Zamkati
- 1. Kumvetsera mwachidwi
- 2. Kukhazikitsa zolinga
- 3. Kuchita maudindo komanso chilankhulo
- 4. Kafukufuku wamunthu
- 5. Kuthetsa mikangano
- 6. Kusinthanasinthana
- Kulankhulana kwa maukwati kumayendetsa bwino
Banja likamakumana ndi mavuto nthawi zonse kumakhala kofunika kuchita upangiri wa maubwenzi omwe amathandiza banjali kuthana ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri.
Kuchokera pa kusakhulupirika mpaka kusakhulupirika, maubale atha kusokonezedwa kwambiri ndi kulumikizana kosagwira ntchito, zosowa zosakwaniritsidwa, komanso zovuta zambiri zomwe zimakhudza banja. Kuchita maanja kulumikizana kumatha kukonza banja ndikuthandizira maanja kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino.
Chifukwa chake, kodi maanja amathandizira bwanji pama psychology?
Chithandizo cha maanja chimagwiritsa ntchito zida ndi zolimbitsa thupi zomwe zimayang'ana kuthana ndi mavuto muubwenzi womwe umakhudza kusamvana pawokha kapena maanja, zovuta zamakhalidwe, zovuta pakati pawo, komanso mkwiyo ndi malingaliro osalongosoka.
Malangizo okhudzana ndi maukwati omwe tikupereka pansipa atha kuthandiza ngati mukufuna kudziyang'ana pagalasi moona mtima ndikudzipereka kuti musinthe m'malo mwa inu ndi mnzanu.
Osapita njira zankhondo zoyambira ndi nkhondo zozizira.
Nthawi ndi chikondi chomwe mwayika muubwenzi siziyenera kuponyedwa pamayimidwe popanda kuyesa kubwezeretsanso.
1. Kumvetsera mwachidwi
Kumvetsera mwachidwi ndichimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri pakulumikizana kwa maanja.
Kumvetsera mwachidwi ndi njira yomwe abwenzi amaphunzirira kulemekeza mawu omwe okondedwa awo amafotokoza ndikuwayankha m'njira yoti mawu akutsimikizika ndikudalira.
Pogwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo choyambirira monga "Ndikumva," mnzake amatha kufotokozera nkhawa, zisangalalo, ndi zovuta popanda kunyoza mnzakeyo pomuneneza zosayenera, mopitilira muyeso komanso mawu abodza.
Mnzake kumapeto ena a kulumikizana atsimikizira kusinthaku poyankha, "Ndikumva ukunena." Kuyankhulana kotereku kwa maanja kumathandiza kuti okwatiranawo azigwirizana pamene akugwira ntchito zina mwazovuta kwambiri m'banja.
Kutengera kafukufuku wamakhalidwe a sayansi ndi kuyesa kwamphamvu kwamamunda, kumvetsera mwachidwi kumalola kuti onse amveke ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zofufuzira.
2. Kukhazikitsa zolinga
Zochita za maanja polumikizirana zimayika kukhazikitsa zolinga ngati gawo lalikulu popanga chisangalalo chokhazikika muukwati.
Mabanja omwe amatha kuyankhulana koma samakwanitsa kuchita zocheperapo amayenera kukhazikitsa zolinga.
Kukhazikitsa zolinga ndi njira yomwe abwenziwo amakhalira - pasadakhale - ziyembekezo zawo zokambirana.
Zolinga zitha kuphatikizira zinthu monga kufotokoza nkhawa, mapulani amtsogolo, ndi malingaliro othandizira kuchitapo kanthu.
Ngati banjali silingathe kukhala pantchito pokambirana, zolingazo zimathandiza kuti abwerere kuzinthu zomwe ndizofunika kuti akhale ndiubwenzi wabwino.
Monga chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pamagulu azithandizo zamabanja polumikizana, kukhazikitsa zolinga ndi chida cholumikizirana chomveka chifukwa kumapereka chidziwitso cholemba zomwe aliyense ali nazo.
3. Kuchita maudindo komanso chilankhulo
Kutseguka pakunyengerera chilankhulo ndikofunikira kuti thanzi likhalebe lolimba komanso lolimba. Kuphunzira kutengera chilankhulo chololeza ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakuchita kulumikizana.
Zomwe mayiko awiriwa akufuna komanso zisankho zawo zithandizira kukulitsa ukwati ndikubweretsa nkhondo yoipa pakati pawo.
Kupeza phwando losalowerera ndale kuti lithe kuyanjana kungathandizenso kukulitsa kulumikizana. Munthu wachitatu atha kuyambitsa sewero lomwe limatsegula njira yolumikizirana. Kusewera maudindo kumathandiza maanja kulingalira zotsatira potengera mndandanda womwe akupezeka.
Nthawi zambiri, wothandizira amakhala ngati oimirira m'modzi mwaomwe aphatikizanawo kuti winayo aphunzire za kusinthana komwe kumabweretsa kukhulupirirana komanso kusinthasintha.
4. Kafukufuku wamunthu
Kuchita maanja azolumikizana kumadalira kwambiri kafukufuku wamunthu ngati chida chofunikira pakumanga maubwenzi.
Kafukufuku wamakhalidwe monga kafukufuku wa Myers-Briggs ndi ena otere, amapatsa abwenzi chidziwitso chazambiri zamomwe angayendere ndikukhala mdziko lapansi.
Pambuyo pogawana zotsatira za kafukufuku wawo ndi anzawo, anthu atha kumvetsetsa mozama momwe anzawo amachitira ndi mikangano, mtunda, kutopa, mayanjano, ndi zina zotero.
Chenjezo pa kafukufuku wamunthu.
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti kafukufukuyu amasuliridwe ndi akatswiri azamisala. Kafukufuku wamkulu wopanda mayankho azachipatala ndi kafukufuku wopanda pake.
5. Kuthetsa mikangano
Pofuna kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino, machitidwe azolumikizana amaphatikizira kuthetsa kusamvana ngati gawo lalikulu.
Kuthetsa mikangano ndi gawo lapakatikati pomwe mavuto am'banja amakhala osathekera momwe abwenziwo amagwirira ntchito ndi mkhalapakati kuti athane ndi mavuto ena okhudzana ndi mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo.
Nkhani zomwe nthawi zambiri zimaganiziridwa kuti zithetsedwe ndizokhudza kusamalira ana, kugawa ngongole ndi katundu, alimony, ndalama zothandizira ana, ndi zina zotero.
Nthawi zambiri, kusamvana kumachitika pamaso paoimira milandu. M'makhothi ambiri, kusamvana kumalamulidwa malinga ndi lamulo.
6. Kusinthanasinthana
Nthawi zina maanja sakhala ndi chilankhulo komanso maluso olankhulirana kuti azitha kukambirana bwino za mgwirizanowu komanso zovuta.
Ngati kulumikizana pakamwa sikutetezanso kapena kuchita bwino, zingakhale zofunikira kwambiri kuti banjali lizilankhulana momasuka komanso mosadodometsa.
Zochita za maanja pamagulu olumikizana ndi maimelo, zolemba pamanja, ndi zina zotere kuti alole anzawo kuti afotokoze zambiri polemekeza malo akuthupi.
Ngati kusinthana kosakambirana kumakondedwa ndi mabanja omwe ali pamavuto, ndikofunikira kuti muwunikenso kulumikizana kwanu musanatumize kuti zitsimikizire kuti kusinthaku kuli kwabwino komanso kothandiza.
Zochita zaupangiri wa maanja ndi maubwenzi apabanja amalumikizana kwambiri ngati maanja apeza nthawi yofufuza zopereka zosiyanasiyana.
Kuphatikiza pa machitidwe olumikizirana, kungathandizenso kutenga njira yodalirika yokwatirana pa intaneti yomwe ingakuthandizeni kumanganso banja labwino, pang'onopang'ono ndikuthandizira njira yolumikizirana pabanja ndi malangizo othandiza.
Kulankhulana kwa maukwati kumayendetsa bwino
Kulumikizana kwa maanja kutha kuyambiranso ngati zida zogwiritsira ntchito poyankhulana zikugwiritsidwa ntchito kulimbikitsa kulumikizana kwabwino, kukulitsa kukhulupirirana, ndi chisangalalo muukwati.
Ngati mukufuna njira zolumikizirana kwa anthu apabanja musanapite kukalandira chithandizo kwa maanja, zingakhale bwino kuti muwone machitidwe abwino awa kuti muwathandize kulankhulana bwino.
Ngati simukudziwa komwe mungapezeko chithandizo chothandizira kulumikizana kapena machitidwe olumikizana ndi mabanja, musazengereze kupempha thandizo kwa anzanu odalirika, atumiki, ndi akatswiri odziwika kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavuto amuubwenzi.
Upangiri wolumikizirana kwa maanja ndi chida chothandiza kwambiri kulumikizira ubale wawo. Komabe, machitidwe olankhulana ndi mabanja awa angakuthandizeni ngati mukufunitsitsa kumvetsetsa malingaliro a mnzanuyo, komanso kukumbukira malankhulidwe anu ndi mawu anu.