Zamkati
- 1. Mpweya zisanu ndi ziwiri
- 2. Kuyang'ana
- 3. Kulumikizana kokambirana
- 4. Lowezani pogwira
- 5. "Zinthu 5 ..."
- 6. kukumbatirana ngati kulibe mawa
Kupeza malire pakati pa moyo ndi ubale kungakhale kovuta. Kwa maanja, kulingalira kumeneku kumakhala kovuta ndi ana, ntchito, komanso maudindo akuluakulu. Kusunga kulumikizana kwakuthupi ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikofunikira; kugonana ndi kugonana ndizofunikira pa moyo waubwenzi kapena banja. Koma pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kukhudzana mwakuthupi ndi kukondana. Ngati mukukhala kuti mulibe kulumikizana ndi wokondedwa wanu, simuli nokha. Mabanja ambiri amapitilizabe kukondana wina ndi mnzake koma amakumana ndi zovuta polumikizana chifukwa chosowa kukondana. Ngati ndinu amene mumakhulupirira kuti ubale wanu ulibe kulumikizana, yesani machitidwe asanu ndi limodziwa kuti mulimbikitse.
1. Mpweya zisanu ndi ziwiri
Kuchita izi kumatha kukhala kovuta kwa mabanja ena. Zimafunikira kusinkhasinkha pang'ono komanso kutha kukhala modekha kwa mphindi zochepa. Yambani mwa kukhala moyang'anizana ndi mnzanuyo; mungasankhe kukhala pansi, pabedi, kapena pamipando. Mukakhala omasuka, gwirani manja, tsekani maso, ndipo tsamira patsogolo, kulola pamphumi panu kukhudza. Pamodzi, pumirani kwambiri. Zitha kutenga mphindi ziwiri kapena zitatu kuti mufanane wina ndi mnzake, koma posakhalitsa mudzapezeka kuti mwayamba kupumula ndikupumira limodzi ndi mnzanu. Tengani mpweya wokwanira kasanu ndi kawiri palimodzi; omasuka kukhala kwa nthawi yayitali ngati nonse mukusangalala ndikukhala panokha komanso kulumikizana. Ngati zachitika musanagone, ntchitoyi imathandizanso kuti mukhale chete komanso chitetezo musanagone.
2. Kuyang'ana
Zofanana ndi zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, "kuyang'anitsitsa" kumatha kukhala kovuta kwa anzawo omwe samakumana nawo pafupipafupi. Monga ntchito yoyamba, khalani moyang'anizana momasuka. Mutha kukhudza, koma onetsetsani kuti sizogonana mwachilengedwe. Ngati simunachite izi, khalani ndi nthawi kwa mphindi ziwiri. Ngati mumachita izi mobwerezabwereza, kungakhale koyenera kuwonjezera nthawiyo. Yambani powerengetsera nthawi ndikuyang'anitsitsa mnzanuyo. Osalankhula kapena kukhudzika wina ndi mnzake. Ingoyang'anani mnzanuyo m'maso mpaka mutangomva kulira kwa nthawi yake. Mungasankhe kukambirana zomwe mumamva panthawiyi, kapena mungasangalale kungokhala ndi mnzanu mukamaliza ntchitoyi.
3. Kulumikizana kokambirana
Njira yachangu komanso yosavuta yochitira chibwenzi ndimacheza mphindi makumi atatu mukakhala limodzi kunyumba, kukambirana za tsikulo. Wokondedwa aliyense ayenera kupatsidwa nthawi yokwanira kuti akambirane mu mphindi izi; lankhulani zomwe zidayenda bwino, zomwe zakukhumudwitsani, zomwe mumakonda, komanso mayankho amomwe mumakumana nawo patsiku. Kupatula nthawi yogawana zonsezi ndi mnzanu kungalimbikitse kukhulupirirana komanso kukhala otetezeka. Mabanja ambiri amatanganidwa ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo amaiwala kugawana moyo wawo ndi anzawo - khalani ndi cholinga chocheza ndi kuchita bwino kwambiri mphindi makumi atatu zoyambirirazo.
4. Lowezani pogwira
Kubwerera muzu waubwenzi wanu ndikupanga kulumikizana kwakuthupi kumatha kukhala kotsitsimula kuubwenzi wopanda chikondi. Khalani pafupi kapena wowoloka kuchokera kwa mnzanu. Ikani manja anu palimodzi ndikutseka maso anu. Kwa mphindi zochepa, khalani ndi nthawi yogwira manja a mnzanuyo ndipo "onani" chilichonse. Pakufulumira kwa zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, maanja nthawi zambiri amaiwala zazing'ono zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubalewo ukhale wapadera. Mutha kusankha kuchita izi pogwira ziwalo zina za thupi la mnzanu; yesetsani kuti musagwirizane ndi kugonana (ngakhale izi zitha kubweretsa kukondana!). Lowezani mwatsatanetsatane za mnzanu; kenaka yesetsani kuloweza mikhalidwe yawo yamkati komanso mikhalidwe yawo.
5. "Zinthu 5 ..."
Kodi mwayesapo zochitika za Conversational Connection ndipo mukuwoneka kuti simukupeza chilichonse choti mungakambirane? Yesani njira "5 Zinthu ..."! Sinthanani posankha mutu, kapena mwina ikani mitu zingapo mumtsuko kuti muzitenge mukamacheza pang'ono. Mwachitsanzo, mungasankhe "zinthu zisanu zomwe zandipangitsa kumwetulira lero" kapena "zinthu zisanu zomwe ndikadakonda ndikadakhala kuti ndimachita kupatula kukhala pantchito." Izi zitha kuthandizira kuyankhulana pakati pa abwenzi ndipo mwina kukupatsaninso chidziwitso pazakukonda kapena zomwe simumadziwa kale!
6. kukumbatirana ngati kulibe mawa
Pomaliza, palibe chabwino kuposa kukumbatirana kwachikale. Izi zitha kukonzekera kapena kuchitidwa mwachisawawa; ingokumbatirani ndi kukumbatirana mwamphamvu! Osasiya kwa mphindi zingapo; pumani pang'ono pang'ono. Lowezani momwe mnzanu akumvera ndikutsutsana nanu; kumva kutentha kwake. Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zanu zisanu - kupenya, kununkhiza, kulawa, kugwira, ndi kumva - kuti muveke nokha pamaso pa munthu amene mumamukonda. Sipangakhale china chilichonse chomwe chingawonjezere kukondana kwamaganizidwe ndi kuzindikira kuposa kukumbatirana kochokera pansi pamtima!