Zamkati
- 1. Dzifunseni ngati mukufunadi kukhululuka
- 2. Ganizirani momwe mungakhululukire ndikupitilira
- 3. Dziwani kuti kukhululukirana ndikofunika m'banja
Ukwati ndi kukhululukirana zimayendera limodzi. Amati ukwati nthawi zambiri umasokoneza mgwirizano pakati pa anthu awiri, ndipo ndizowona. Mukuyenera kuti mupeze pomwe muyenera kuganizira momwe mungakhululukire mnzanu.
Ngati mukuganiza zokhululuka m'banja, muyenera kudzipatsa nthawi yosinkhasinkha. Muyenera kudziwa tanthauzo la kukhululuka komanso chifukwa chake kuli kofunika. Muyenera kukhululuka kwathunthu popanda kukaikira kapena kukaikira. Komabe, kuphunzira kuphunzira kukhululuka ndikuiwala sikophweka, ndipo Zimaphatikizapo kulimbana kwanthawi yayitali komanso kovuta ndi momwe mukumvera.
Kukhululuka m'banja ndi njira yomwe mumakwanitsira kuthana ndi malingaliro anu ndikusankha kukhululuka mnzanu chifukwa cha zolakwa zawo. Kukhululukirana muukwati kumatanthauza kuti mumasiyiratu chilango chomwe munkamva chifukwa cha zomwe mnzanuyo anachita ndikuphunzira kupitiriza.
Kufunika kokhululuka m'banja sikuyenera kuchepetsedwa. Kukhululukirana kowona muukwati ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti munthu akondwere. Kuphunzira kukhululuka ndikusiya kungakuthandizeni kuchiritsa mabala omwe mnzanuyo wachita.
Nawa maupangiri okuthandizani kuti muphunzire kukhululuka ndikusiya izi:
1. Dzifunseni ngati mukufunadi kukhululuka
Ichi ndi chinthu chokha chomwe mungasankhe. Muyenera ku yang'anani mozama zaukwati wanu, ndi mnzanu, pazomwe zidayambitsa mikangano, ndiyeno onani ngati muli wokonzekadi kukhululuka ndi kuyiwala.
Zina mwazinthu ndizosavuta kupitilira zina, chifukwa chake dzipatseni mpata woti muwonetsere ndikuwona ngati mungapite patsogolo ndi malingaliro oyenera.
Nkhondo zambiri za tsiku ndi tsiku zokhudzana ndi ndalama kapena zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku ndizosavuta kutha ndi nthawi. Ndi nkhani zazikulu monga kusakhulupirika kapena mabodza zomwe ndizovuta kwambiri m'chilengedwe.
Kukumba mozama, yang'anani mumtima mwanu, kenako ganizirani zomwe mukuyesera kuti mugwireh ndipo ngati mungadutse izi munthawi yake ..
Kumbukirani kuti kusunga zopweteka, kusakhulupirika, mkwiyo ndi zokhumudwitsa zimangodya nthawi yanu komanso mphamvu zanu ndipo pamapeto pake zimakupangitsani kuti muzinyansidwa ndi kukhumudwitsa mnzanu. Sikuti izi zitha kungoyambitsa maziko aubwenzi wanu komanso kukupangitsani kukhala okhumudwa komanso osasangalala.
Zindikirani chifukwa chake kukhululuka kuli kofunika, osati banja lanu komanso kwa inu nokha. Kutha kwanu kukhululuka muukwati kungakulimbikitseni inu m'maganizo komanso mwakuthupi.
2. Ganizirani momwe mungakhululukire ndikupitilira
Lingaliro lakukhululuka mnzanu lingawoneke ngati kuti ndinu wamkulu, zomwe mulidi, koma kwenikweni zimafunikira kulimba mtima komanso kudekha. Nazi njira zina zofunika kutengera momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kukhululuka muukwati ndikusunthira patsogolo:
- Kukhululukirana m'banja kumayamba ndi kukhala omasuka ndi omvera kuti mumve zomwe mnzanu akunena. Yesetsani kumvetsera ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zawakakamiza kapena kuwakakamiza kuti apange zolakwika zomwe adachita.
- Munthawi imeneyi onetsetsani kuti mukufotokozanso momwe zolakwa zawo zakupwetekerani kapena kukupangitsani kumva. Musanapange chisankho chomveka chokhululuka mnzanuyo muyenera kuyankhulanso zakukhosi kwanu.
- Kuvomereza zolakwa za mnzanu sizitanthauza kuti mukuzinyalanyaza.
- Malingaliro anu angakhale odzaza ndi zithunzi zakusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu zomwe zingakupangitseni kufuna kuchita zinthu zonyoza mnzanu. Kuponya miyala mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo kumangopangitsa kukhululuka kukhala kovuta.
- Ngakhale kubwezera kapena kubwezera kumawoneka ngati malo abwino okwiya, kungokulitsa zowawa zanu ndikuchepetsa mwayi wakukhazikitsanso kukhulupirirana ndi ulemu muubwenzi wanu.
- Dzipatseni nthawi yokwanira momwe mungafunire, zimakuthandizani kuti muwone zochitikazo mosiyana. Mudzakhala ndi malingaliro osiyana oti mukuyenera kumukhululukira mnzanuyo kapena ayi. Khalani oleza mtima ndikupempha thandizo ngati mukufuna kutero, funsani othandizira, othandizira kapena abwenzi.
Ngati mukuyesera kuthana ndi china chake monga kukhululuka kusakhulupirika, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri imakhala nkhani yovuta kwambiri yomwe imayenera kukonzedwa koyamba. Ngati nonse mumalimbana ndi china chake chomwe chimawoneka ngati chaching'ono nkhanizi zimathetsedwa mosavuta.
Nayi kanema yayikulu yokhudzana ndi kukhululuka kudzera mukusinkhasinkha:
3. Dziwani kuti kukhululukirana ndikofunika m'banja
Ngati muli pabanja losangalala ndipo mukufuna kukhala motere, nthawi idzafika nthawi yomwe mudzayenera kukhululuka china kapena chimzake. Ngakhale zitakhala zotani, muyenera kuyesetsa momwe mungakhalire ndi mzimu wokhululuka.
Ichi ndi chinthu chomwe mungasankhe nokha, koma mukafika kumeneko mutha kupeza mphamvu ndikukhala ogwirizana ngati banja, chomwe ndiye cholinga chachikulu.
Muyenera kuyesetsa momwe mungathere kulankhulana ndi mnzanu makamaka akawonetsa kulapa kwenikweni ndipo ali okonzeka kuvomereza zotsatira za zomwe achita. Kulankhulana bwino ndi msana wa banja.
Zolakwa za mnzanuyo sizitanthauza kuti sakukondani. Aliyense amalakwitsa ndipo aliyense amafunika kukhululukidwa nthawi ndi nthawi, zomwe zili zofunika, kufunitsitsa kwa wokondedwa wanu kukonza.
Kusunga ukwati popanda kukhululukirana ndizosatheka. Ndiye ngakhale zitakhala zovuta motani panthawiyo, chibwenzi chanu chimafunika kukhululukidwa kuti chikhale bwino.
Kukhululukirana ndi banja kumakhala kovuta nthawi zina koma ndichinthu chomwe tonsefe timayenera kuthana nacho nthawi ina. Ngati mukufunitsitsadi kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito, muyenera kudzifunsa ngati mungakhululukire ndikuiwala. Inezingatenge nthawi ndikuchiritsa, koma malingaliro oyenera pamapeto pake amakupangitsani kukhala osangalala m'kupita kwanthawi!