Zamkati
Zaka zisanu zapitazo, pamene chisudzulo chake chidamalizidwa, bambo wina adalemba mawu okhudza ukwati omwe anali okongola kwambiri kotero kuti uthenga wake udakhudza mitima ya anthu zikwizikwi, popeza udayamba kufalikira.
Uthengawu womwe umapereka kusakanikirana koopsa kwa chikondi, chisoni ndi nzeru zomwe zimapezeka kuchokera pazolakwa zake zinali zomwe ambiri amatha kuzimvetsetsa ndikudziwana nazo, zilibe kanthu kuti ndinu wamwamuna, wamkazi, wokwatira, wosudzulidwa kapena osakwatirana nawo yolumikizana ndipo mwachiyembekezo tikupulumutsanso maukwati angapo.
Ngakhale pano, zaka zisanu pambuyo pake, mawu osasinthika a Gerald Rogers onena za momwe angakhalire ndi banja losangalala komanso labwino kuchokera pamawonekedwe amunthu omwe amachokera pakumva chisoni ndi zomwe adakumana nazo akadali zowona.
Nawa ena mwa mafayilo a Malangizo kuchokera m'nkhani yoyambirira
Mutha kuwerenga mtundu wonse wapachiyambi apa, ndipo ngakhale nkhaniyi idalembedwa ndi amuna m'malingaliro, tapeza ena mwa malangizo omwe ali othandiza kwa onse okwatirana.
Osasiya chibwenzi. Osasiya chibwenzi, osamutenga mkazi ameneyo mopepuka. Mukamufunsa kuti akwatiwe, mudalonjeza kuti mudzakhala mwamunayo yemwe adzateteze mtima wake. Ichi ndiye chuma chofunikira kwambiri komanso chopatulika chomwe mudapatsidwapo. Iye anakusankhani inu. Musaiwale izi, ndipo musakhale aulesi mchikondi chanu.
Inde, Inde! Mabanja ambiri amagwa kapena kusokonekera chifukwa amayamba kunyalanyaza ubale kapena kusakaniza lingaliro laukwati ndi ubale wawo wonse kukhala mphika umodzi. Pamene kwenikweni ukwati umachokera kwa anthu omwe ali ndiubwenzi limodzi, ndipo sukhalitsa ngati chibwenzicho sichimasiyana ndi banja.
Khalani opusa, musadzitengere nokha mozama. Kuseka. Ndi kumuseka iye. Kuseka kumapangitsa china chilichonse kukhala chosavuta
Moyo ndi wovuta, yesetsani kusangalala nawo limodzi kuti muthe kusanja njira ya wina ndi mnzake. Izi ndizokwera pamndandanda wathu chifukwa nthawi zambiri timanyalanyaza koma yomwe ingakhale guluu womwe umapangitsa kuti banja likhale limodzi.
Mukhululukireni nthawi yomweyo ndipo yang'anani mtsogolo mmalo mokhala olemera kuyambira kale. Musalole kuti mbiri yanu ikugwireni. Kugwiritsitsa zolakwitsa zakale zomwe inu kapena inu mumapanga kuli ngati nangula wolemera muukwati wanu ndipo kudzakuletsani inu. Kukhululuka ndi ufulu. Dulani nangula momasuka ndipo nthawi zonse musankhe chikondi.
Ndiosavuta kusungirana chakukhosi, komanso ndizosavuta kusiya zinthu, ndizovuta kuwonetsa chikondi pomwe simungakhululukire. Kodi mukufunadi kuti banja lanu likhale lokumbutsidwa nthawi zonse ndikukumbutsa zolakwa zanu zakale? Amakhumudwitsana wina ndi mnzake komanso kuponderezana ukwati.
Kugwa m'chikondi mobwerezabwereza. Mudzasintha nthawi zonse. Simuli anthu omwe mudali nawo mutakwatirana, ndipo zaka zisanu simudzakhala yemweyo lero. Kusinthaku kudzabwera, ndipo mmenemo, muyenera kusankhana wina ndi mnzake tsiku lililonse. Sakuyenera kuti azikhala nanu, ndipo ngati simusamala za mtima wake, atha kupereka mtimawo kwa wina kapena kukusindikizani kwathunthu, ndipo mwina simungathe kuubweza. Nthawi zonse muzilimbana kuti mupeze chikondi chake monga mumachitira mukamakhala pachibwenzi.
Ngati iyi si njira yopangitsira onse okwatirana kumva kuti akufunidwa, amafunikira komanso kuthandizidwa mwamalingaliro sitikudziwa kuti ndi chiyani. Mukayamba kukondana, mumasilira mikhalidwe yabwino ya mnzanuyo, ndipo mumavomereza mwachikondi kapena kusiya zomwe simumakonda kwambiri.
Kuzikongoletsa pamakhalidwe aumunthu ndikuzindikira mwanzeru kuti popanda zolakwika tonse titha kukhala amwano. Nanga ndichifukwa chiyani titakhala zaka zingapo limodzi sitingakhale ndi chiyembekezo chofananira ndi mnzathu.
Tili otsimikiza kuti okwatirana omwe amayesetsa kuti azikondana samasudzulana - ndiponsotu, chifukwa chiyani?
Chitani mlandu wonse pazomwe mukumva: Sintchito ya mkazi wanu kuti akusangalatseni, ndipo sangakupangitseni kukhala achisoni. Muli ndi udindo wopeza chisangalalo chanu, ndipo kudzera mu icho, chisangalalo chanu chidzafikira mu ubale wanu ndi chikondi chanu.
Izi ndi zomwe tonsefe tingaphunzire ngati tili pabanja kapena ayi. Tonsefe tiyenera kuphunzira kuyankha mlandu pazomwe tikumva, ndipo ngati tingakwanitse kuchita izi, maubale athu ONSE amatha kusintha, ndipo titha kuyika ziwanda zathu zomwe zingatipangitse kukhala osangalala komanso athanzi njira iliyonse!
Tetezani mtima wanu Monga momwe mudadziperekera kuti mutchinjirize mtima wake, inunso muyenera kuyang'anira anu ndi kudikira komweko.Dzikondeni kwathunthu, kondani dziko poyera, koma pali malo apadera mumtima mwanu pomwe palibe amene ayenera kulowa kupatula mkazi wanu. Sungani malowa nthawi zonse kuti mumulandire ndikumuitanira, ndipo musalole aliyense kapena china chilichonse kulowa mmenemo.
Ndikofunika kuti tidzikonde tokha ngati nditha kufuula izi padenga ndikadatero, ndiyo njira yokhayo yotetezera mtima wanu pokhapokha titha kudzikonda tokha pomwe titha kulandira chikondi kuchokera kwa okwatirana ndi chilengedwe chonse. Zozama momwe zingakhalire, ndi zoona!
Sitingalimbikitse kuwerenga nkhani yonse mokwanira - zomwe zikusinthadi moyo.