Zamkati
"Sitilankhulananso" kapena "timakhala ndi nkhani zoyankhulana" ndi omwe amayankha pafupipafupi kuchokera kwa amuna ndi akazi ndikawafunsa "chimakupatsani chiyani?" Zachidziwikire pali zifukwa zikwizikwi zochitira izi ndipo onse awiri ali ndi malingaliro awo chifukwa chake zili choncho. Malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo akuyenera kukonzedwa mgawoli, kuti apeze kuzindikira kwamphamvu muubwenzi wa awiriwa komanso kuti wina athe "kumva" ndikuphunzira za mnzake. Pulofesa wina wamakhalidwe anga miyezi yambiri yapitayi adagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti, "Dziwani wotsutsa", omwe ndidamupanga.
Koma, mungadziwe bwanji wotsutsa, ngati simungamumve kapena sakugawana nawo momasuka, moona mtima kapena motetezeka? "Kumva" ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakulankhulana ndipo, nthawi zambiri, ndi chomwe chimasowa pomwe munthu aliyense akumva ngati kuti akuyankhula ndi khoma la mwambi.
Kukhala ndi malo olumikizirana bwino
Pakukambirana kwanga koyamba, ndimakhazikitsa malamulo oyenera kuganiziridwa paulendo wodziwa ndi kulumikizana ndi "wotsutsa". Ndikuyitanitsa maanja kuti aganizire momwe kulili kosavuta "kulankhulana" komanso momwe akumvera, pomwe ali ndi pabwino (kunyumba) momwe angathe kugawana maloto, madandaulo, mantha, kuyamikira ndi zina zonse zosakaniza zomwe zimalowa muubwenzi ndikukhala munthu.
Kumbukirani, "kumverera sikuli kolondola kapena kolakwika, iwo ali basi" ndipo akakhala ndi nyumba yabwino yoti azikhalamo, malamulo omveka bwino, ndi kusamvana kusungunuka.
Zikumveka zosavuta! Komabe, anthu onse awiriwa akuyenera kukhala ndi luso lotha kuthana ndi zomwe anzawo amachita, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimawoneka kudzera pazosefera (aka: "katundu" ndi "zoyambitsa").
Njira zofunikira pakupanga danga lokula ndikumvetsetsa, kumvera ena chisoni komanso kumvera chisoni, zimathandizira aliyense kuti athe kupititsa patsogolo mantha ake, kudziteteza komanso kusokonekera. . . onse omwe amasewera masewerawa kuti akhale pachibwenzi, kukhala ndiubwenzi wotetezeka komanso wokhutiritsa.
Nyumba yabwino yolumikizirana SINGAPhatikizepo:
- Chitsutso- chitsanzo: “Simukukhutira. Palibe chilichonse chimene umachita bwino. ”
- Chitsanzo chotsutsa: "Ndi vuto lanu chifukwa simusunga nthawi. ”
- Chitetezo- chitsanzo: Sindikufuna kulankhula za izi. ” “Sindinanene zimenezo!”
- Chitsanzo cha Ego: “Ndikudziwa zomwe zili zabwino kwambiri. Zomwe ndimanena zimayenda "
- Chiweruzo- chitsanzo: "Umachita izi chifukwa ndiwe demokalase (republican)."
Yikes!
Ngakhale ndizosavuta kuwona momwe tonsefe timapitira kulikonse kapena malo obisalako pomwe mnzathu akuyesera kufotokoza zosowa zawo, zofuna zake kapena zokhumba zake. Timamva kukhala oopsezedwa. Komabe, makasitomala awonetsa ufulu womasuka, zowona komanso chidwi chofuna kudziwa zambiri za iwo eni ndi anzawo pamene kugwedezeka kwamabondo (& primal) mayankho a: kutsutsa, kudzudzula, kudzitchinjiriza, kudzimva, ndikuweruza kumachotsedwa pazoyanjana zomwe akufuna kulumikizana m'malo mothetsa chikondi.
Sikophweka nthawi zonse kusiya zomwe timachita tikangomva "kuwukira", komabe tikamachita zinthu mozindikira (kudzidziwitsa tokha), kumakhala kosavuta kutaya mayankho owonongerawa potumikira cholinga chapamwamba ... Ubale wachikondi kwambiri, osati kutchulapo, kukhathamiritsa kwamtendere mkati.