Zamkati
“Mameseji ndi lipstick yatsopano pakolala, ndalama zabodza zomwe zabisidwa. Nthawi yomweyo komanso kuwoneka ngati wamba, atha kukhala chitsimikiziro chazinsinsi ", adatero a Laura Holson ku 2009. Ukadaulo wapanga chisankho; anthu salinso oletsedwa kulankhulana ndi iwo omwe amadziwa kale kapena amakumana nawo komanso za iwo. Tekinoloje sikuti imangopangitsa kuti kubera kubera mosavuta, yasintha momwe timaganizira zazomwe zimachitika pakubera ndikupangitsa kuti kusamve kusakhulupirika kukhale kosavuta. Kuchita chigololo sikumangotengera zochitika zamthupi kapena zamaganizidwe; matanthauzidwe ake akukula ndipo amasintha kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupita kwina: mndandanda wamauthenga opita kwa mlendo ukhoza kuvomerezedwa ndi munthu m'modzi, ndipo kusinthana kamodzi pa pulogalamu ya zibwenzi kumatha kukhala kuphwanya wina.
Zochitika zamakono
Masiku ano pali mawonekedwe owoneka ngati opanda malire a nsanamira zotumizira mauthenga zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zithe kulumikizana ndi mlendo kapena lawi lakale nthawi yomweyo, nthawi zambiri mosadziwika kapena mobisa. Snapchatting, kutumizirana ma Facebook, Tinder swiping, kutumizirana maimelo pa Instagram, Whatsapping ... kungotchulapo ochepa. Chikhulupiriro chazinthu zopanda pake pakati pa akatswiri apamwamba kwambiri ndi mlembi wake chalowa m'malo mwa "Tinder affair", yosavuta kubisala kuposa kuyanjana kwaofesi.
Kusambira moyenera
Tekinoloje yapatsa anthu mwayi wopeza chidziwitso ndi malingaliro, kutsutsa anthu kuti aziganiza mosiyana ndikufotokozera zamakhalidwe awo. Palibenso tanthauzo losavuta la kusakhulupirika, mwina kwa ena. Kwa ambiri, kusakhulupirika ndiko kusakhulupirika. Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pazomwe anthu amakhulupirira kuti kubera, ndipo izi zimatha kusintha kwa banja lililonse komanso munthu aliyense m'banjali. Pakafukufuku yemwe Slater ndi Gordon adachita, 46% ya amuna ndi 21% azimayi adavomereza kuti adagwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu azibwenzi ali pachibwenzi, ndikutopa komwe kumatchulidwa kwambiri chifukwa chachikulu. Zikuwoneka kuti ambiri, ambiri a ife timaganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu azibwenzi tili pachibwenzi ngati kubera (80% ya omwe adafunsidwapo), koma 10% adafika poti kunena kuti kugwiritsa ntchito kwawo ndikungobera ngati kungayambitse kukhudza thupi.
Kugula pa intaneti
Ndizotheka kunena kuti miyambo yamabanja yasokonekera kwa anthu ena. Ashley Madison, ntchito yopanga zibwenzi yolunjika kwa iwo omwe ali maubwenzi ndi maukwati (ndipo mawu awo kale anali "Moyo ndi waufupi: Khalani ndi chibwenzi"), amatamanda ogwiritsa ntchito pafupifupi 52 miliyoni kuyambira pomwe idakhazikitsidwa mu 2002. Noel Biderman, yemwe adayambitsa, adalimbana nawo podzudzulidwa, akunena kuti Ashley Madison mochenjera amathandiza anthu kuchita zinthu m'njira zosavulaza anthu komanso kunja kwa malo antchito. Ndipo mosasamala kanthu, adanena kuti "kusakhulupirika kwakhala kwanthawi yayitali kwambiri kuposa Ashley Madison". Koma m'nthawi yomwe chilichonse chimaikidwa pa intaneti mwanjira ina, kodi ndizotheka kukhala osadziwika komanso kusunga zinsinsi? Mwachionekere ayi. Tsamba la 'anzeru' lidabedwa mu 2015, zomwe zidapangitsa kuti owerenga 32 miliyoni atumizidwe pa intaneti ndikulongosola zobisika za mamiliyoni a anthu okwatirana.
Njira zopezera
Koma ukadaulo samangokondera okha omwe akufuna kufufuza zomwe angasankhe; uthenga uliwonse, chithunzi, ndi pulogalamu zimasiya chilichonse, ngakhale zitachotsedwa. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti abwenzi azipeza zosavomerezeka mwangozi. Kapenanso komwe kusintha kwamakhalidwe, kuyambira wakale "wogwira ntchito mochedwa" kupita kukasamba foni, achenjeza omwe akukayikira, intaneti imapereka njira zambiri zofufuzira. Pali zovuta kwambiri monga mayi yemwe adazindikira kuti mwamuna wake amanyenga atamuwona kunyumba ya ambuye ake pa Google Maps, ndipo zomwe zimachitika kwambiri zimawululidwa chifukwa cholemba pa Instagram post kapena kutumizira uthenga pafoni. Sikuti ndizosavuta kuvumbula chibwenzicho, ndimasewera a mwana kuti apeze dzina la mnzakeyo ndikungodinanso kuti mudziwe zina zomwe angafotokozere padziko lonse lapansi.
Mizere yachimbuuzimbuuzi
Tsopano tikukhala pakati pa anthu omwe amakhala ndikukambirana pa intaneti. Kodi tingayembekezere bwanji kuti zochitika, zithunzi, kapena mauthenga omwe angawoneke ngati opanda vuto azisungidwa mwachinsinsi pomwe tikulengeza pagulu za moyo wathu wonse? Chigololo chimasungidwa m'mafoni athu ndipo sichingasokonezedwe kapena kuyiwalika. Tanthauzo la chigololo lasintha kwa ambiri, mizere idasokonekera. Pali njira zambiri zabodza ndipo, mwina, mwayi wambiri wopatsidwa nsanja zapaintaneti zomwe zilipo tsopano. Ngakhale sizotheka kudziwa ngati pali zochitika zambiri, ndizosavuta kuwulula kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu. Mwina ndizosavuta kufufuza zosankha zina m'zaka zamakonozi.
Kate Williams
Kate Williams ndi loya wophunzitsidwa ku banja lapabanja komanso kampani yamalamulo okwatirana a Vardags omwe amakhazikika pamilandu yayikulu, yovuta komanso yapadziko lonse lapansi.