Zamkati
- Zinthu zoyamba poyamba. Kodi lamuloli silolumikizana ndi chiyani?
- Kodi nchifukwa chiyani mulibe lamulo lothandizira?
- Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zingasungidwe panthawi yamalamulo awa?
- Kuzonda wokondedwa wanu wakale
- Kupanga mankhwala amtundu uliwonse
- Kodi kulumikizana sikugwira ntchito nthawi yopatukana komanso itatha?
- Kodi simukuyenera kugwiritsa ntchito lamulo loti musalumikizane?
Ngati mwakhala mukufunafuna zambiri za maubwenzi pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja ndikumabwereranso ndi wakale mutasudzulana, ndiye kuti mwina mudamvapo mawu oti "Palibe lamulo lothandizira." Mukuganiza kuti chimenecho ndi chiyani? Ndizosavuta. Simumalumikizana ndi bwenzi lanu mwina kwa mwezi umodzi. Ngati mukuganiza kuti ndizosavuta ndikuloleni ndikuuzeni, sizophweka momwe zimawonekera. M'malo mwake, palibe lamulo lolumikizana ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe muyenera kuchita mukamatha kupatukana komanso ngati mukadakhala pachibwenzi ndi ex wanu kwa nthawi yayitali. Mukuganiza kuti ndichifukwa chiyani muyenera kudziphatika nokha pazovuta, makamaka mukazindikira kuvuta kwake? Chifukwa zimaberekadi ngati mutsatira lamulo loti musalumikizane m'njira yoyenera.
Musachite mantha. Posachedwa mupeza momwe nkhaniyi, chifukwa, komanso liti munkhaniyi. Tikambirana za mafunso anu onse ndikuthandizani kudziwa ngati kutsatira lamuloli kulibe vuto kwa inu kapena ayi.
Zinthu zoyamba poyamba. Kodi lamuloli silolumikizana ndi chiyani?
Monga momwe dzinali likusonyezera, lamulo loti musayanjane ndi loti musalumikizane ndi bwenzi lanu litatha. Tiyerekeze kuti mumakonda bwenzi lanu lakale kapena bwenzi lanu ndipo njira yokhayo yomwe ingakuletseni kuti musakhale osokoneza bongo ndikusiya kuganiza za iye ozizira. Izi ndi zomwe mudzakhala mukuchita mu lamuloli. Nthawi zambiri, anthu omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zibwenzi kapena zibwenzi zawo zakale amafunikira njira ngati kuzizira kuti athetse vuto lawo. Palibe lamulo lothandizira lomwe limatanthauza:
- Palibe mauthenga apompopompo
- Palibe mafoni
- Palibe kuthamangira mwa iwo
- Palibe mauthenga a Facebook kapena mtundu uliwonse wazanema
- Osapita kumalo awo kapena anzawo
Zimaphatikizaponso kusayika mauthenga pa WhatsApp ndi Facebook omwe mwachidziwikire amapangidwira iwo. Mutha kunena kuti palibe amene akudziwa koma wokondedwa wanu ndi wokwanira. Ngakhale uthenga wawung'ono ungakusokonezeni lamulo lanu lonselo.
Koma, kodi kulumikizana sikungathandize kuti bwenzi lakale libwererenso kapena bwenzi lakale? Kuti mupeze yankho la funsoli, ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse chifukwa chake kulumikizana sikugwira ntchito?
Kodi nchifukwa chiyani mulibe lamulo lothandizira?
Monga ndanenera poyamba, uyenera kuphunzira kukhala wopanda bwenzi lako lakale. Ndipo kuti muchite izi, lamulo loti palibe njira yolumikizirana ndi njira yabwino. Koma mutha kufunsa chifukwa chomwe muyenera kuphunzira kukhala opanda iwo pomwe cholinga chonse ndikubwerera nawo. Ndi chifukwa chakuti mukakhala wosauka kwambiri komanso wosimidwa, mumatha kubwerera msanga ndi bwenzi lanu lakale. Mukapitiliza kuyankhula za iwo, okondedwa anu angaganize kuti mwapanikizika kwambiri ndipo mukufuna kubwerera. Ndipo zonsezi zimakupangitsani kuti muwoneke osakondeka kwa okondedwa anu. Wokondedwa wanu sangakonde kukhala ndi munthu wosimidwa ndipo ndichifukwa chake mumafunikira nthawi yopuma osakhala nawo.
Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zingasungidwe panthawi yamalamulo awa?
Zoyenera kuchita osalumikizana ndi bwenzi lanu lakale kapena bwenzi lanu?
Muyeneradi kukhala osamala munthawi yamalamulo awa. Tengani izi ngati chizindikiro chochenjeza chifukwa ndikosavuta kugwera mumgundawu ndikungogwiritsa ntchito osalumikizana popanda kupita patsogolo muubwenzi wanu kapena m'moyo wanu.
Palibe kulumikizana panthawi yopatukana kumatanthauza kuti 'OSALumikizana' ndi mnzanu.
Kuzonda wokondedwa wanu wakale
Ndizofala kwambiri kwa anthu omwe adangothetsa banja lawo kuti akazonde ma ex 24/7 awo. Kuchokera pomwe akupita ndi omwe akumana nawo ndi zomwe adadya chakudya chamadzulo, anthu amafuna kudziwa chilichonse chaching'ono chokhudza wokondedwa wawo. Koma ndikuuzeni, awa ndi malingaliro oyipa kwambiri. Zinthu, monga kuwunika momwe Facebook ilili komanso kulumikizana ndi anzawo kuti adziwe komwe ali, zimangokupangitsani kukhala otengeka kwambiri ndikuzolowera. Ngati mungadzipezemo, ndiye kuti mukufunika kubwerera.
Apatseni nthawi ndikuwalola azindikire zomwe akusowa pamoyo wawo posakhala nanu m'moyo wawo. Ichi ndiye cholinga chachikulu chosagwirizana ndi malamulo. Mukakhala kutali ndi wakale wanu ndiye kuti atha kuzindikira kuti amakusowani bwanji ndipo pamapeto pake angafune kubwereranso.
Mwina mukuganiza kuti akuganiza chiyani osalumikizana? Kapena ngati bwenzi lanu likukuganiziranidi kapena ayi?
Ichi ndi chinthu chimodzi chomwe muyenera kumvetsetsa ndipo ndipanthawi ino osalumikizana nawo, osati inu nokha, koma wakale adzakusowani. Kusowa kwambiri mutha kuwatsogolera kuti akuyimbireni kapena pamapeto pake abwerere kwa inu. Koma zonsezi ndizotheka pokhapokha mutasiya kuzizonda.
Kupanga mankhwala amtundu uliwonse
Munthawi imeneyi, anthu amakopeka ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa, ndi zina zambiri. Koma zomwe muyenera kuzindikira ndikuti sangabweretsere wakale wanu ndipo samachiritsa chilichonse. M'malo mwake, zipangitsa kuti muziwoneka osatetezeka. Zili ngati kuika bandeji pamanja pakuthyoka. Osapanga mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Chofunikira cha lamulo lothandizira ndikuligwiritsa ntchito ngati pulogalamu ya detox kuti athe kuchotsa mbali zilizonse zakuda muubwenzi wanu ndi wakale. Poyamba, zidzakhala zovuta kuti mukhale kutali ndi wakale wanu koma pamapeto pake, zipangitsa kuti mukhale ndi mwayi wobwereranso ndi wakale wanu. Mphindi yomwe mungaganize zosiya kuyanjana ndi wakale wanu, mudzakhala ndi malingaliro osalamulirika kuti muwaimbire foni nthawi yomweyo. Izi ndizofala. Koma chomwe muyenera kukumbukira ndikuti kumverera koteroko kukutuluka pakusimidwa kwanu osati chifukwa choti mumawakonda. Chifukwa chake muyenera kukhala olimba panthawiyi osalumikizana ndikudziwitsa okondedwa anu kuti simuli ofooka. Ndipo umu ndi momwe mungayesere kuti mulibe lamulo lothandizira kuti mubwererenso m'moyo wanu.
Kodi kulumikizana sikugwira ntchito nthawi yopatukana komanso itatha?
Lamulo loti anthu azilumikizana m'banja nthawi zambiri limathandiza maanja kukonza ukwati wawo womwe walephera. Iyi yatsimikizira kuti ndi njira yabwino yobwererera ndi mkazi wakale kapena mwamuna wakale mosavuta. Koma, lamulo loti musayanjane mukapatukana m'banja kapena lamulo loti musalumikizane mukasudzulana kapena mutapatukana ndiosiyana kwambiri. Apa, banjali limayesera kudzichiritsa lokha, kuchotsa wakale m'miyoyo yawo, ndikupitilira njira zawo pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Izi ndizothandiza pomwe banja lidatha ndi mikangano yambiri ndikudzimvera chisoni, zomwe kukumbukira ndizopweteka komanso kosasangalatsa kuzikumbukira. Kuyanjana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi pambuyo pa chisudzulo sikukutanthauza kuti mukuyesera kuti muwabwezeretse m'moyo wanu. M'malo mwake, mukuyesera kuchotsa moyo wanu pa munthu yemwe adakupweteketsani ndikudzaza moyo wanu ndi zowawa.
Koma, ngati muli ndi mwana kuchokera muukwati, ndiye kuti lamulo loti musayanjane mukatha kusudzulana lingayambitse zovuta. Mwina mungadabwe kuti chidzachitike ndi chiyani ngati 'sititsatira lamulo lililonse, koma tili ndi mwana?' Chabwino! Yankho, mosasamala kanthu momwe lingamveke losamveka, ndizotheka kutsatira lamulo loti musayanjane ndikukhala ndi ana limodzi nthawi yomweyo.
Kodi simukuyenera kugwiritsa ntchito lamulo loti musalumikizane?
Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti No Contact Rule imatulutsa zotsatira zosiyana kutengera omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito - bwenzi / mwamuna kapena bwenzi / mkazi. Nthawi zambiri, kulumikizana komwe kwakhala njira yopanda tanthauzo poyesedwa kwa azimayi.
Amayi omwe amadzidalira omwe anali ndi chidziwitso chambiri chokhudzana ndi kutha kwanthawi yayitali, ndipo amakhala ndi kunyada kwambiri sangayesedwe kukhudzidwa ndi lamulo loti asalumikizane nalo lotsatiridwa ndi zibwenzi / amuna awo. Amuna mwachiwonekere, adzachita mosiyana ndi lamulo loti musalumikizane. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuti mumumvetsetse mnzanuyo kenako ndikusankha kutsatira lamuloli kapena osawabweza m'moyo wanu.