Zamkati
- Momwe chisudzulo chimakhudzira ana
- Kusudzulana kumathandiza anthu kuzindikira mphamvu zawo zamkati
- Ngati wina akukhulupiriradi kuti apirira, adzakhala
Kutha kwa banja ndi njira yodziwikiratu yothetsera banja ndipo imakhudza kutha kwalamulo kwa maukwati ndi maudindo omwe ali nawo palamulo.
Mfundo imodzi yofunikira kudziwa ndi yoti kutha kwaukwati, komwe kumagwiritsidwa ntchito mosinthana ndi chisudzulo, kumasiyana malinga ndi boma ndipo malamulo amasiyananso malinga ndi mayiko. Ndikofunika kuti mwina muzifufuza nokha kapena kufunsa katswiri pankhani zamalamulo.
Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza za malingaliro amisudzulo.
Chimodzi mwazomwe ndaphunzira pantchito yanga yogwirira maanja ndi mabanja ndikuti zochitika za munthu aliyense ndizosiyana kwambiri: zomwe zimabweretsa chisudzulo, chidziwitso cha chisudzulo, ndi zinthu zina zokhudzana ndi ntchitoyi.
Kuphatikiza apo, aliyense m'banjamo amachita mosiyana. Chizoloŵezi ndicho kumva kuti mukuweruza pa izi, kaya kwa inu nokha kapena kwa ena. Nthawi zambiri iyi siyothandiza kwambiri. Sizithetsa chilichonse ndipo zimangowonjezera "mafuta pamoto" titero. Ndizovuta kuthana ndi chisudzulo, palibe chifukwa chowonjezera kukakamizidwa kwina.
Mwachitsanzo, okwatirana ena amakhala ndi zizindikilo za mantha, kukhumudwa, kapena kuda nkhawa koyamba pamoyo wawo banja litatha. Ena amavutika kugona. Ndipo enanso, amakumana ndi nthawi imeneyi mwachisomo komanso mosavuta.
Nthawi zambiri, munthu amatha kukhala nazo zambiri kapena zonsezi. Ndizabwinobwino kumva kuti munthu akuyenda mozungulira panthawiyi.
Momwe chisudzulo chimakhudzira ana
Ndawonanso ana akuchita mosiyanasiyana. Mosiyana ndi zomwe ambiri amakhulupirira, chisudzulo sichimasokoneza ana onse kwamuyaya. Ana amatha kupirira komanso kuzindikira.
Mwachitsanzo, mayi wina anadabwa mwana wake atamufunsa kuti, “Kodi n'chifukwa chiyani inu ndi abambo mumadana?” Amayi adaganiza kuti akuwonetsa bwino pamaso pa ana ndipo amawathandiza pokhala limodzi ndi abambo awo. Zimadzutsa funso ... mwina kukhala pamodzi chifukwa cha ana sichinthu chabwino nthawi zonse kuposa kupatukana?
Nthawi ina, ndinali ndi kasitomala yemwe anali ndi nkhawa modabwitsa za ana ake. Anati amangopitiliza kuwapepesa. Kenako, tsiku lina mwana wawo wamwamuna anabwera kunyumba ndi ntchito yomwe anali atachita kusukulu yomwe inati, "Amayi nthawi zonse amakhala ndi nkhawa za ife. Ndikungofuna kumuuza kuti 'Amayi, tili bwino.'
Kusudzulana kumathandiza anthu kuzindikira mphamvu zawo zamkati
Chifukwa chake, ndalama zomwe zingatheke pakatikati pa chisudzulo zitha kukhala kuti zimakakamiza munthu kuti adziwe mphamvu zawo zamkati komanso kupirira kwawo.
Kukhazikika kwamaganizidwe imafotokozedwa ndikukumana ndi kusinthasintha chifukwa cha kusintha kwa momwe zinthu zilili komanso kuthekera kobwerera kuchokera kuzokumana nazo zosalimbikitsa.
Ndipo tangoganizani chomwe chimagwira gawo lalikulu ngati wina abweranso msanga pambuyo pazovuta, kupsinjika, ndi zovuta?
Ngati winawake amaganiza adzabwerera msanga.
"Anthu omwe amadzitcha okha kuti amatha kuchita bwino atakumana ndi zipsinjo adawonetsanso khalidweli."- Kufufuza kwa 2004 kochitidwa ndi Tugade, Fredrickson, & Barrett
Ngati wina akukhulupiriradi kuti apirira, adzakhala
Anthu omwe amaganiza kuti abwerera mwachangu kuzinthu zopanikizika adazizindikira momwe thupi limakhalira ndi matupi awo akuyankha kupsinjika ndikubwerera kumayendedwe mwachangu kuposa omwe samadziona kuti ndi opirira.
Kupatula pakuchepetsa mphamvu zomwe munthu ali nazo, anthu amathanso kulowa m'mavuto akakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri kapena kuyesera kulosera zamtsogolo. Nthawi zambiri ndimayankhula ndi anthu omwe ali otsimikiza kuti amadziwa momwe adzamvere nthawi ya chisudzulo komanso pambuyo pake ... kuti amadziwa kale momwe zidzakhalire kwa iwo, wakale wawo, ndi ana awo.
Zikuoneka kuti anthu ndi olosera osauka kwambiri momwe adzachitire zinthu zikadzachitika kapena zitachitika. Ndi njira yolosera yolakwika iyi yomwe imawatsogolera kuti apange zisankho zomwe zimawonjezera nthawi yakusokonekera kwamaganizidwe.
Monga katswiri wa zamaganizidwe a Harvard a Daniel Gilbert akunenera, "Timanyalanyaza momwe malingaliro athu asinthira mwachidule chifukwa timapeputsa kuthekera kwathu kuwasintha. Izi zitha kutipangitsa kupanga zisankho zomwe sizingakulitse mwayi wathu wokhutira. ”
Ponseponse, kusudzulana ndikusintha kwakukulu pamoyo komanso nthawi yosinthira yodziwika ndi zokwera-zotsika zambiri. Komabe, ndimawona anthu ambiri akubwera kudera lina ndikumvetsetsa mozama za iwo omwe akupitiliza kuwatumikira m'miyoyo yawo yonse.