Zamkati
- Chitirani wina ndi mnzake momwe mungafunire kuchitiridwa
- Muziika pemphero pamtima pa banja lanu
- Yesetsani kukhululuka
- Khalani ndi nthawi yomvetsera
Kulankhulana bwino ndiko kofunika kwambiri m'banja lililonse. Kulankhulana bwino kumatsimikizira kuti inu ndi mnzanu mumakhala olemekezedwa, ovomerezeka komanso omvetsetsa. Kulankhulana ndichinsinsi chopewa ndikuwongolera kusamvana kulikonse, komanso kuthana ndi mavuto kuti mukhale ndi tsogolo losangalala limodzi.
Kwa iwo omwe ali m'mabanja achikhristu, chikhulupiriro chingawathandizenso popita kukumana ndi zovuta.
Ikhoza kukuthandizani kulimbitsa mtima wanu ndikuwongolera momwe mumalankhulira ndi mnzanu. Baibulo ndi gwero la kudzoza, mphamvu, ndi chilimbikitso kwa mabanja achikhristu kulikonse. Ndiwonso upangiri wamphamvu womwe ungathe kuchiritsa, kusintha ndikuwongolera banja lanu.
Kodi ukwati wachikhristu ndi chiyani? Nchifukwa chiyani umasiyana ndi maukwati amitundu ina?
Chomwe chimasiyanitsa ukwati wachikhristu ndi ena ndikuti samangokhala chifukwa cha chikondi komanso kulumikizana. Ukwati wachikhristu uli ngati pangano, pangano lomwe silingadulidwe.
Mabanja achikhristu satuluka muukwati wawo, osavuta kwenikweni, chifukwa amayesetsa kuthetsa mavuto awo potenga uphungu wachikhristu m'malo motaya ubale wawo.
Pali uphungu wambiri wonena zaukwati wa m'Baibulo womwe ungathandize kuthana ndi zotchinga zambiri zomwe maanja amakumana nazo.
Kodi kulankhulana kwa maukwati achikhristu ndi chiyani?
Muukwati wachikhristu ndi maubale, pali malamulo ena omwe akuyenera kutsatiridwa polumikizana.
Kulankhulana kwachikhristu kuyenera kudzazidwa ndi kukoma mtima, kukhudzika mtima ndipo kuyenera kukhala kwachikhalidwe. Mfundo zaukwati za mBuku Lopatulika zimati pokhudzana ndi kulumikizana muukwati wachikhristu malamulowa akuyenera kutsatira.
Kuyankhulana kwa maukwati achikhristu kuli ndi njira yothetsera mavuto ambiri polumikizana m'banja lachikhristu. Ili ndi mayankho pamafunso ngati momwe mungachitire ndi mkazi amene amangokakamira, kuchokera m'Baibulo komanso mwaulemu.
Malangizo a m'Baibulo okhudza banja akuti ngati mutayamba kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu mokoma mtima, adzayambanso kuchitanso zomwezo ndikupangitsa kulumikizana kwabwino muukwati wachikhristu.
Nazi mfundo zisanu za m'Baibulo zolumikizirana bwino m'banja lachikhristu.
Chitirani wina ndi mnzake momwe mungafunire kuchitiridwa
Mateyu 7:12 akutiuza "Chifukwa chake, zilizonse mukafuna kuti anthu akuchitireni, inunso muwachitire iwo zotero."
Imeneyi ndi mfundo yamphamvu kwambiri yomwe ingagwiritsidwe ntchito m'banja lililonse. Ganizirani izi - mumatani mukamakakamira, kufuula, kapena kuyankhulidwa mwankhanza?
Anthu ambiri samayankha mwachimwemwe kapena modekha pakulankhulana mokalipa, kovulaza - ndipo zimaphatikizapo inu ndi mnzanu.
Phunzirani kuchitirana wina ndi mzake monga momwe mungafunire kuti inu muchitidwe. Ngati mukufuna kuti mnzanu amvetsere mukamayankhula, kukuthandizani ndi ntchito, kapena kukusonyezani chikondi kapena kukoma mtima kwa inu, yambani powachitira izi. Imeneyi ndi mfundo yofunika kwambiri yolumikizana mbanja yachikhristu.
Mukamachitirana zabwino, mumatsegula chitseko cholankhulana moona mtima, mwachikondi m'Baibulo chomwe chimasangalatsa onse.
Muziika pemphero pamtima pa banja lanu
1 Atesalonika 5:17 amatiuza kuti "Pempherani kosalekeza." Chikhulupiriro chili pamtima pa moyo wachikhristu, ndipo izi zimayika pamtima pa maukwati achikhristu. Pemphero limatigwirizanitsa ndi Mulungu ndikukumbutsa za chikondi chake, chisamaliro, chifundo ndi kukhulupirika kwa ife, ndi zathu kwa Iye.
Pemphero limatanthauza kutenga mavuto pamaso pa Mulungu nafenso ndikumulola kuti adziwe zomwe zili mumitima yathu. Ngati muli ndi nkhawa zakulankhulana m'banja lachikhristu, perekani kwa Mulungu m'pemphero ndipo muuzeni nkhawa zanu. Kupatula apo, amadziwa kale mtima wanu.
Mawu okhazikika, ocheperako mkati amakulimbikitsani momwe mungalumikizirane ndi mnzanu m'njira yabwinobwino.
Kupemphera limodzi ndi njira yabwino yolimbitsira banja lanu. Khalani limodzi pakupemphera ndikupemphani mphamvu ndi kuzindikira kulumikizana kwabwino muukwati wachikhristu.
Yesetsani kukhululuka
Aefeso 4:32 amatiuza kuti "Khalani okoma mtima ndi achifundo kwa wina ndi mzake, akukhululukirana nokha, monganso Khristu Mulungu anakhululukira inu."
Zimakhala zovuta kulankhulana bwino ngati mmodzi kapena nonse a inu muli okwiya, okwiya, kapena oyamwitsa malingaliro opweteka akale. Mukasunga mkwiyo ndipo simukukhululuka kwa mnzanu mumtima mwanu, zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuwona momwe zinthu ziliri pano.
Mumayandikira ndi cholinga chakupweteketsani mtima, kukalipa, kapena kufotokoza mkwiyo wanu ndi kukhumudwa, ndipo potero, mutha kuphonya pamtima pazomwe akufuna kukuuzani. Akasiya kuletsa mkwiyo amakula ndikupangitsa kuti kulumikizana kukhale kovuta.
Kulola kukhumudwa kwanu kukupambanitsani ndikutsutsana ndi mfundo zoyankhulirana za m'Baibulo. Muyenera kuchoka kwa iwo kuti muonetsetse kuti mukumvana mwamtendere m'banja lachikhristu.
Zakale ndizakale. Chofunika kwambiri paukwati wanu ndikuti chizikhala pamenepo. Zachidziwikire kuti ndikofunikira kuthana ndi zovuta zikamabwera, ndikuzithetsa m'njira yomwe nonse mutha kukhala nayo.
Komabe, nkhani ikangoyankhidwa, ingozisiya. Osachikoka mukamakangana mtsogolo.
Ndikofunikanso kuti musasunge chakukhosi. Kusunga chakukhosi kumawononga momwe mumayanjanirana ndi mnzanuyo ndikukulepheretsani kuwona zomwe zili zabwino komanso zoyenera kuziona m'banja lanu. Wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu chabe, ndipo zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zina amalakwitsa monga inunso.
Phunzirani kuchita chikhululukiro monga Khristu adawonetsera, kuti muthe kulumikizana ndi mitima yotseguka, yodalira. Kukhululukirana ndikofunikira pakuyankhulana kwabwino m'banja lachikhristu.
Khalani ndi nthawi yomvetsera
Yakobo 1: 19-20 akutiuza kuti "Aliyense akhale wofulumira kumva, wodekha polankhula komanso wosakwiya msanga."
Awa ndi upangiri wabwino kwambiri wazokwatirana womwe ukangokhazikitsidwa, udzasintha momwe mumalumikizirana mpaka kalekale. Ndi kangati mwadikirira moleza mtima kuti mnzanu amalize kuyankhula kuti mupange lingaliro lanu? Musamve chisoni ngati muli - ndichikhalidwe chachilengedwe, komanso chosavuta kuchita.
Ngati, komabe, mutha kuphunzira kumvera popanda kuweruza kapena kudikira kuti mulowemo, kulumikizana m'banja lachikhristu kumatha kupita patsogolo. Muphunzira zambiri za mnzanu, ziyembekezo zawo, mantha awo, ndi momwe akumvera.
Kumvedwa mwachidwi ndichinthu chotsimikizira. Mwa kupereka mphatso kwa mnzanu, mukubweretsa inu nonse limodzi.
Nthawi zina mnzanuyo amatha kunena zinthu zovuta kuzimva. M'malo mongothamangira kukwiya, khalani ndi nthawi yoganizira kaye musanalankhule. Fufuzani mtima wa mawu awo - kodi akwiya kapena amachita mantha? Kodi akhumudwitsidwa?
Fufuzani zomwe mungachite kuti muwathandize nawo, m'malo mongodzitchinjiriza. Izi ndizofunikira polumikizana bwino m'banja lachikhristu.
Chikhulupiriro chachikhristu chimakupatsani inu ndi mnzanu maziko ofanana, maziko okoma ndi achikondi omwe mungamangire banja lomwe limakusangalatsani nonse ndikukuyandikitsani pafupi, komanso kwa Mulungu.