Zamkati
- Yang'anani pa khalidwe lanu
- Limbikirani, yamikani ndi kuvomereza zosiyana
- Lekani kuyesa kusintha mnzanu
- Tengera kwina
Chikondi ndi ulemu muukwati ndizofunikira kwambiri. Kuti mukonde winawake, muyenera kumulemekeza popeza ndizosatheka kumuzindikira amene amakukondani ngati simumulemekeza. Chachikulu ndichakuti, ndife anthu, ndipo chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pachibwenzi choyenera chimayenera kukhazikitsidwa.
Ulemu umatayika muukwati ngati mnzanu salemekeza komanso kuganizira momwe mukumvera. Izi zimabweretsa mavuto, ndipo m'modzi kapena onse awiri akhoza kusiya kumverera kuti sakulemekezedwa komanso kusayamikiridwa. Banja lopanda ulemu lingasokoneze chikondi chomwe chimakhalapo pakati panu.
Palibe ulemu muubwenzi kapena kutaya ulemu muubwenzi ndiyo njira yachangu kwambiri yowonongera. Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe maanja amapatukana ndi kusowa ulemu. Zimakhudza chikondi ndiubwenzi womwe ali nawo, pomalizira pake zimapanga kulumikizana komwe kuli kovuta kuchokerako.
Kukula kwa ulemu komwe okwatirana amalemekezana kumatanthawuza chisangalalo chomwe amakhala nacho mu banja lawo.
Ulemu m'banja ndiwofunika kwambiri pamachitidwe a banja. Chifukwa chake, kuyisunga kapena kuyitsitsimutsa ndikofunika.
Zingaoneke ngati zovuta, koma ndizotheka kuyambiranso ulemu muukwati. Ndikotheka kubwerera kumalo komwe inu ndi mnzanu mudawonana koyamba muubwenzi wanu.
Ngati mukumverera kuti mulibe chikondi ndi ulemu, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu kuti mubwezeretse.
Mwamwayi, kuyambiranso ulemu ndi chikondi m'banja zitha kuchitika. Nazi njira zosonyezera ulemu ndikupeza kuchokera kwa mnzanu:
Yang'anani pa khalidwe lanu
Langizo labwino kwa bweretsani chikondi ndi ulemu mu banja lanu ndikungoyang'ana pakusintha machitidwe anu. Zikafika pokhala munthu waulemu komanso kuchitira mnzanu ulemu, muli nokha. Yang'anirani kusintha komwe muyenera kusintha.
Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala wopanda ulemu komanso wokwiya. Komabe, mwina mwina simunali olondola nthawi zonse. Kulankhulana momasuka ndi moona mtima ndikofunikira pobwezeretsa chikondi ndi ulemu m'banja.
Mbali inayi, kumanga gridlock yamalingaliro ndipo ayi kulankhulana malingaliro anu ndi wokondedwa wanu yekha kunamizira kawopsedwe wamaganizidwe.
Chibwenzi chanu chikayamba kusokonezeka m'maganizo, mumasiya kuganizira za kulumikizana kwanu. Mumalimbikira kwambiri zolakwitsa komanso zokhumudwitsa zamakhalidwe a mnzanu m'malo moyesa kupeza njira yothetsera.
Ganizirani momwe mumalankhulira ndi mnzanu, zinthu zomwe mumanena, ndi momwe mumazinenera. Ngati onse awiri achita izi, ulemu ukhoza kukhazikitsidwanso. Ingochitirani mnzanu momwe mungafunire kuti akuchitireni.
Khalani odekha, khalani chete, ndikutsegulira wokondedwa wanu zakukhosi kwanu, mvetserani kwa iwo, ndipo gwirizaninso ndi chifundo chachikondi, kukoma mtima, kuyamikira, ndi kuthokoza. Lolani kuti lekani mtima wanu ndi kuganizira kukonza chikondi ndi ulemu mbanja.
Limbikirani, yamikani ndi kuvomereza zosiyana
Wina njira yabwino yolowetsera chikondi ndi ulemu muukwati ndiko kuphunzira kulekerera, kuyamikira, ndi kuvomereza kusiyana. Okwatirana asemphana, ndipo adzakhala ndi malingaliro otsutsana.
Kulandira, kulekerera, ndi kulemekeza malingaliro a mnzanu ndipo malingaliro adzatsogolera ku kuvomereza, ndipo kuvomereza kumalimbikitsa chikondi.
Kusamvana ndi gawo la banja lililonse, koma momwe mumathana ndi kusamvana ndiko kusiyana kwakukulu pakati paukwati wabwino ndi wopanda thanzi.
Wokondedwa wanu ali ndi ufulu wamaganizidwe awo ndi momwe akumvera. Kusagwirizana sikuyenera kukupangitsani kunyoza kapena kukhumudwitsa mnzanu.
Khalani achifundo mwachidwi mukakumana ndi mnzanu. Ayang'aneni iwo m'maso mwawo, khalani omasuka, ndipo kumbukirani zinthu zomwe mumayamikira za mnzanu. Kumbukirani kuti inu ndi mnzanu mukuchita zonse zomwe angathe ndipo mochuluka kapena mukuvutika monga inu.
Pamafunika khama komanso kuleza mtima kuti musunge ulemu kudzera munthawi ya chibwenzi. Kuchitira mnzanu ulemu mopanda ulemu, mosamuganizira, komanso mochititsa kuti azichita zomwezo.
Landirani malingaliro anu osiyana, Yamikirani zomwe akuthandizani, khalani ndi mwayi wokambirana momasuka kuti musankhe zochita limodzi, ndikukambirana ngati pakufunika kutero.
Lekani kuyesa kusintha mnzanu
Ulemu ndi chikondi mu banja nthawi zambiri zimawonongeka pamene okwatirana akufuna kusintha anzawo. Kuyesera kusintha wina kumangokupangitsani kuiwala chithunzi chachikulu.
M'malo moyesetsa kutchula mnzanuyo mukamasemphana ndi zomwe akuchita kapena kuwauza zochita, chitani mbali yanu, ndikuyesetsa pangani malo aulemu komanso achikondi.
Njirayi ndiyothandiza chifukwa mukutsogolera. Nthawi zambiri ulemu umabwezedwa ukaperekedwa. Kuyesera kusintha mnzanu, kumbali inayo, kumabweretsa mavuto.
Onani kanemayu pansipa pomwe Heather Lindsey akukambirana momwe kuyerekezera mnzanu ndi ena ndikuyesera kuwasintha sizolondola ndipo muyenera kuwakhulupirira momwe alili:
Tengera kwina
Pomaliza, monga banja, mumakhala ndi maudindo ena omwe munagwirizana mosadziwa kapena mosazindikira. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti ziribe kanthu momwe mnzanu amasewera nanu nthawi zonse muzilemekeza zoyesayesa zawo.
Kwa iwo omwe akuvutika kupanga malo olemekezeka kwambiri, lingalirani chithandizo. Therapy imathandiza maanja kukambirana zovuta, kuzithetsa, ndikusintha mikhalidwe yopanda ulemu.