Zamkati
- 1. Kukayikira kumatha kuyambitsidwa ngati kuyankha chinthu chachilendo.
- 2. Kukayika kumatha kukhala kuchokera kupsinjika ndi chiyembekezo.
- 3. Kukayika kumatha kubisa mantha anu enieni.
- 4. Kukayika kungayambike chifukwa cha zokumana nazo zakale.
- 5. Zokayikira zomwe mnzake anganene akhoza kukhala okayikira.
- Momwe mungathetsere kukayika muubwenzi
Ndi mabanja omwe akuchulukirachulukira padziko lonse lapansi, ayenera kuganiza kuti palibe chikondi chamuyaya kapena wokwatirana naye. Koma bwanji ngati mukulakwitsa ndipo pali zifukwa zomwe maukwati samakhalitsa.
'Kukayikira ubale' ndichimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe banja kapena ubale uliwonse, zimayambira kutha.
Kuyambira kukayikira zolinga zenizeni za mnzanu zokhala nanu mpaka kukayika ngati adanama kapena kubera, kudzikayikira kwapha maubale ambiri kuposa momwe kudafikira mpaka banja.
Ngati mukukayikira za chibwenzi, tafotokozerani zifukwa zisanu ndi zitatu zakukayikira ubale. Izi zitha kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa ngati kukayika pachibwenzi kuli kofunika kapena koopsa.
1. Kukayikira kumatha kuyambitsidwa ngati kuyankha chinthu chachilendo.
Tikadzipereka ndikukhazikika pachibwenzi, timayamba kumvetsetsa anzathu mwachilengedwe. Timalosera mayankho awo, kudziwa machitidwe awo, ndikuwathandiza kuthana ndimasinthidwe awo.
Zonsezi zimachitika chifukwa timazolowera umunthu wawo komanso momwe alili munthu.
Komabe, kusintha pang'ono kapena china chosakhala chachizolowezi chimakupangitsanso inu kukayikira chibwenzi chanu.
Mutha kuyamba kudandaula za momwe zinthu zinachitikira kapena chifukwa chake.
2. Kukayika kumatha kukhala kuchokera kupsinjika ndi chiyembekezo.
Zochitika zakudziko zimatisungitsa ife tsiku lonse, ndipo nthawi zina kupsyinjika komwe timakhala nako kumatha kubweretsa kukayikira pazochitika zathu zaukwati. Ichi ndichifukwa chake tiyenera kupatula moyo wathu waluso kukhala wosiyana ndi wathu wachinsinsi.
Kupsinjika, kuda nkhawa, komanso kuyembekezera kuchokera kuntchito ndi ntchito zina zingayambitse kusamvana mobwerezabwereza komanso kukayikira ubale ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu.
Mudzapezeka kuti mukukayika chidwi cha mnzanuyo ndi chisamaliro chake kwa inu. Malingaliro otopa kale komanso opanikizika kale angakutsimikizireni kuti muganize kuti mwina wokondedwa wanu sasamala za inu, ndipo sizikhala zolondola.
3. Kukayika kumatha kubisa mantha anu enieni.
Nthawi zina wokondedwa amatha kukhala ndi chizolowezi chofunsa ndikukayika chilichonse.
Chifukwa chenicheni chokayikira za chibwenzi chanu ndikuti amabisa mantha awo ndikupempha wokondedwa wawo kuti awonetsetse kuti zonse zikuyenda bwino.
Kuopa kwa mnzanu kumatha kuyambira pakutaya inu, osapeza chikondi chenicheni, nkhani zodalira, kapena mwina zazing'ono monga mantha osadziwa zinthu.
Njira yothetsera izi ndi kuchotsa kukayikira komwe kumayambitsidwa isanakhale poizoni ndikudziwa bwino zomwe mantha a mnzanuyo ndikupeza zosowa zawo moyenera.
4. Kukayika kungayambike chifukwa cha zokumana nazo zakale.
Kaya mwawona banja losweka muubwana wanu kapena wina akukula, zokumana nazo zowopsa ngati izi zimatha kukhazikika pamunthu wanu. Ngakhale mutakhalapo pachibwenzi choyipa kale, ndiye Makhalidwe ena a mnzanuyo akhoza kukutsutsani.
Nthawi zina timayamba kuchita ngati anzathu ngati njira yodzitetezera kuti timvetsetse momwe akuwonera bwino ndikuchita nawo moyenera.
Chifukwa chake, kukayika kwanu kumachokera pazomwe zidachitikira pomwe kuthana ndi zochitika zomwe zidakhudzanso malingaliro anu kumakupangitsani kukayika ngakhale zabwino muubwenzi wanu.
Kuphunzira kuvomereza ndikuyamikira zabwino kungathandize kuthana ndi kukayikira koteroko ndikupangitsa kuti kukhale kothandiza kuposa poizoni.
5. Zokayikira zomwe mnzake anganene akhoza kukhala okayikira.
Nthawi zambiri abwenzi amakayikira chinthu chomwecho mwa chidwi chawo china chomwe amadzikayikira. Itha kukhala kuyambira pakuwadyetsa kusatsimikizika pakufunsidwa kudzidalira kwawo pamaso pa wokondedwa wawo.
Kukayika kwa maubwenzi otere kumapangitsa kukhala kovuta kwambiri kukhala ndi munthu wotero yemwe amangokakamira, kukuimba mlandu pazomwe simunachite, ndipo akhoza kuwongolera moyo wanu.
Zikakhala zovuta kwambiri, maubwenzi oterewa atha kudzetsa nkhanza, pomwe muyenera kukhazikitsa chitetezo chanu.
Momwe mungathetsere kukayika muubwenzi
Tsopano popeza tadziwa zina mwazifukwa zomveka zokayikirana ndi maubwenzi, otsatirawa akupatsidwa maupangiri othetsera kukayika kwa maubwenzi oopsawa.
1. Kukayikira kuyenera kufotokozedwa m'malo motsogozedwa
Njira yabwino yothetsera kukayika kulikonse muubwenzi ndikulankhula.
Chikaikiro chilichonse, mantha, kusamvetsetsa, komanso kusatetezeka zomwe zimafotokozedwa zidzasanduka nthunzi ngati sizinakhaleko. Ngati kuli kovuta kuyang'anizana ndi wokondedwa wanu pazinthu zomwe zikukusowetsani mtendere, mutha kufunafuna thandizo kuti mulembe zakukhosi kwanu ndikupangitsa mnzanuyo kuti awerenge kuti awone momwe angayankhire.
Mnzanu wofunitsitsa kuzigwiritsa ntchito nthawi zonse amalemekeza malingaliro anu.
2. Kukayika kuyenera kusiyanitsidwa ndi chibadwa ndi malingaliro am'matumbo
Nthawi zina timasokoneza kukayikira ubale wathu ngati malingaliro amnzeru kapena m'matumbo. Kuzindikira kusiyana ndikofunikira chifukwa komwe matumbo anu amatha kukhala othandiza, kukaikira kulibe.
Tanthauzo lomwe limaphatikizidwa kukayikira silabwino pomwe mukukhulupirira kuti china chake sichili bwino, pomwe, ndimatumbo, mumakonda kupanga lingaliro lophunzirira pazinthu zofananira.
3. Musalole kuti kukayika kusokoneze ubale wanu.
Kukayika mwaukatswiri kukayika pantchito kumatha kukhala kwathanzi koma osati m'moyo wanu wachinsinsi. Kukayika paubwenzi kumatha kusokoneza ubale wanu.
Kufunsa mafunso, kukayika, kufotokozera za mantha anu ndi kusatetezeka kwa mnzanu ndizo zikhalidwe za munthu yemwe ali ndi malingaliro owopsa ndipo sanaphunzirepo kukhala kunja kwa izo.
Ndiye, mungatani kuti musiye kukayikira chibwenzi?
Ndi bwino kutero yesetsani kukhala ndi chiyembekezo, funani chithandizo chamankhwala, kapena kusinkhasinkha kuti musinthe malingaliro anu olakwika ndikudzipulumutsa kuti musasunge malingaliro olakwika musanaphe ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa.
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Mfundo Yofunika
Ponseponse, banja lililonse liyenera kukulitsa kumvetsetsa komwe kumapangitsa kukayikira ubale kutha.
Ndipo ngakhale atakhala kuti akukayikira mbali ina iliyonse yaubwenzi wawo, ayenera kuyankhula momasuka kuti athetse vuto lawo osalola kuti likhale pansi ndikuwonetsa china chachikulu.
Palibe chikaiko pakunena kuti kukayikira ubale kumakhala poizoni muukwati wathanzi kapena ubale wina uliwonse.