Zamkati
- Momwe mungathetsere mavuto m'banja
- 1. Lekani kukangana
- 2. Sinthani mtima wanu
- 3. Kuthetsa mavuto aubwenzi
- 4. Bwerani ndi chisankho
- Sinthani malingaliro anu mwanzeru
Kukhala pachibwenzi angathe kukupangitsani kumva ngati kuti muli pamwamba padziko lapansi. Kukhala ndi munthu wokonda ndikumuthandiza ndizodabwitsa. Tsoka ilo, vuto likabuka, limatha kuchepetsa zinthu. Mavuto abwenzi zimachitika.
Mobwerezabwereza, ofufuza ndi akatswiri anena kulankhulana kumathandiza kwambiri polinganiza maubale pakati pa abwenzi. Ndipo, imodzi mwa zofunikira paubwenzi itha kukhala yokhudzana ndi kuchepa kapena kulumikizana.
Kumbali imodzi, kulumikizana kwabwino kumatha kuyambitsa mikangano pakati pa okwatirana ndi mavuto ena am'banja. Koma, kumbali inayo, kulumikizana mwachipongwe kumatha kusokoneza thanzi ndi moyo waukwati, potero kumabweretsa mavuto ena azibwenzi.
Wofufuza zaukwati, a John Gottman amasungitsa kuyankhulana kwachipongwe chifukwa chowononga zosatheka chifukwa cha mavuto am'mabanja, omwe pamapeto pake amathetsa banja.
Ndipo gawo lodabwitsa apa ndi maubwenzi oyipa omwe atha kubweretsa thanzi.
Kusamvana kumachitika ndipo zolakwitsa zimapangidwa, koma momwe mumasankhira kuthana ndi mavuto azibwenzi ndizofunika kwambiri.
Kaya vuto ndi liti, nazi momwe mavuto amgwirizano amayenera kuchitidwira. Onani malangizo otsatirawa kuti muthane ndi mavuto a m'banja.
Komanso, werengani - Momwe mungathetsere mavuto amnzanu
Momwe mungathetsere mavuto m'banja
Mabanja onse ndi osiyana, kotero banja lililonse kapena ubale uliwonse umakhala ndi nkhani yosiyana.
Mphamvu zakugonana ndizosiyana, momwemonso mavuto amgwirizano.
Ndizowona kuti anthu awiri amakhala nthawi yayitali wina ndi mnzake, ndizotheka azimanga nyanga pafupipafupi tsiku lililonse likadutsa. Koma, chikondi ndi chikondi wina akumvera mnzake ndikwanira kufafaniza mavuto amgwirizano.
Komanso, werengani - Momwe mungathetsere mavuto amgwirizano popanda kutha
Koma, ayenera kutero phunzirani chinyengo za motani kuthana ndi mavuto amgwirizano ngati pro.
Tsopano, pali mavuto ena m'banja omwe atha kukulira pakapita nthawi. Nkhani ngati -
- Kulephera kugonana / umagwirira ntchito pakati pa abwenzi
- Kubera ndikuwunika njira zina kunja kwa banja
- Njira zosiyanasiyana zogwiritsira ntchito ndalama
- Zinthu zosasinthidwa zam'mbuyomu
- Kulephera kulankhulana, ndi zina zotero
Koma, maanja atha kugwira ntchito limodzi kuti akwaniritse cholinga chimodzi chokhazikitsira zinthu potsatira malangizo ena othandiza pamavuto abwenzi.
1. Lekani kukangana
Kukangana sikungathetse chilichonse.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa 2019, mabanja 20% akuti adakangana ndi okondedwa awo pankhani zandalama kamodzi pa sabata.
Zotere mikangano angathe sinthani mavuto ang'onoang'ono pachibwenzi zikuluzikulu. Kuti muthane ndi zovuta nthawi yoyamba muyenera kuchita akusiya kukangana. M'malo mokangana, okwatirana ayenera kutero sungani vutoli modekha.
Koma, mbali inayo ya ndalama imati awiriwa omwe amamenyera limodzi amakhala limodzi. Wolemba mabuku wogulitsa kwambiri ku NYT, a Joseph Grenny akuti, "Kupambana kwa ubale kumatsimikizika ndi momwe nkhani zazikulu zimakhudzidwira."
Chifukwa chake mukuwona, kukangana sikoyipa konse, ngati kuchitidwa moyenera. M'malo mwake, titha kuziyika motere - lankhulani moona mtima komanso modekha.
2. Sinthani mtima wanu
Vuto lalikulu laubwenzi lomwe limabzala ndi liti abwenzi sangathe kusamalira malingaliro awo.
Kafukufuku wokhudza Kukhudzidwa kwa Maganizo Pakati pa Ubale Kusamvana Pakati pa Mgwirizano akuti kukhumudwa komwe m'modzi mwaomwe amakhala nako kumalumikizidwa mwachindunji ndi zovuta za mnzake.
Kuyankha molakwika pokambirana kumatha kukopa mawu ofanana ndi enawo.
Chifukwa chake, musanathetse nkhaniyo, khalani ndi nthawi yolimbitsa mtima.
Kuvomereza kuti musiye kukangana ndikuchitadi izi ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana. Tengani nthawi kuti muzizire ndikukhazikika
Kusankha kutero ndi kwanzeru kwambiri.
Mukufuna kuthana ndi vutoli ndi mutu wofanana.
3. Kuthetsa mavuto aubwenzi
Maganizo akayamba kulamulidwa, kuthana ndi mavuto amgwirizano ndi kulankhulana bwino, mmodzi ndi mmodzi. Umu ndi momwe mumachitira ndi mavuto amukwati.
Njira yokhayo yoyambira ndikulankhula. Kafukufuku akuti pali njira zinayi zoyankhulirana m'mayanjano; aliyense amabwera ndi gawo lawo labwino komanso zabwino zake. Tsopano zili kwa maanja kuti amvetsetse mtundu uti womwe ungagwire bwino ntchito mkati Kuthetsa kusamvana pakati pawo.
Magulu onsewa ali ndi choti anene ndipo zinthuzo ziyenera kunenedwa. Ino ndi nthawi yoti mukhale omasuka ndi mnzanu ndikufotokozera momwe mukumvera popanda kukhala wopanda ulemu kapena wokangana.
4. Bwerani ndi chisankho
Pambuyo popatula nthawi yolankhula, yambani kugwira ntchito kuti mukwaniritse cholinga chimodzi, i.e. chisankho.
Nthawi ina, wina amayenera kunena kuti, "Tiyeni tithetse izi kuti tithe kupita patsogolo". Ngati ndichinthu chopusa, ikani zinthu moyenera ndikuzisiya. Pazovuta zazikulu, pezani yankho kuti imagwira ntchito bwino mbali zonse.
Akatswiri monga katswiri wama psychology komanso wothandizira zibwenzi, Samantha Rodman akuti, "Mukamagona tulo tofa nato, mutha kuwona mosavuta zomwe mnzanuyo ali nazo ndikumvera chisoni, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti pamapeto pake mutha kumaliza."
Koma, ofufuza ena adapeza kuti amuna samakwanitsa kupondereza kukumbukira komwe atagona kuposa momwe amagonera asanagone.
Kubwera ndi yankho loyenera musanagone pabedi kungapulumutse ubale wanu kuti usatsike. Izi mwina kuphatikizapo kusintha kotero dziperekeni kuchitapo kanthu. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuthetsa mavuto aubwenzi ndikuthandizira banja lanu kukula ndikulimba.
Sinthani malingaliro anu mwanzeru
Pambuyo pokonza chisankho, ndi nthawi yoti takulandilaninso posachedwa kulowa muubwenzi. Pitani kokacheza, mukadzaze pabedi kapena musangalale kwambiri usiku m'chipinda chogona.
Mukamakumana ndi mavuto m'banja mwanu moyenera, kupanga ndi kodabwitsa.
Kusintha malingaliro anu pang'ono ndikuthana ndi mavuto mwanzeru kutero atenge gawo lofunikira pakupulumutsa banja lanu ndikuwongoleranso kwambiri.