Zamkati
- Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira musanapite kukalandira uphungu wosakhulupirika
- 1. Onetsetsani kuti kumene mukuwona kuti chibwenzi chanu chikupita
- 2. Kudzipereka pantchitoyi
- 3. Mgwirizano
- Zizindikiro zakuti kusakhulupirika kumathandiza
- 1. Nkhaniyi yatha
- 2. Mnzake wakale wonyenga akuwonetsa kulapa
- 3. Munali pachibwenzi chachikulu
- 4. Abwenzi omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito posonyezana ulemu
- 5. Pali chikhululukiro chenicheni
- 6. Awiriwa akutenga njira zabwino
- 7. Kuvomereza udindo
Kodi mukukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika?
Kaya ndi chiwerewere kapena kusakhulupirika m'banja, kuonera m'banja ndizovuta.
Kaya zikhale zotani, ndizopwetekanso chimodzimodzi. Ndipo, kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika popanda kuthandizidwa kumawoneka ngati chinthu chosatheka kukwaniritsa.
Ndiye, mungatani kuti musapusitsidwe?
Apa ndipamene upangiri wosakhulupirika ungabwere kudzakupulumutsani!
Ngati mukuganiza kuti upangiri wosakhulupirika ndi uti, yankho lake ndi losavuta monga dzina lake. Ndi mtundu wina wa upangiri wopangidwira mabanja omwe adachita kusakhulupirika m'banja nthawi ina.
Koma, kodi upangiri wosakhulupirika ndiwofunika nthawi yanu, kapena kungolota-kukhulupirira kuti ubale wanu wosweka ungapulumutsidwe?
Yankho la funsoli limadalira munthu kapena anthu omwe akulowa uphungu. Maganizo ndi malingaliro ndizofunikira kwambiri pozindikira ngati chithandizo cha maanja chithandizira kapena ayi.
Mosasamala kanthu kuti zomwe zachitikazo ndi zatsopano kapena kuyambira zaka zapitazo, mankhwala osakhulupirika m'banja atha kuthandiza banja, kukonza zidziwitso, ndikupanga dongosolo loyendera limodzi ndi ubale wabwino.
Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira musanapite kukalandira uphungu wosakhulupirika
Palibe chitsimikizo ndi mtundu uliwonse wa chithandizo. Kupambana kwa upangiri wa maanja kumadalira makamaka maanja ndi kuthekera kwawo kukhululuka, kumvera, kuphunzira, ndikukula.
Ngati mukupita kuchipatala cha awiriwa ndipo mukuyembekeza kuchita bwino, Nazi zina zomwe muyenera kuziganizira.
1. Onetsetsani kuti kumene mukuwona kuti chibwenzi chanu chikupita
Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina sizotheka kudziwa nthawi yomweyo, wothandizira wanu akhoza kukufunsani ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa ndi lingaliro lokhala limodzi kapena kupatukana.
Kodi mukuyang'ana kuti mumangenso banja lanu, kupatukana mwamtendere, kapena kuthetsa malingaliro omwe angakhalepo pazomwe zikuchitika?
Kudziwa komwe mukuchokera kumathandizira othandizira kuti adziwe momwe angagwirire mlandu wanu.
2. Kudzipereka pantchitoyi
Ngati mukufuna upangiri wosakhulupirika kuti ukhale ndi moyo wabwino, muyenera kukhala odzipereka pantchitoyo.
Kuyesera kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino mutatha kuchita chibwenzi ndi kovuta, koma kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino ndikofunikira kuti mankhwala osakhulupirika agwire ntchito.
Mwachitsanzo, zotsatira zabwino zimachitika ophunzira akakhala owona mtima, alibe mtima wodzitchinjiriza, ndipo amakhala omasuka kuphunzira ndikugawana nawo.
3. Mgwirizano
Ndikosavuta kusewera pamlandu, makamaka ngati pali chibwenzi chomwe chimachitika pachibwenzi.
Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo zosakhulupirika, ndipo kuti upangiri wosakhulupirika uziyenda bwino, onse awiri akuyenera kuthandizana.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kupatsana mwayi wokwanira wolankhula zakukhosi kwawo, kuwonetsa mkhalidwe wodekha, komanso kukhala omasuka kuphunzira njira zatsopano zopangidwira ubale wabwino.
Zizindikiro zakuti kusakhulupirika kumathandiza
Tiyenera kudziwa kuti kupitilira upangiri wosakhulupirika sizitanthauza kuti wokondedwa wanu sadzasochera.
Komabe, maanja omwe adzipereka kwathunthu pantchitoyi apeza kuti maanja awo ndi olimba komanso odalirika kuposa kale. Nazi zizindikiro zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika ndi kotheka.
1. Nkhaniyi yatha
Pomwe pali chinyengo muubwenzi, kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kupulumuka pakugwa.
Njira imodzi yodziwira ngati banja lili ndi mwayi wokhala limodzi atakhala pachibwenzi ndikuonetsetsa kuti chibwenzi chatha. Mnzake wakale wakunyengayo wathetsa chibwenzicho ndipo wathetsa kulumikizana konse ndi mnzake.
Wokondedwayo ayeneranso kuwonetsa kuti ndiwofunitsitsa kufotokoza zonse za anzawo, komwe ali, ndi zizolowezi zawo kuchokera pano.
2. Mnzake wakale wonyenga akuwonetsa kulapa
Izi zikutanthauza kuti mkazi yemwe anali ndi chibwenzi adadzipereka kupangitsa mnzake kukhala womasuka, wotetezeka, wamtengo wapatali, wokondedwa, ndikufunidwa.
Mnzakeyu akudziwa bwino za msewu wovutawo komanso kuti mnzake amene wachita chiwembucho akuyenera kukumana ndi mavuto omwe nthawi zina angawoneke ngati opanda chilungamo.
3. Munali pachibwenzi chachikulu
Mabanja omwe kale anali ndiubwenzi wokhulupirirana omwe anali odzala ndi chikondi komanso kukondana kwenikweni ali ndi mwayi wopambana kudzera mu uphungu wa maukwati.
Mosiyana ndi izi, maanja omwe ali ndi mbiri yakuzunzidwa kapena kuzunzidwa ndimakhalidwe oyipa amakhala ndi nthawi yovuta kukhala limodzi atachita chibwenzi.
4. Abwenzi omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito posonyezana ulemu
Kubereredwa ndiye njira yayikulu yopanda ulemu ndi kusakhulupirika.
Kusalemekeza kumeneku ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe zochitika m'banja zimakhala zovuta kuthana nazo. Sikuti mwamunayo adangopusitsidwa komanso kunyengedwa, koma kufunikira kwake monga munthu komanso mnzake adachitiridwa mwayi.
Othandizana nawo omwe anali kulemekezana kwambiri ali ndi mwayi wopambana, womwe angaphunzire kupatsanso ulemu.
5. Pali chikhululukiro chenicheni
Ubale ndi wovuta, nthawi. Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu kwambiri zomwe zingatsimikizire ngati chithandizo cha kusakhulupirika chingagwire ntchito ndi ngati mnzakeyo wakhululukiradi mnzake.
Kukhululuka sikubwera nthawi yomweyo, koma kufunitsitsa kugwira ntchitoyi ndikofunikira.
6. Awiriwa akutenga njira zabwino
Wokhumudwitsidwayo ali wokonzeka kupita patsogolo ndikutsatira malangizo omwe akupatsidwa kuti akhale bwinopo. Zochita zodalirika zikutsatiridwa.
Wokondedwa mnzakeyo ali wokonzeka kuvomereza kulimbika kwa ntchito zomwe mnzake akuchita ngakhale ali okhumudwa.
Mtima wofunanso umatanthauzanso kuti banjali likuyesetsadi kukondana.Izi zikutanthauza kupezanso wina ndi mnzake muubwenzi watsopano wachikondi ndikudzilola okha kukhala otseguka komanso osatetezeka wina ndi mnzake.
7. Kuvomereza udindo
Akuluakulu kapena ang'onoang'ono, onse awiri ayenera kuvomereza udindo wawo pa ubale wawo.
Izi zitha kuphatikizira kusalankhula pomwe akumva kusasangalala, kusamvera wokondedwa wawo, kukhala ozizira kapena osakondana, kukopana ndi anthu ena, kuyambitsa kukayikirana, ndipo zachidziwikire, pankhaniyi.
Onsewa akuyenera kukhala ovomerezeka kuvomereza kuti pali mbali ziwiri munkhani iliyonse, ndipo onse awiri ali ndi udindo pazokhudza zomwe zidalipo, zomwe zilipo, komanso koposa zonse, mtsogolo.
Onerani kanemayu posinkhasinkha za kusakhulupirika kuti mupeze upangiri wina wofunikira.
Uphungu wosakhulupirika kwa iwo ukhoza kukhala chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pophunzirira kukhululuka mnzanuyo kuti muthe kukonza ubale wanu womwe wasokonekera kapena ngati chida chothandizira kukukonzekereraninso chibwenzi chanu chotsatira.
Khalani omasuka pantchito yolangiza osakhulupirika kuti muwone zotsatira zabwino.