Zamkati
- Kerry ndi Tim: Kusakhulupirika komwe kumachitika chifukwa chakunyamula kwa makolo
- Cynthy ndi Jerry: Chinyengo chosatha
- Therese ndi Harvey: Mwamuna kapena mkazi amene wanyalanyazidwa
- Carrie ndi Jason: Anakana mwayi wokhala ndi pakati
Kodi mwamvapo fanizo lonena za mfumu ndi mfumukazi yomwe idatumiza mwana wawo wamwamuna woyamba kubadwa, kuti akhale mfumu, pakufunafuna mkazi wolemekezeka, wokoma mtima, wanzeru kuti adzakhale pampando wake wachifumu? "Yang'anirani," makolo ake adalangiza molimbikira pomwe mwana wawo woyamba adachoka kuti amfunefune. Chaka chotsatira kalonga adabweranso ndi kusankha kwake, atsikana omwe nthawi yomweyo amakondedwa ndi makolo ake. Patsiku laukwati, m'mawu olimba kuposa omwe adagwiritsidwa ntchito asananyamuke, makolo ake adaperekanso upangiri wina, nthawi iyi kwa banjali: , pamene mumanyalanyaza ndikukhululukirana kwaukwati wanu wonse. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti, ngati mwachita chilichonse chokhumudwitsa mwanjira ina iliyonse, pepesani msanga. ”
Mnzake wapamtima wazaka zambiri wazamalamulo pa chisudzulo adayankha ku nzeru ya fanizoli: “Ndi njira zambiri zomwe maanja amapwetekerana kapena kusokonezana wina ndi mnzake ndichodabwitsa kuti anthu awiri akhoza kukhala limodzi bwino. Kunyalanyaza, kusankha nkhani zanu, ndi kupepesa chifukwa cha khalidwe loipa ndi malangizo anzeru kwambiri. ”
Ngakhale kuti uthengawo ndi wanzeru, kukhululuka kumakhala kovuta nthawi zina kukwaniritsa. Inde, zachidziwikire, ndikosavuta kukhululukira mamuna yemwe amaiwala kuyimba foni kuti anene kuti wachedwa kudya akadakhala kuti watopa ndi ntchito. Nkosavuta kukhululukira mkazi akamaiwala kunyamula mwamuna wake pa siteshoni ya sitima akapanikizika ndiudindo wake.
Koma timakhululuka bwanji tikakhumudwa kapena kusakhulupirika chifukwa chothandizana ndi ena monga kusakhulupirika, kutayika, ndi kukanidwa? Zomwe zandichitikira zandiphunzitsa kuti munthawi ngati izi njira yanzeru kwambiri sikubisa kukhumudwa, mkwiyo kapena mkwiyo, koma kufunafuna upangiri kuti mumvetsetse bwino ndikuzindikira, msewu wodalirika wakukhululukidwa womwe umaperekanso malangizo abwino. Zitsanzo zamachitidwe anga zomwe zimawunikira njirayi zikutsatira.
Kerry ndi Tim: Kusakhulupirika komwe kumachitika chifukwa chakunyamula kwa makolo
Kerry ndi Tim (osati mayina enieni, inde), makolo a mwana wamwamuna wazaka 4 wokondeka, adakumana ku koleji ndipo adakondana msonkhano uwu utangotha. Makolo a Tim, banja lolemera, amakhala kutali kwambiri ndi mwana wawo wamwamuna ndi mpongozi wawo, pomwe makolo a Kerry, omwe anali osauka, amakhala kutali kwambiri. Pomwe amayi a Kerry ndi a Tim sankagwirizana, makolo a Kerry anali kusangalala ndi kampani ya apongozi awo (monga momwe Tim amachitira) ndipo anali pafupi ndi mwana wawo wamkazi.
A Tim ndi a Kerry adapita uphungu chifukwa sakanatha kukangana pazomwe zachitika posachedwa. Mwana wawo wamwamuna asanabadwe Kerry amakhulupirira kuti iye ndi Tim adagwirizana kuti asalumikizane ndi makolo awo mpaka mwana atabadwa. Kerry akangoyamba kubala, Tim adatumizira makolo ake mameseji, omwe adathamangira kuchipatala. Tim adakhala nthawi yayitali akugwira ntchito ya Kerry ndikulembera makolo ake kuti awadziwitse za kupita patsogolo. "Tim wandipusitsa," Kerry adalongosola mokwiya mgawo lathu loyamba, ndikupitiliza, "Makolo anga adazindikira kuti adzatimva tikabereka bwino. Tim anayankha kuti, "Taona Kerry, ndakuuza zomwe umayenera kumva, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti makolo anga ali ndi ufulu wodziwa zonse zomwe zikuchitika."
Miyezi itatu yakugwira ntchito molimbika Tim adawona kuti sanatenge gawo lofunikira pamaukwati opambana: kufunikira kosintha mokhulupirika kuchoka kwa makolo kupita kwa wokondedwa, zomwe makolo a Kerry amamvetsetsa. Anawonanso kuti kunali koyenera kukambirana momasuka ndi amayi ake, omwe adawazindikira kuti amanyoza mkazi wake chifukwa chakuchepa kwa chuma cha makolo ake komanso zomwe amawona ngati "kusowa ulemu."
Kerry adawona kuti kunali koyenera kupangira apongozi ake, omwe adawazindikira kuti "sangakhale oyipa - chifukwa adabereka mwana wamwamuna wabwino." Ndi zomwe Tim amayembekezera momveka bwino kwa amayi ake, komanso kutsimikiza mtima kwa Terry kusiya mkwiyo, mikangano idachepetsedwa, ndipo mutu watsopano, wabwino udayamba banja lonse.
Cynthy ndi Jerry: Chinyengo chosatha
Cynthy ndi Jerry anali ndi zaka 35, ndipo anali atakwatirana zaka 7. Aliyense anali wodzipereka pantchito, ndipo sankafunanso ana. Cynthy adadza kupatsidwa uphungu yekha, popeza a Jerry adakana kulowa nawo. Cynthy adayamba kulira atangotseka chitseko chaofesi yanga, ndikulongosola kuti adasiya kukhulupirira mwamuna wake, "Sindikudziwa komwe ndingatembenukire ndikumva kuwawa komanso kukwiya chifukwa sindikuganiza kuti mausiku a Jerry ndi ntchito, koma sakundiuza zomwe zikuchitika. ” Pofotokoza mopitilira, a Cynthy adagawana nawo, "Jerry sakusangalatsanso kupanga zibwenzi, ndipo akuwoneka kuti alibe chidwi ndi ine ngati munthu. "
Pakati pa miyezi itatu akugwirira ntchito limodzi, Cynthy anazindikira kuti mwamuna wake amamunamiza nthawi yonse yaukwati wawo. Adakumbukira zomwe zidachitika kumayambiriro kwaukwati wawo pomwe Cynthy adachoka patchuthi kuntchito yake yowerengera ndalama kuti atsogolere anzawo apamtima paudindo wosankhidwa ndi boma. Zitatha zisankho, zomwe mnzake adataya ndi mavoti ochepa, Jerry adauza Cynthy mokoma mtima komanso mosangalala, "Adali woyimira wanu, osati wanga. Ndinayerekezera kuti ndam'thandiza kuti ndikutseke pakamwa. ”
M'mwezi wachisanu wamankhwala, Cynthy adauza Jerry kuti akufuna kupatukana. Anasamuka mosangalala, ndipo Cynthy anazindikira kuti anali womasuka kuti azicheza ndi wina. Atangodziwa za chidwi chake cha membala wamakalabu ake omwe mkazi wawo adamwalira chaka chatha, ndipo ubale wawo udakula. Cynthy amakonda kwambiri kudziwana ndi ana a Carl, asungwana awiri aang'ono, azaka 6 ndi 7. Pofika nthawi iyi a Jerry adazindikira kuti walakwitsa kwambiri. Kufunsa mkazi wake kusiya zolinga zakusudzulana ndikumukhululukira, adauzidwa kuti, "Zachidziwikire, ndakukhululukira. Mwandibweretsera kumvetsetsa kuti ndine ndani, ndipo chifukwa chake chisudzulo ndichofunikira. ”
Therese ndi Harvey: Mwamuna kapena mkazi amene wanyalanyazidwa
Therese ndi Harvey anali ndi ana amapasa, azaka 15, pomwe Harvey adakondana ndi mkazi wina. Pakati pa gawo lathu loyamba, Therese akufotokozera mkwiyo wake pankhaniyi, ndipo Harvey adatsutsa kuti iyenso anali wokwiya chifukwa moyo wonse wa mkazi wake umangodalira ana awo. M'mawu a Harvey, "Therese anaiwala kalekale kuti ali ndi mwamuna, ndipo sindingathe kumukhululukira chifukwa chakumbukira izi. Chifukwa chiyani sindikufuna kukhala ndi mkazi yemwe amandifuna? ” Kuwona mtima kwa Harvey kudali chenicheni chodzutsa mkazi wake.
Therese anali wotsimikiza kumvetsetsa zifukwa zamakhalidwe omwe sanazindikire kapena kuwazindikira ndipo posakhalitsa adazindikira kuti chifukwa abambo ake ndi mchimwene wake adamwalira limodzi pangozi yamagalimoto ali ndi zaka 9, adayamba kucheza kwambiri ndi ana ake aamuna, otchedwa abambo ake omwalira komanso m'bale. Mwanjira iyi, amakhulupirira kuti atha kuwateteza ku tsoka lomwe bambo ake ndi mchimwene wake adachita. Harvey adazindikira kuti amayenera kuti afotokozere mkazi wake wokwiya komanso wokhumudwa posachedwa, m'malo mowulora kuti ufalikire. Pomwe mgwirizanowu umalumikizana, zochitika za Harvey zinali zitatha; kuzindikira kunawabweretsa pafupi kwambiri kuposa kale lonse; ndipo kuzindikira kudathetsa mkwiyo wonse.
Carrie ndi Jason: Anakana mwayi wokhala ndi pakati
Carrie anachedwa kutenga pakati chifukwa Jason sanali wotsimikiza kuti akufuna mwana. "Ndimakonda kukhala mfulu kuti tizinyamula ndikusangalala nthawi iliyonse yomwe tifuna," adamuuza mobwerezabwereza. "Sindikufuna kusiya izi." Jason sanafunebe kukhala kholo pomwe nthawi yobereka ya Carrie, ali ndi zaka 35, idayamba kukuwa "Tsopano kapena Osatero! ”
Pakadali pano Carrie adaganiza kuti ali ndi Jason kapena wopanda, adatsimikiza mtima kukhala ndi pakati. Kusiyana uku komwe kumawoneka ngati kosasinthika, ndi mkwiyo wawo wina ndi mzake pazilakolako zomwe sizingagwirizane, zidawabweretsa kuchipatala.
Tili pantchito yathu, Jason adazindikira kuti chisudzulo cha makolo ake ali ndi zaka khumi, komanso bambo yemwe samamukonda, adamupangitsa kuti aziopa kuti "alibe mwayi wokhala bambo." Komabe, pomwe ntchito yathu inkapitilira adawona zonse zomwe akukana mkazi wake, ndipo adalonjeza "kuphunzira kukhala zomwe ndiyenera kuphunzira kukhala." Thandizo ndi chifundozi zidachepetsa mkwiyo wa Carrie, ndipo, zowonadi, Jason adazindikira kuti kukwiya kwake ndi Carrrie kunali "kopanda tanthauzo komanso mwankhanza."
Pakadali pano, mayeso osaneneka omwe Carrie adalephera kuyesa kutenga pakati (Jason nthawi zonse ali mbali ya Carrie) adawulula kuti mazira a Carrie anali atakalamba kwambiri kuti asadye umuna. Kufunsananso kwina kunapangitsa kuti banjali liphunzire za kuthekera kwa "dzira lopereka," ndipo onse pamodzi Carrie ndi Jason adafunafuna bungwe lodalirika ndikupeza woperekayo mosamala. Tsopano ndi makolo owala a Jenny, azaka zitatu. Iwo akuvomereza kuti: “Kodi tingayembekezere bwanji wina aliyense woposa mwana wathuyu?” Ndi zina zambiri. Mmawu a Jason, "Ndili wokondwa kuti ndaphunzira kuwona zonse zomwe ndimakana mkazi yemwe ndimamukonda kwambiri, ndikuthokoza kuti ndadzipereka ndekha ndichimwemwe."