Zamkati
- 1. Zinthu zoyamba - yambirani zonse ziwiri
- 2. Limbikitsani kukambirana moona mtima mukatha kuyang'anizana ndi amuna anu
- 3. Bwererani ndikuwonanso ubale wanu
- 4. Funani akatswiri kuti alowererepo, m'njira iliyonse
- 5. Ino ndi nthawi yothana ndi chibwenzi
- Womba mkota
Amuna anga andinamiza ndi mzanga wapamtima!
Phokoso la mawuwa palokha ndi lokhumudwitsa kotero kuti ngakhale alangizi ovomerezeka a maukwati kapena akatswiri amisala nthawi zambiri amaopa kuthana ndi milandu ngati imeneyi. Chifukwa chokhala-
Kusakhulupirika pachibwenzi chilichonse kumakhala kowopsa.
Zimakhala zoyipitsitsa mosayerekezereka kwa mkazi aliyense kudziwa kuti mkazi winayo ndiye mnzake wapamtima. Umu ndi momwe zimakhalira kuperekedwa kawiri ndipo ndizopweteka kwambiri. M'malo mwake, pambuyo popezeka kwa chibwenzicho, pamakhala malingaliro angapo ophatikizika ndi zowawa komanso kusakhulupirika.
Pali mkwiyo ndipo nthawi zina, kufooka kwa mnzanu wapamtima komanso mwamuna.
Komabe, ngakhale poyang'aniridwa ndi anthu awiri apamtima kwambiri kwa inu, ndikofunikira kuti musaletse kukwiya. Kuchita izi kungakhale ndipo kungavulaze kuchira kwanu (chifukwa chakulephera kukhala ndi zokambirana zabwino) komanso moyo wabwino.
Munthawi imeneyi, pali mafunso mamiliyoni ambiri omwe amayenda m'mutu mwanu, ndipo zimaipiraipira pamene pali ana omwe akukhudzidwa. Mumayamba kukayikira kufunikira kwanu, kudzidalira kwanu kumatsika ndipo zikwizikwi za mbendera zofiira zomwe mwina simunanyalanyaze zimayamba kusefukira pamutu panu.
Koma, ngakhale mutamva kuti chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita ndikusudzula amuna anu ndikumuchotsa, pamakhala chiyembekezo china. Ndipo makamaka kutengera kuopsa kwa kubera- pafupipafupi, kutalika kwa kubera, ndi ndani winanso amene akukhudzidwa.
Pansipa pali malangizo ndi malangizo asanu omwe amuna anga onse adandinamizira ndi milandu ya abwenzi anga.
1. Zinthu zoyamba - yambirani zonse ziwiri
Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri chifukwa mantha ndi mkwiyo zomwe zimakhudza mayiyu atapeza izi ndizazikulu kwambiri, atha kukusiyani mumkhalidwe woyipa komanso wokhumudwa zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala osayenerera kukambirana nthawi yomweyo.
Kungakhale kothandiza ngati mungadzipatule kwa amuna anu ndi abwenzi anu apamtima, makamaka nthawi yoyambirira kapena masiku atabadwa chibwenzi.
Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa zimakupatsani inu kanthawi kochepa kuti musinthe momwe mukumvera ndikuganiza koti mungayambire.
Kugona kunyumba kwa wachibale kapena kwinakwake nokha kungaoneke koyenera mpaka mutha kufikira mwamunayo modekha.
2. Limbikitsani kukambirana moona mtima mukatha kuyang'anizana ndi amuna anu
Mukadakhala kuti mwakhazika mtima pansi ndipo tsopano mutha kufikira amuna anu, onetsetsani kuti mwakhazikitsa zowona zakusakhulupirika kwake.
Lankhulani molimba mtima komanso poyera momwe mikhalidwe yake yakukhudzirani ndipo mufunse kuti akufotokozereni molunjika zomwe zidapangitsa kuti achite chibwenzicho. Komanso, kudziwa zambiri zamanyazi momwe chibwenzicho chidayambira komanso zomwe zidadzetsa izi sizingachepetse ululu womwe mukumva kapena kumva, kumvetsetsa bwino chifukwa chomwe wakunyengani kungakupatseni kumvetsetsa bwino za mkhalidwe wonse.
Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri pakukuyikani panjira yoyenera yochiritsidwa ndikukhululukidwa, kukulolani kupanga ziweruzo ndi zisankho zolingalira.
3. Bwererani ndikuwonanso ubale wanu
Tsopano popeza muli ndi tsatanetsatane wa chibwenzi, ndi nthawi yoti muunikenso zaubwenzi wanu.
Nthawi zambiri, kuchita zibwenzi kunja kumangokhala kopanda tanthauzo komanso kosakonzekera monga momwe munthu angafunire. Izi mwina ndi mawonetseredwe a vuto lalikulu, losayankhidwa laukwati lomwe lakhala likudya muubwenzi wathanzi kwazaka zambiri.
Mukamapanga tsatanetsatane wazomwe zachitika, ndibwino kuti musanthule ukwati wanu ndikudzifunsa mafunso angapo.
Kodi nonse mwakhala osangalala muukwati? Kodi banja lakhala likukumana ndi zosowa zanu zonse ziwiri? Kodi nonse mumatha kulankhulana bwino? Nanga bwanji mwakuthupi?
Mwanjira ina kapena imzake, mafunso awa atha kukusonyezani zomwe zingathandize kupita patsogolo posankha chilichonse.
4. Funani akatswiri kuti alowererepo, m'njira iliyonse
Zomwe mwamuna wanu amakhala ndiudindo pazinthu zonse, pali chifukwa chomvetsetsa kuti kudzudzula, kutchulana mayina kapena kusakhazikika sikungakuthandizeni kwenikweni mukamapanga zisankho mozindikira.
Kaya mungasankhe kukhala ndikuyesera kukonza zinthu kapena mukuwona kuti ndibwino kuti mupatukane, chilichonse chomwe sichikuthandizani kupita patsogolo ndimphamvu zopanda pake.
Ndi kwanzeru kufunsa thandizo kwa mlangizi waluso kapena atsogoleri achipembedzo omwe nonse mumadziwa bwino komanso mumamasuka kulankhula nawo, makamaka ngati mukuona kuti simutha kuletsa zomwe mukumva.
Mlangizi wophunzitsidwa bwino angakuthandizeni kuphunzira njira zatsopano zolankhulirana komanso zopumulira. Momwemonso, mlangizi waluso paukwati ali ndi mwayi wokuthandizani kuzindikira ndi kuwunika zomwe zingayambitse kusakhulupirika kwa amuna anu.
5. Ino ndi nthawi yothana ndi chibwenzi
Zomverera zonse zakusakhulupirika, mkwiyo, ndi chisoni zomwe muli nazo za amuna anu, ndizotheka kuti inunso mumamva chimodzimodzi ndi mnzanu wapamtima.
Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndichinthu chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa.
Ngati mungasankhe kukhalabe muukwati ndikukonzekera zinthu ndi mwamuna wanu, ndiye chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikuchepetsa kulumikizana pakati pa anthu awiriwa mpaka nthawi yotereyi mutha kukambirana zinthu ndi mnzanuyo modekha.
Nthawi yomweyo, mutha kusankha ngati mungakonze ubale wanu ndi bwenzi lanu kapena ayi.
Mosasamala lingaliro lanu, ndibwino kukhala pansi ndi mnzanu ndikumuuza kuti akukuvulazani komanso momwe mumamvera za iye. Kuphatikiza apo, mutha kugwiritsanso ntchito mayankho ake kuti muone ngati akuyenera kupitilirabe mpaka pano kapena kudula ubale naye.
Womba mkota
Kumvera zina mwazimene amuna anga amandinyenga ndi nkhani za bwenzi langa lapamtima zingakupangitseni kugwetsa misozi kapena kukupsetsani mtima ndi mkwiyo wosalamulirika.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ikafika nthawi yanu, ndipo simungathe kuzithandiza kapena kuzindikira zomwe zingatsatire, malangizo awa othandiza azitsogolera zomwe zikutsatira.