Zamkati
- Kodi ubale wosweka ungakonzeke?
- 1. Khalani ndi udindo waukulu
- 2. Khalani okonzeka kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingafunike kuti mupulumutse ubale wanu
- 3. Pangani nthawi yeniyeni
- 4. Pezani chithandizo kuchokera kunja kuti muteteze ubale wanu
Ubwenzi wanu ukakhala pafupi kuwonongeka, zimatha kukhala zowopsa, zotopetsa, komanso zopweteka kwambiri. Itha kukhalanso nthawi yabwino yakusintha. Ndi chikhalidwe chaumunthu: tikamayenera kutaya zochulukirapo, timayenera kusintha kwambiri.
Kodi ubale wosweka ungakonzeke?
Mabanja ambiri sanagwiritsepo ntchito ubale wawo, motero pali chiyembekezo. Chifukwa chake, ubale wanu ungapulumutsidwe? Nazi zomwe mungachite, ngati mungadzifunse kuti, "mumasunga bwanji ubale womwe ukumwalira?"
Choyamba, kuti muteteze ubale wanu, ndikofunikira kuti mugwiritse ntchito malangizo 4 ofunikirawa nthawi yomweyo:
1. Khalani ndi udindo waukulu
Ngakhale malingaliro anu atha kukana kutengaudindo, ndipo mwina mungakhale ndi nkhawa kuti muulula zofooka zanu ndikudziponyera pansi pa basi, zosiyana ndizowona ngati mukufuna kusunga ubale wanu.
Kufunitsitsa kwanu kukhala ndi gawo pogona ubale wanu kudzawatsogolera kukulemekezani koposa.Pamafunika kulimba mtima ndi kukhulupirika kuti titchule zolakwa zathu.
Zimathandizanso kukhulupirira kuthekera kwanu kuti musinthe. Ngati mukudziwa zomwe mwachita zomwe sizinagwirepo ntchito, mwayi ndiwofunika kuti mukule m'njira zomwe angafunikire.
Kukhala ndi udindo kumathandizanso mnzanu kuti asaganize kuti akuyenera kuwunikanso mobwerezabwereza. Ngati mwalandira kale, safunikira kumenya nkhondo molimbika kuti mudzuke ndikumvetsetsa nkhawa zawo.
Mukadakhala mukuchita chiyani mosiyana kuti mupeze zotsatira zosiyana?
Pepesani momasuka ngati mukufuna kusunga ubale wanu. Nenani kuti ndikupepesa.
Mverani chisoni momwe izi ziyenera kuti zakhudzira wokondedwa wanu. Onani momwe mungapangire kwa iwo ndikuchita zinthu mosiyanasiyana kuti musunthire mtsogolo.
Ikani chitetezo chanu pansi. Khalani osatetezeka komanso odzichepetsa pamene mukuchita izi.
2. Khalani okonzeka kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingafunike kuti mupulumutse ubale wanu
Mutakhala ndiudindo pazolankhula ndi zochita zilizonse zosafunikira zomwe mwanena ndi kuchita, khalani okonzeka kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingafunike kuti zinthu zikhale bwino kuposa kale.
M'mbuyomu, mudakhala ndi nthawi yomwe mumadzipereka kwambiri kukhala olondola kuposa kukhala osangalala komanso olumikizidwa. Kapenanso mudadzipereka kwambiri kuzinthu zanu kuposa zamtima wa mnzanu. Kapenanso mudali odzipereka kwambiri kupeza zosowa zanu kuposa momwe mumawonetsera zosowa zaubwenzi zikulemekezedwa.
Yakwana nthawi yosintha izi ndikuti muchite zonse zomwe zingafune kuti chikondi chanu chikule bwino. Sungani ubale wanu ndikupangitsa ubale wanu kukhala wabwino kwambiri kuti mnzanuyo asankhe - ndipo inu - mobwerezabwereza.
3. Pangani nthawi yeniyeni
Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zofunika kwambiri muubwenzi, pomwe zatsala pang'ono kutha?
Ngati maanja ali kumapeto kwa kulekana kapena kusudzulana, ndipo m'modzi wa inu akufunsadi mafunso, zingakhale zothandiza kuyika nthawi yomwe muwapemphe kuti aganizirenso.
Zitha kutenga chochitika chachikulu kapena miyezi kapena zaka kuti zifike kumalo omwe akumva kukhala okonzeka kusiya chibwenzicho. Chifukwa chake, zingawoneke zosangalatsa kuwafunsa kuti akupatseni miyezi itatu kuti musinthe kwambiri, m'malo mowafunsa kwamuyaya kuti awonenso ngati akufuna kuchoka.
Kenako, pa miyezi itatu (kapena nthawi iliyonse yomwe mwakhazikitsa), lowani mkati ndikuchita chilichonse chomwe chikufunika kuti mukule, panokha komanso limodzi.
4. Pezani chithandizo kuchokera kunja kuti muteteze ubale wanu
Ngakhale mutakhala achifundo kapena opambana munjira zina zamoyo, palibe chomwe chingafanane ndi chibwenzi chathu chomwe chimalimbikitsa mantha, zovuta, mabala, kusatetezeka, ndi zofooka zathu.
Zimakhalanso zosavuta kukhala ndi malo osaona, kumangirira muzinthu zina, ndi kuyankhulana za zinthu zomwe zingayambitse kukhumudwa mutatha kuyankhula, osati bwino.
Kukhala ndi gulu lachitatu - kaya ndi buku, makanema apa kanema, kapenaupangiri - zitha kupanga kusiyana konse.
Kugwa mchikondi ndikosavuta ndipo aliyense akhoza kutero, koma kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino kwanthawi yayitali kumafunikira maluso apadera omwe anthu ochepa amakhala nawo. Pali zitsanzo zochepa, ndipo ambiri aife sitinaphunzirepo zinthu izi tikamakula.
Chifukwa chake, kuti musunge ubale wanu, khalani oyenera. Ndi chitsogozo ndi zida, mutha kufulumira kukula kwanu.
Ngati mungatsatire njira zinayi izi, zikuthandizani kugwedeza zinthu (m'malo mongolekanitsa zinthu) ndikusintha chiwonetserochi chikuwoneka ngati chowonadi.