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Kodi ndizotheka kukhala bwenzi la wokondedwa wanu popanda kukhudza chibwenzi chatsopano?
Moona mtima, simungathe, ndipo kuganizira za izi, palibe chifukwa cholumikizirana ndi wakale. Cholinga chake ndikuti chilichonse chomwe mudali nacho ndi munthuyo chiziwonekeranso muubwenzi wanu wapano. Kukumbukira komwe mudagawana ndi munthu ameneyo kumakhalabe pafupi nanu.
Kukumbukira kofooka kwaubwenzi wanu wakale kumakupangitsani mthunzi pazomwe mukuyenera kuganizira. Mnzanu watsopanoyo ayenera kudzimva wapadera ngati ndiye yekhayo amene mumamukonda.
Koma angamve bwanji momwe akumvera akakumbutsidwa kuti udakumanapo ndi chikondi chomwecho ndi wina?
Ngati mwakonzeka kukhala pa chibwenzi chatsopano, muyenera kuiwala za zibwenzi zakale. Ndizosangalatsa ngati mungakhale ochezeka ndi wakale wanu, koma ndizomwe ali; ex sichina koma 'Mbiri'.
Zomwe anthu anena, kodi ndizowona?
Anthu amakonda kuganiza kuti palibe chikondi chilichonse chatsalira muubwenzi wakale, kuti alidi abwenzi. Koma nthawi ina, simungathe kungoganiza kuti mwakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthuyu, mumawakonda; panali nthawi yomwe mumaganiza kuti mudzakhala kwamuyaya.
Zomwe mwakumana nazo ndi munthuyu zidzakhala nanu mpaka kalekale. Chifukwa chake, kuyankhula ndi bwenzi lanu muli pachibwenzi kungangokuipitsirani zinthu.
Ndipo ngati mungaganize zokambirana ndi bwenzi lanu lakale mukakhala ndi munthu wina, ndiye chingachitike ndi chiyani ngati mungakodwe mwadzidzidzi? Ndi ndani amene mudzaike patsogolo ngati bwenzi lanu limakusowetsani mwadzidzidzi? Kodi mumapereka malingaliro a ndani?
Kutengera kwanu kukhala komweko kwa munthu ameneyo osasunga chakukhosi koma ndi nkhanza zomwe mumapereka.
Nthawi yomweyo mumakhala mukuchitira chilungamo mnzanu watsopano powakumbutsa kuti siapadera. Limanenanso kuti kukhulupirika kwanu kumagawika. Mudakumana kale ndi chikondi chomwe mumaganizira kuti sichidzatha, ndipo chikondi chakalechi chikadalipo m'moyo wanu.
Ngati mulidi okonzeka kuyika pachibwenzi chanu chatsopano, ngati mumawakondadi, muli ndi ngongole yawo - ubale womwe chikondi chanu ndichapadera komanso chosasinthika osati chikondi chomwe chidabwera pambuyo pa chomwe mudali nacho kale.
Chepetsani kulumikizana ndi wakale wanu
Muyenera kusiya zonse zakale popeza kuyankhula ndi bwenzi lanu muli pachibwenzi si lingaliro labwino. Sayenera kukhomedwa pafoni yanu yonse. Palibe vuto kukhala nawo pazanema, koma osayanjana nawo. Osatumizirana mameseji kapena kukonda zithunzi za wina ndi mnzake. Chotsani nambala yawo mnzanu wapamtima asanamve kuti akuyenera kukufunsani.
Palibe chifukwa chokhalira paubwenzi wakale, makamaka ngati zikumupweteketsa mnzanu watsopanoyo.
Ngati mukukumana ndi zovuta kuti musiye, ndiye kuti mubwerere kumbuyo ndikuwona momwe mukumvera. Mwinamwake pali bizinesi yosamalizidwa, ndipo ngati ndi choncho, ndiye musatsogolere wina. Simungakhale ndi mtima ndi malingaliro anu m'malo awiri nthawi imodzi chifukwa ndiye kuti simudzatha kudzipezera ndalama nokha.
Ngati mwasokonezedwa, ndiye kuti simungathe kukumbukira zatsopano ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndipo izi zitha kuyambitsa mavuto ena muubwenzi wanu watsopano. Ngati mukufuna kuyamba ubale wosangalala ndi mnzanu wapano, ndiye kuti muyenera kudziwa zofunikira pokhala osangalala muubwenzi.
Sizabwino kukhala ndi moyo m'mbuyomu.
Mkazi wanu wakale ndi wakale wanu, ndipo ndi komwe ayenera kukhala. Kodi mungatani ngati bwenzi lanu lakale limakukondani? Ndipo ngati atero, azikulangizani kuti mubwererenso limodzi kapena kutchula momwe akusowa kukhala nanu. Izi zingasokoneze chidwi chanu, ndipo mutha kutaya chidwi ndiubwenzi wanu wapano.
Pazonse, kulumikizana ndi wakale wanu si njira yabwino kwa inu, ndipo muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mupite patsogolo.