Zamkati
- Ganizirani zomwe angachite
- Ganizirani zomwe mudzanene
- Khalani ndi nthawi yolankhula
- Sungani zokambiranazo kukhala zotukuka
- Osaloza zala
- Gwirizanani nthawi ina kuti mukambirane zambiri
Yakwana nthawi. Simunaganize kuti zidzafika mpaka pano muukwati wanu, koma mwatha.
Mwaika mtima wanu ndi moyo wanu kuti ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu uzigwira ntchito, koma zinthu zangokhala zopanda pake. Tsoka ilo, banja lanu latha.
Mwadziuza nokha, "Ndikufuna kusudzulana". Mwa chisankho, mutsimikiza.
Tsopano pakubwera gawo lovuta: momwe mungauze amuna anu kuti mukufuna chisudzulo?
Kaya mwakwatirana chaka chimodzi kapena zaka 25, kuuza amuna anu kuti mukufuna kuthetsa banja kudzakhala kovuta kwambiri pamoyo wanu. Pali njira zambiri zothetsera izi, ndipo momwe mungachitire izi zimakhudza kwambiri momwe chisudzulocho chimasewera.
Kodi chisudzulocho chikhala choyipa, kapena chingakhale chaboma? Ngakhale zifukwa zambiri zimasewera pa izi, momwe mumauza mnzanu kuti mukufuna kusudzulana ndichimodzi mwazinthuzi. Chifukwa chake khalani oganiza bwino pamene mukuchita izi.
Nawa maupangiri amomwe mungapemphere kuti banja lanu lithe:
Ganizirani zomwe angachite
Pali njira zosiyanasiyana zonena kuti mukufuna kusudzulana. Yesani kuyerekezera mayankho ake posankha njira yolankhulira ndi mnzanuyo.
Kodi mukuganiza kuti amuna anu akudziwa momwe muliri osasangalala? Komanso, kumbukirani kuti pali kusiyana pakati pa kusasangalala konse ndi chisudzulo. Kodi pali chilichonse chachitika, kapena munanenapo chilichonse m'mbuyomu chosonyeza ngati mukufuna kapena ayi?
Ngati sadziwa kanthu, izi zikhala zovuta kwambiri; kwa iye, zitha kumveka ngati zachoka kumunda wakumanzere, ndipo atha kumenyera poyera ngakhale kutchulidwa kwa lingalirolo.
Komabe, ngati mukuganiza kuti atha kukhala ndi chidziwitso, ndiye kuti zokambirana izi zitha kukhala zosavuta. Ngati akuchoka kale, atha kukhala kuti akuganiza kuti banja likumenyanirana, ndipo zokambiranazi zikuyembekezeredwa ngati gawo lachilengedwe kwa iye.
Ganizirani zomwe mudzanene
Ndi zomwe angachite m'maganizo mwanu, ndi nthawi yoti muganizire zomwe mungamuuze. M'malo mongodandaula kuti mungamuuze bwanji kuti mukufuna kusudzulana, mutha kuyamba ndikulankhula zakumva kuti simunasangalale kwakanthawi, komanso kuti mwasiyana.
Kenako muuzeni kuti mwakhala mukuwona kwakanthawi kuti ukwatiwo sungagwire ntchito ndipo mukufuna kusudzulana. Onetsetsani kuti mwanena mawu, motero akumveka.
Dikirani kuti ayankhe. Mosakayikira adzakhala ndi mafunso.
Khalani ambiri. Ngati angafunse zenizeni, yesetsani kuti zizikhala choncho. Ngati mukuyenera, ingotchulani zingapo zofunika, koma kambiranani za momwe uliri moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku wosasangalala osati zomwe mukufuna.
Ngati mukufuna kutero, musanakumane, lembani malingaliro anu kuti muthe kuwalinganiza ndikukhala okonzeka. Zokambirana zouza mnzanu kuti mukufuna kusudzulana sizingakhale zophweka kwa inu komanso mnzanu.
Koma, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungamuuzire kuti mukufuna kusudzulana osapatsa mpata wokanganirana kapena kukangana pakati pa nonse awiri.
Khalani ndi nthawi yolankhula
Uzani amuna anu kuti muyenera kuyankhula naye za china chake ndikukhazikitsa nthawi ndi tsiku. Pitani kwina komwe mungakhale nokha ndikukhala limodzi kukambirana.
Zimitsani mafoni anu, pezani wosamalira ana — chilichonse chomwe muyenera kuchita kuti nonse musasokonezedwe ndikukhala osadodometsedwa mukamayankhula. Mwinamwake kunyumba kwanu, kapena paki, kapena kwinakwake komwe mumakhala nokha kuti mulankhule ndi amuna anu za chisudzulo.
Sungani zokambiranazo kukhala zotukuka
Kodi ndi njira ziti zabwino zophunzitsira mnzanu kuti athetse banja popanda kukhumudwitsidwa ndi mnzake?
Mukamayankhula, zinthu zimayamba kukhala zovuta, zotentha, kapena zonsezi. Njira yabwino yodziwira mnzanu kuti mukufuna kusudzulana ndiyo kukhalabe anthu wamba ngakhale mutakhala nokha.
Mwamuna wanu akachita zinthu mopupuluma, musagwere mumsampha womwewo ndikukwiya. Mukapanda kuyankha, atha kunena zinthu zokuyesani kukusokonezani, koma osazigwiranso.
Kumbukirani zomwe mukuchita pano - mukungomudziwitsa zomwe mukufuna. Cholinga chanu chachikulu ndikusudzulana, zomwe ndizovuta mokwanira. Osazipangitsa kukhala zoyipitsitsa polola kuti zokakamiza zikulamulireni.
Osaloza zala
Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kukumbukira mukamafufuza njira zouza mwamuna wanu kuti mukufuna kusudzulana ndi kuti musamaloze mnzanuyo zala.
Pokambirana, komanso mkati mwa milungu ingapo pambuyo pake, amuna anu akhoza kukufunsani zovuta kapena zochitika zina zomwe aliyense wa inu ali ndi vuto.
Akhozanso kukulozerani chinyengo pomwe akuyesera kuti mubwezereni zala. Osasewera masewerawa. Mutha kupita m'magulu omwe amabwera ndi omwe anali vuto lawo.
Zowona zake, vuto limakhala nonse pang'ono. Pakadali pano, zakale sizilibe kanthu. Chofunika ndi pano komanso mtsogolo.
Gwirizanani nthawi ina kuti mukambirane zambiri
Kodi mungalankhulenso bwanji ndi amuna anu mukafuna kusudzulana?
Izi sizikhala zosavuta ndipo sipadzakhala zokambirana za nthawi imodzi. Zambiri zimabwera, ndipo ngati nonse mukugwirizana kuti mupite patsogolo ndi chisudzulocho, ndiye kuti mudzakhala mukukambirana zambiri.
Kukambirana koyamba ndikungomuuza kuti mukufuna kusudzulana. Palibe china, osachepera! Ngati atulutsa zambiri, muuzeni kuti mukungofuna kanthawi kokhako ndi tsiku lomwe mudzakambirane za ndalama, ana, ndi zina zambiri.
Malangizo awa akuyenera kuyika kukayikira kwanu momwe mungauzire amuna anu kuti mukufuna kuti banja lithe. Kulimbana ndi chisudzulo sikophweka. Koma pakadali pano, mutha kupumula podziwa kuti mudati mtendere wanu ndipo mutha kupita patsogolo.