganizira za kusintha
- 6. Kuyang'ana zamtsogolo
Mwayesapo mobwerezabwereza. Mwinanso mwawonapo mlangizi wa mabanja limodzi. Koma zafika poti simukuganiza kuti mavuto m'banja mwanu atha.
Inu ndi akazi anu mwaganiza kuti kupatukana koyeserera ndi chinthu chotsatira.
Zowonadi, kukhala ndi nthawi yolumikizana kungakupatseni kuwunikira momwe zinthu ziliri: komwe zidasokonekera, ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita tsopano kuti mupite patsogolo ndikuwonongeka kwakung'ono kwakanthawi kotheka.
Komabe, kulekana m'banja sikophweka konse ndipo mutha kumva zinthu zambiri zomwe zingapangitse kuthana ndi mkazi wanu kukhala kovuta kwambiri.
Ngati anu Mkazi amafuna kupatukana koma osasudzulana mukhozabe kukhala ndi mwayi wopambananso kwa iye ndikumanganso ubale wanu.
Koma zivute zitani muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungagwirire kupatukana kwaukwati ndikupangitsa kuti kusinthaku kukhale kosavuta kwa inu pano pali maupangiri ochepa amomwe mungathetsere kupatukana
1. Kusamalira momwe mukumvera
Gawo loyamba la momwe mungasamalire kupatukana kwa banja ndikuzindikira kuti iyi ikhala nthawi yowawa, yodzazidwa ndi moyo wanu. Mapeto a ubale wofunikira kwambiri womwe muli nawo monga wamkulu ndi piritsi lovuta kumeza.
Osadzilimbitsa nokha mukamadziona kuti ndinu wotsika, wokhumudwa, wodandaula, wokwiya, kapena wokhumudwa. Dzikumbutseni kuti maganizo amenewa si achilendo. Mumakonda mkazi wanu, ndipo mumakonda kukwatiwa mpaka zinthu zitafika povuta.
Dziloleni mumve izi, ngakhale anthu atawawuza amuna kuti "akhale olimba mtima" ndikuchita izi.
Funafunani chithandizo chakunja ngati mukuwona kuti simutha kumaliza ntchito zatsiku ndi tsiku, monga kudzikongoletsa, kupita kuntchito, kucheza ndi ena. Palibe manyazi kukhala ndi mlangizi kapena wothandizira kukuthandizani pa njirayi.
Zimakhala zopindulitsa nthawi zonse kukhala ndi munthu wachitatu wosalowerera ndale kuti mukambirane naye, ndipo zikuthandizani kumva kuti muli ndi malo abwino otulutsira osakhudzana ndi anzanu "amoyo weniweni".
2. Kukhala wathanzi komanso wokhazikika
Polimbana ndi kupatukana ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi moyo wathanzi pamene mukudutsa nthawi yovutayi. Izi zikutanthauza kudya bwino, kugona mokwanira, komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Kusunthika kwakuthupi kumatha kukhala kopindulitsa monga anti-depressants, chifukwa chake onetsetsani kuti mulowa mukuyenda kwakukulu tsiku lililonse. Kukhala ndi chizolowezi kumakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu okhazikika, makamaka zinthu zikayamba kumva kuti simungathe kuzilamulira.
Patulani nthawi yopemphera, ngati muli ndi chizoloŵezi chotere, kapena zochita zina zosinkhasinkha; mphindi yomwe mutha kudzilowetsa mumtima mwanu ndikukhazika mtima pansi.
Kodi mumayimba chida? Pezani nthawi yochita! Ngati simunakhale ndi luso lothana ndi kupsinjika, iyi ingakhale nthawi yabwino kutero.
Pali zinthu zina zabwino kwambiri pa intaneti komanso m'sitolo yogulitsa mabuku yomwe ingakuthandizeni kuphunzira njira zabwino zothanirana ndi kupsinjika. Pewani kuyesa kudzidzimutsa ndi chakudya, mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa.
Izi sizingakupangitseni kuti mukhale bwino pakapita nthawi ndipo zitha kubweretsa zovuta zina.
Kumbukirani mukamachita zopatukana m'banja: kudziwulula nokha kuvulala kumathandizadi, malinga ndi akatswiri azamaubwenzi, ndipo kukuthandizani panjira yochira.
3. Maphunziro a moyo oti aphunzire
Ngati mkazi wanu akufuna kupatukana mutha kuyesedwa kuti mulembe zolakwika ndi zofooka zonse za akazi anu mukamacheza ndi anzanu, sizikupangitsani kuti mumve bwino, ndipo zithandizira kwambiri.
Tengani mseu wapamwamba ndikusunga mkwiyo wa magawo anu azachipatala, pomwe katswiri wophunzitsidwa angakuthandizeni kuti musinthe mkwiyo ndikupwetekanso kukhala chinthu chopindulitsa komanso chothetsera mavuto.
Pali maphunziro ofunika pamoyo omwe mungaphunzire pakadali pano, ndipo mudzafunika kuti mulowemo.
Mkazi wanu akamakuthawani Ndidi gawo lowawa la moyo, koma mutha kusankha kuti muwone ngati mwayi wofotokozera zolinga zanu zachikondi, maloto anu, komanso kuthekera kwanu kugwira ntchito mwachikondi ndi mnzanu.
Mukamalankhula ndi akazi anu, kumbukirani kuti nawonso akumva kuwawa. Inu nonse munkakondana kamodzi ndipo munagawana masomphenya a banja lopambana, losangalala.
Kupeza chilankhulo kuti muzilankhulana modekha komanso molimbikitsa ndi mkazi wanu pamene mukufotokoza zakupatukana kwanu ndikofunikira.
Mwina muli ndi anzanu omwe adasudzulidwa ndipo adatuluka osakhudzidwa. Afunseni momwe angathanirane ndi kupatukana, ndipo tengani mawu abwino oti azigwiritsa ntchito wina ndi mnzake.
Anthu opweteketsa amakonda kufuna kupweteketsana, koma mukufuna kukumbukira kusungirana kwanu kukhala kwachikhalidwe momwe mungathere kuti nonse mumve kuti mumamvedwa ndikulemekezedwa.
Awa ndi malo ena omwe kuyimbira katswiri, mwa mawonekedwe a othandizira, kungakhale kothandiza.
4. Kuyankhulana munjira yatsopano
Ngati mungapeze kuti mkwiyo umakulepheretsani kuti mulankhulane mwanjira yolimbikitsa, mungafune kuchepetsa kusinthana kwanu kuti mutumizire imelo kwakanthawi.
Kutumizirana maimelo wina ndi mnzake kuli ndi mwayi wokulolani kutero sinkhasinkhani ndikuwerenganso mawu anu musanatumize. (Nthawi zina pokambirana, tikhoza kusowa izi ndipo tizinena zinthu zomwe tidzanong'oneza nazo bondo pambuyo pake.)
Kutumizirana maimelo ndi njira yabwino yosungitsira zomwe zagwirizanidwa ndikuvomerezedwa, ngati mungafunikire kuzibwerezanso mtsogolomo.
Ngati mukuwona kuti kulumikizana kwasokonekera, gwiritsani ntchito loya wanu kuti alankhulane ndi akazi anu.
Ngakhale zitha kukhala zodula kudzera pa loya wanu kuposa kungolankhula ndi mkazi wanu, mtengo wake ungakhale wopindulitsanso thanzi lanu lamisala. Ganizirani za ndalamazi monga kudzisamalira.
5. Kuganizira za kusintha
Kupatukana ndikusintha. Simukukhalanso ngati banja tsiku ndi tsiku. Mkhalidwe wanu wachuma udzasinthidwa. Momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanu yopuma zidzasintha.
Muyenera kukhala ndiudindo wambiri wokhudza ana. Dzikonzekeretseni kudziwika kumeneku. Ngakhale zikhoza kukhala zomwe mukuyembekezera, dziwani kuti mudzakhalanso ndi nthawi zodandaula ndikukhala okonzekera izi.
Palibe gawo lachiwiri lokhala ndi manja mukakhala ndi mwana wodwala yemwe amafunika kukhala kunyumba ndipo mukufunika kuntchito.
Yambani kukhazikitsa mtundu wina wazinthu zosunga zobwezeretsera zinthu kaya zikhale za munthu wina wamkulu (m'modzi mwa makolo anu, m'modzi mwa agogo a ana) kapena thandizo lolipiridwa (wantchito kapena wosunga nyumba).
6. Kuyang'ana zamtsogolo
Nthawi imeneyi ya moyo wanu idzadzazidwa ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Udzakhala wokondwa kuwona kutha kwa banja losasangalala, koma woopa kutuluka kupita kumalo osadziwika.
Zikhala zothandiza ku onani nthawi ino ngati nthawi yakukula ndi kusintha kwabwino. Lirani kutayika kwa banja lanu, koma kumbukirani tsogolo lanu.
Ndizowoneka bwino panja, ndipo zomwe mwaphunzira m'banja lanu, ngakhale zomwe sizinayende bwino, zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale munthu wabwino komanso bwenzi lanu.