Zamkati
- 1. Khalani ndi zinthu zanu
- 2. Sinthani nzeru zanu (EQ)
- 3. Zindikirani zomwe zimayambitsa
- 4. Limbikitsani luso lanu lolankhulana
- 5. Khalanibe ndi chidwi
- 6. Funsani zambiri
Pazaka zonse zopereka upangiri kwa maanja asanakwatirane kapena atakwatirana, njira yanga yakhala ikupitilira kusintha. Inde, timayesetsa kulimbana ndi zovuta zomwe banjali limakumana nazo pothandiza aliyense muubwenzi kuti abweretse khungu lochuluka pamasewerawa, awonetse zambiri, ndikupanga masinthidwe ena kuti athetse ubale wawo.
Mutha kupewetsa mavutowa, koma apitiliza kukulimbikitsani ndipo sangakufikitseni kulikonse. Ndipo izi zimangokusiyani osakhulupirika. Ndipo, moona mtima ndani akufuna kukakamira?
Masiku a 'ngati, ndiye' (ngati mnzanga achita izi, ndiye kuti ndichita izi) akhala pampando wakumbuyo kuti afunse zochulukirapo kwa anthu kuti azikhala moyo wabwino kwambiri, akhale owona, ndikuchita zofunikira kuti adzisangalatse kuukwati wawo.
Chifukwa sizitopetsa kuyembekezera kuti winayo asinthe? Kodi simukufuna kutenga njira zomwe mukuyenera kudzipangira kuti mumve bwino ndikufunsa zambiri kuchokera ku banja lanu kapena ubale wanu mukukhulupirira choncho?
1. Khalani ndi zinthu zanu
Ingonenani zovuta zanu, zovuta zanu, ndipo onani zomwe muyenera kusintha. Tonse tili ndi kanthu kena kuti tisinthe. Mukhale nawo, muthane nawo, ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti musunthe njira yatsopano.
Njira yomwe imakupatsani mphamvu ndikukuyimbani mlandu kwa inu nokha ndi banja lanu.
Osachoka pazovuta zanu, thawirani kwa iwo. Afumbatireni ndikudziwa kuti iyi ndi njira yokhalira ndi moyo wokwaniritsidwa.
2. Sinthani nzeru zanu (EQ)
EQ ikutha kuwongolera momwe mukumvera ndikufotokozera momwe mumamvera kwa munthu wina osaphulika. Zakhala zofunikira kwambiri m'maubwenzi - kuntchito komanso kunyumba. EQ ili ndi zinthu zinayi:
- Kudzizindikira- Kutha kwanu kuzindikira nokha momwe mukuganizira, momwe mumachitira, momwe mumamvera, komanso momwe mumakhalira munthawiyo komanso nthawi yayitali.
- Kudziyang'anira- Kutha kwanu kudzisamalira kumadalira kudzizindikira kwanu komanso kuthekera kwanu kugwiritsa ntchito kuzindikira kwanu momwe mukumvera ndikukhala osinthika kuwongolera machitidwe anu moyenera.
- Kudziwitsa anthu- Kutha kwanu kuzindikira momwe ena akumvera ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika ndi iwo. Kukhala tcheru osakonzedwa.
- Kasamalidwe kaubwenzi- Kuphatikizika kwakudzizindikiritsa, kudziwongolera pawokha, komanso kuzindikira pagulu kukonza mayanjanidwe.
3. Zindikirani zomwe zimayambitsa
Tonsefe tili ndi zoyambitsa. Chifukwa chake chonde musakhale munthu amene amakhulupirira zabodza kuti alibe izi. Ndiziyani? Chifukwa chiyani muli nawo? Amachokera kuti? Ndi liti nthawi yomwe mudakumana ndi izi mosiyana? Kodi wina kapena china chake chidawabwezeretsanso m'moyo wanu? Ngati ndi choncho, mungatani kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito?
4. Limbikitsani luso lanu lolankhulana
Inde, zitha kunenedwa mosavuta kuposa kuchita, koma zitha kuchitika. Maluso ochepa mwachangu oti mugwiritse ntchito m'moyo wanu:
- Yambani ndi kuyambitsa kofewa.Funsani, ino ndi nthawi yabwino yolankhula kapena nthawi ina ingagwire ntchito bwino?
- Tembenukira kwa mnzako. Wokondedwa wanu akamayesetsa kupeza ma 'bid' (John Gottman), ndiye mutembenukire kwa iwo ngakhale simunakhalepo pakadali pano. Izi zipangitsa kulumikizana kwanu nonse. '
- Tengani nthawi yopuma. Mukumva kuti mwapanikizika? Funsani nthawi yopuma (nthawi yochepa) kuti mudzipezenso kapena kuti muchepetse. Komabe, pangani kudzipereka kuti mudzabwerenso kukambiranako.
- Mverani ndipo mverani. Inde, tonse timamvera koma kodi tikumumvadi mnzathu kapena tikungodikira kuti asiye kuyankhula kuti tikambirane momwe tikumvera.
Ndikofunika kumvetsera, kutsimikizira, ndi kufotokoza. Mungadabwe kuti kubwereza zomwe wina wanena, kumatipangitsa kuzindikira kuti sitinali kumvetsera kwenikweni.
- Khalani nawo. Zimitsani TV, Ikani foni yanu pansi, kutseka kompyuta. Kuphatikiza apo, ndi liti pamene zinthuzi zidakhala zofunika kwambiri kuposa yemwe adakhala kuti atifunseko? Sindikukayika kuti Facebook kapena Instagram zimatha kudikirira (inde, pang'ono pang'ono, koma ndi chowonadi).
5. Khalanibe ndi chidwi
Kumbukirani m'masiku oyambirira a chibwenzi, zinali zosangalatsa bwanji kudziwa za munthu yemwe pamapeto pake adzakhale mnzanu kapena mnzanu? Kodi masiku amenewo adapita kuti? Kodi mumawafunsabe za tsiku lawo? Zokonda zawo? Zosangalatsa zawo? Kodi mumayankhulabe za zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa zomwe mungachite limodzi? Kodi ndinu wokonda chidwi ndipo mumangokhala ndi chidwi chofuna mnzanu kapena mnzanu? Ichi ndichinsinsi cha ubale wokhalitsa komanso wathanzi.
6. Funsani zambiri
Izi ndizotanthauza, koma njira yomwe imalimbikitsa thanzi ndi thanzi, kukulira limodzi, kuthandizana kukwaniritsa kuthekera kwanu, osakhazikika.
Kuphunzira ndikuzindikira kuti munthu aliyense akupitilizabe kukhala ndi kuthekera kopitilizabe kusintha ndikukhala munthu wabwino kwambiri.
Kufunafuna zochulukirapo sikungokhazikitsa ziyembekezo zazikulu zomwe sizingakwaniritsidwe, koma kungogwira ntchito yopatsa pang'ono kuposa kale.
Ubale umakula bwino pamene munthu aliyense awonekera ndi cholinga, chidwi, komanso kupezeka. Kodi mukufuna kukhala munthu wabwino kwambiri osati kwa inu nokha komanso pachibwenzi chanu?