Zamkati
- Dziwani udindo wanu pakusokonekera kwa banja lanu
- Zindikirani kufunikira kofufuza musanakhale mumisala yamtunduwu
- 1. Osangokhazikitsa malire, kutsatira zotsatira zake
- 2. Pasanathe masiku 60 chibwenzi, mudzawona zizindikiro zopenga
- 3. Ulemu wotayika chifukwa cha malire popanda zotsatira
- 4. Pezani chithandizo cha akatswiri kuti zinthu zizikuyenderani bwino
- Ndipo muyenera kuchita chiyani?
Ngati muli pachibwenzi kapena mwakwatirana ndi wopenga, mwina mukuganiza kuti seweroli ndi chisokonezo zimachitika chifukwa cha iwo. Ndipo gawo lake ndichakuti, koma osati ambiri.
Kwa zaka 28 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa komanso wophunzitsa ambiri wogulitsa kwambiri David Essel‘s wakhala akuthandiza anthu kumvetsetsa maudindo omwe tonse timachita tikakhala pachibwenzi chachikondi.
Pansipa, David asokoneza nthano yoti mnzanu ndiye vuto. Piritsi lovuta kumeza ambiri, koma lokhalo lofunikira ngati mukufuna kukhala moyo wamtendere ndi wachimwemwe.
Dziwani udindo wanu pakusokonekera kwa banja lanu
Adalowa muofesi, akupukusa mutu, ndikudabwa kuti zikadatheka bwanji kuti akwatire mkazi wopanda ulemu komanso wopanda ulemu. Ndinakhala ndikumvetsera kwa mphindi pafupifupi 45 kuti iye abwerezabwereza, misala yonse yomwe amabweretsa m'moyo wake tsiku lililonse.
Kumapeto kwa monologue yake, ndidamufunsa funso losavuta, "kodi gawo lanu ndi lotani kusokonekera kwa banja lanu?"
Sanachedwe kuyankha. “Palibe. Ndimachita chilichonse chomwe ndikunena kuti ndichita, komanso koposa pamenepo, chosiyana ndi mkazi wanga wovutikayo. "Zinanditengera masabata khumi kuti ndimupatse upangiri, kuti ndimutsimikizire kuti yankho lake silinali lolondola.
Mapeto ake, adawona zomwe ndimafuna kumuphunzitsa nthawi yonseyi, ndipo pamapeto pake adakhala nazo. Ndipo pokhala nayo, anali womasuka.
Mukuwona, pomwe mudali pachibwenzi ndi "wopenga wopenga" wina yemwe amawononga ndalama zanu zonse, yemwe akuti adzakuchitirani zinthu koma osatero, yemwe amangowonekera mochedwa pazochitika zilizonse zomwe muyenera kupita, tikufuna kuwaimba mlandu pazomwe zili muubwenzi wathu wachikondi.
Koma nkhani yeniyeni? Ndife. Ndinu. Ndine, ngati ife tiri ololera kuti tikhale ndi misala ya mtundu umenewo.
Ndipo, patatha zaka 30 ndili mlangizi komanso wophunzitsa za moyo, ndaziwona zonse, ndazimva zonse, komabe, poyang'ana misala yamabanja achikondi ambiri masiku ano, ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndife vuto.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa tidakhala. Chifukwa timapirira. Chifukwa timangokhalira kutsutsana, kuwopseza ndi zina zambiri.
Tilibe mipira yoti tichokere kapena kupita kukalandira upangiri wa nthawi yayitali kuti tidziwe momwe tingathetsere ubale wosavomerezeka.
Zindikirani kufunikira kofufuza musanakhale mumisala yamtunduwu
Chifukwa chake ngati muli pachibwenzi kapena mwakwatiwa ndi winawake yemwe amakupangitsani kukhala openga tsiku lililonse, chifukwa amanama, amiseche, amawononga ndalama zambiri, amadya kwambiri, amamwa kwambiri, kapena amaswa mawu awo pafupipafupi, tiyeni tiwone zomwe Tiyenera kuwunika tisanakhale m'misala yamtunduwu:
1. Osangokhazikitsa malire, kutsatira zotsatira zake
Mukakhazikitsa malire ngati "mukaphwanya mawu anu nthawi ina yomwe timaliza. Mukawononga ndalama zambiri ndiye kuti tavomerezana. ” Koma simukutsatira, ndinu vuto.
Ndinu amene mukumuthandiza. Ndinu wotsutsa. Mukukonzekera bwino malire koma mulibe mphamvu yotsatirira zotsatira zake ndipo mumachoka mukadzayambiranso.
Ndimaziwona izi nthawi zonse mdziko lokhala ndi zibwenzi, pomwe munthu m'modzi ndi chidakwa kapena chidakwa, ndipo mnzake amawopseza kuti achoka koma samatero.
Ndiwe vuto.
2. Pasanathe masiku 60 chibwenzi, mudzawona zizindikiro zopenga
Nayi chododometsa kwa makasitomala anga ambiri, ndikawauza kuti khalidweli, khalidweli limachitika kuyambira masiku 60 chibwenzi chawo, amandiyang'ana ndikupukusa mitu posakhulupirira.
Kenako ndimawalemba pamndandanda wazolemba zingapo, ndipo manthawo amakhala chikhulupiriro. Zomwe ndanena ndizowona.
Pasanathe masiku 60 chibwenzi ndi wina, mudzawona zizindikilo, kaya mukufuna kuziwona kapena ayi, kuti pali chisokonezo ndi zisudzo mtsogolo.
Koma chifukwa zotengeka ndizamphamvu kwambiri kuposa zomveka mchikondi, timataya malingalirowo, ndikugwiritsanso chiyembekezo choti asintha, ndipo tafa m'madzi.
3. Ulemu wotayika chifukwa cha malire popanda zotsatira
Chifukwa mumakhazikitsa malire osakhala ndi zotsatirapo, wokondedwa wanu samakulemekezani konse. Werengani izo kachiwiri.
Chifukwa mumangokhalira kuwauza kuti mudzachoka kangati ngati atachitanso X, koma simutero, sakulemekezani. Ndipo sayenera kukulemekezani mulimonse.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa tsopano ndiwe amene ukuswa mawu ako.
4. Pezani chithandizo cha akatswiri kuti zinthu zizikuyenderani bwino
Yankho lokhalo ndiloti mupeze upangiri pompano kuti mupeze katswiri kuti awone udindo wanu pakukanika.
Sindingasamale kwambiri wina akandiwuza "takhala limodzi zaka 35, takhala okwatirana zaka 35 ndipo chisudzulo ndi chachikulu". Koma akhala pachibwenzi chosasangalala kwa zaka 34. Sindikusangalatsidwa konse.
Osangopita monyadira kuti mwakhala ndi munthu nthawi yayitali bwanji, pomwe ubale wanu umayamwa. Pezani zenizeni. Pezani thandizo. Zili ndi inu kuti musinthe, osati iwo.
Ndipo muyenera kuchita chiyani?
Muyenera kuyamba kutsatira mawu anu omwe. Muyenera kukhazikitsa malire akulu ndi zovuta ndikukoka zotsatira zake.
Kapena, mukungofunika kuthetsa misala, kutenga udindo wanu wosadziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi vuto lachikondi, kuvomereza kuti ndinu 50% kapena kupitilira apo, ndikupitiliza. Alekeni. Kuthetsa chibwenzicho. Koma siyani kudandaula, musakhale wovutitsidwa.
Pali dziko lachikondi kunja uko, ndipo ngati mukuphonya, ndi vuto lanu.
Ntchito ya David Essel 'imavomerezedwa kwambiri ndi anthu monga malemu Wayne Dyer, ndipo wotchuka Jenny McCarthy akuti "David Essel ndiye mtsogoleri watsopano wa gulu loganiza bwino."
Bukhu lake la 10, nambala yina yogulitsa kwambiri amatchedwa "focus! Iphani zolinga zanu. Kuwongolera kotsimikizika kakuchita bwino kwakukulu, malingaliro amphamvu ndi chikondi chachikulu. "