Zamkati
- Mudadzisankhira nokha, ndipo nawonso akusankhani
- Maubwenzi akuluakulu amafunika mayankho a akulu
- Momwe mungasonyezere kudzipereka muubwenzi
- Ubale umadutsa nthawi ndi nthawi
- Anthu amakula ndikusintha mosiyanasiyana
Kudzipereka komwe mumapanga kwa mnzanu kukhala theka la moyo wawo ndichachikulu kwambiri.
Pali cholinga chokhazikika komanso cholimba pakati panu mukalengeza za kudzipereka pachibwenzi.
Mudadzisankhira nokha, ndipo nawonso akusankhani
Kupanga malonjezo ndi kulumbira ndi gawo limodzi lamakonzedwe amenewa. Mumasankha kudzipereka kwathunthu kwa wina ndi cholinga chokhala pamodzi kwamuyaya; ndiye kuti moyo umachitika, zinthu zimakhala zovuta, umalimbana, umalimbana, ndipo mwina ungafune kusiya ndikulekana.
Kuganiza kuti iyi ndi njira yosavuta ndikulakwitsa, ndikhulupilira ngati mukumva motere, muima ndikulingalira za izi nthawi yayitali musanasiye mnzanuyo ndikusiya chikondi chanu.
Monga wothandizira ndathandizira maanja mosiyanasiyana mosiyanasiyana kupeza njira yobwererera kuubwenzi wokondana komanso wapamtima pomwe onse amadzimva kukhala ofunika komanso ofunika. Ndikudziwa kuti ndizotheka, ngakhale sizikuwoneka choncho pakadali pano.
Timamva zambiri za "masiku akale" pomwe anthu amakhala limodzi zivute zitani ndikusangalala ndikudzipereka muubwenzi.
Tikudziwa kuti maanja ambiri adayesetsa, adapeza njira yothetsera mavuto awo ndikupita patsogolo, ndipo zikutanthauzanso kuti panali maubale oopsa komanso ozunza anzawo pomwe anzawo adakodwa ndikuwona ngati alibe koma kukhala nawo mnzake.
Kaya zikutanthauza kuti amakhala ndi uchidakwa kapena chiwawa, adawona kuti sangachitire mwina koma kukhala; makamaka chifukwa cha kusalidwa komwe anthu amakhala nako pakusudzulana ndi azimayi osakwatiwa azaka zokwatiwa omwe adasankha kusakhala ndi bwenzi.
Ndimadana kuwona mabanja omwe akukhala limodzi pazifukwa zilizonse kupatula chikondi ndi kudzipereka koma maanja ena amakhala limodzi chifukwa cha ana, pazifukwa zachuma kapena kusowa kwa njira zina zotheka.
Pakatikati pake, kudzipereka muubwenzi kumatanthauza kusunga malonjezo anu.
Ngakhale zitakhala zovuta, ngakhale simukufuna. Ngati munalonjeza kukhala munthu wa munthu wina, kukhalapo ndikuwonetsa m'moyo wawo, muyenera kuzilingalira.
Maubwenzi akuluakulu amafunika mayankho a akulu
Ndinganene kuti ndizofunikanso ngati simunakwatirane mwalamulo. Lonjezo liyenera kukhala lokakamiza nonse. Ngakhale titha kukhumudwa, kusiya, kudzimva osakhazikika kapena kukhumudwa, tifunika kubwerera mmbuyo ndikuyang'ana chithunzi chachikulu.
Kumbukirani malonjezano anu kwa wina ndi mzake ndikudzipereka kwanu muubwenzi kuti muwone. Osataya chikondi chanu mosavuta, ndibwino kumenyera nkhondo.
Ngati mwakwatirana mwalamulo muli ndi pangano lalikulu komanso mgwirizano.
Mwasonkhanitsa abwenzi anu onse ndi abale anu kuti adzaone kudzipereka uku mwamwambo, mwapanga malumbiro pamaso pa onse kuti muzikondana ndikusamalirana kwamuyaya.
Muli ndi kulumikizana kwauzimu ndi kovomerezeka kwa mnzanuyo komanso banja lanu. Mukutsimikiza kuti mukufuna kusunga malonjezo awa. Nthawi yokumbukira izi ndipamene kuyenda kumakhala kovuta ndipo mumamva kuti mukufuna kusiya.
Kudzipereka pachibwenzi kumatanthauza kulemekeza mawu anu pazinthu zazing'ono komanso zazikulu.
Momwe mungasonyezere kudzipereka muubwenzi
Chizindikiro chachikulu cha ubale wodzipereka ndikukhala munthu amene mnzanuyo akufuna tsiku lililonse.
Ngati mukufunika kukhala wamphamvu, khalani olimba mtima. Ngati mnzanu akumva kuti akusowa, muwonetseni ndikuwapatsa zomwe akufuna.
Khalani wokhulupirika, osasinthasintha, ndipo khalani wina yemwe mnzanu angadalire kuti asunge mawu anu.
Zikuwoneka ngati zosavuta, ngakhale ndikudziwa kuti nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Abwenzi athu siokondedwa nthawi zonse. Sakhala okondedwa nthawi zonse! Apa ndipamene kudzipereka kumakhala kofunika kwambiri.
Onetsani kudzipereka kwanu pokhala okoma mtima, othandiza, komanso kulemekeza wokondedwa wanu ngakhale kulibe.
Sungani bizinesi yanu mwachinsinsi, osanyoza kapena kunyoza mnzanu pamaso pa anthu ena.
Aikeni pamalo apamwamba, ndipo muwaperekere kwa anzanu ngakhale banja lanu. Chofunika kwa mnzanu chiyenera kukhala chofunikira kwa inu, ndipo ngati sichoncho, muyenera kulingalira za udindo wanu.
Ichi ndi gawo lina lodzipereka muubwenzi - Kukhala gulu limodzi, gulu lomwe limayimirira limodzi.
Ubale umadutsa nthawi ndi nthawi
Sikovuta kukhala ndi wina tsiku ndi tsiku. Katundu tonse timabweretsa kuubwenzi wathu, zizolowezi zathu, zoyambitsa zathu; nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kuti anzathu amvetse kapena kuthana nawo.
Padzakhala nthawi zomwe simukondana kwambiri, ndipo mungafune kuchoka kwa mnzanu kwakanthawi.
Lowani m'chipinda china, kuyenda pang'ono kapena kucheza ndi anzanu. Palibe vuto kumva motere, aliyense amatero, koma kudzipereka kumatanthauza kuti mumathana ndi zosasangalatsazo pakadali pano, ndipo mukamayenda, ganizirani za momwe mumasamalirira mnzanu, komanso kudzipereka kwanu.
Ubale umadutsa magawo ndipo inu ndi mnzanu mwina simungafanane bwino nthawi zonse. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti awa ndi magawo osakhalitsa omwe maubwenzi onse amadutsamo.
Anthu amakula ndikusintha mosiyanasiyana
Ino ndi nthawi yomwe muyenera kukhala okoma mtima komanso achikondi komanso osungitsa mnzanu.
Ngati simukukondana kwambiri kuposa kale, ndi nthawi yokwaniritsa kudzipereka kwanu kukonda ndi kusamalira mnzanu pomudziwa bwino yemwe ali, pakadali pano muubwenzi wanu, kuti muwaphunzitsenso ndikukondana nawo mwatsopano.
Kudzipereka pachibwenzi kumawonetsedwa kwambiri tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe timachita ndi anzathu. Zinthu zing'onozing'ono zomwe timachita kuwonetsa kuti ndife 100% ndi wina ndi mnzake kupyola muzovuta komanso zochepa, munthawi zophweka komanso nthawi zovuta; kwa moyo wonse.
Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW imathandiza maanja kuthana ndi kutha kwa ubale wawo. Monga wolemba, blogger ndi podcaster, Stuart wathandizira maanja padziko lonse lapansi kukhala ndi ubale wapadera womwe angamve kuti ndiwofunika komanso ofunika, olimba mtima podziwa kuti amakondedwa kwambiri komanso kupezeka kwawo ndikofunikira.
Akatswiri a Podcast a Couples amakhala ndi zokambirana zokopa zomwe zimapereka malingaliro ndi kuzindikira kwa akatswiri ochokera kumadera osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi maubwenzi.
Stuart imaperekanso malangizo apakanema paubwenzi watsiku ndi tsiku polembetsa mu Stuart's Daily Notes.
Stuart ndi wokwatiwa wosangalala ndipo ndi bambo wodzipereka wa ana akazi awiri. Ofesi yake imagwira ntchito ku Phoenix, Arizona, kuphatikiza mizinda ya Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, ndi Mesa.