Zamkati
- Zofooka ndi misampha
- Kuwongolera motsutsana ndi chikondi
- Kudzikonda komanso koona mtima ndiye mankhwala abwino kwambiri
Kukhala omasuka mdziko lathu lapansi, m'miyoyo yathu komanso muubwenzi ndizovuta kukwaniritsa. Osati ufulu womwe umalola kudzipereka kopanda malire, koma ufulu womwe umalimbitsa kudziona wekha komanso kukhala mdziko lapansi, komabe umalola mzimu wanu kukhala wodalirika komanso waulere. Kudzipereka nthawi zambiri kumakhala kowopsa kwa anthu omwe amakonda ufulu wawo, koma tifunika kuyang'ana kudzipereka kwa wina ndi kudzikonda mwanjira yatsopano.
'Uyenera kukonda m'njira yomwe imapangitsa kuti winayo akhale womasuka.' ~ Thích Nhat Hanh
Zofooka ndi misampha
Tili ndi malamulo azikhalidwe, malamulo amgwirizano ndi malamulo omwe timadzipangira omwe amatitsatira kuyambira ubwana kapena kufunikira kwathu malire. Ena mwa malamulowa ndi athanzi komanso ogwira ntchito, koma ena amapanga zolepheretsa zomwe zimapangitsa ambiri a ife kumva kuti tathyoledwa komanso kuti tili ndi zolepheretsa - makamaka pomwe tidasaina zikalata zosonyeza chikondi chathu kwa wina kapena "chomangiriza."
Anthu amati akumva kukakamira kapena ngati ali mu khola losaoneka. Anthu ena amamva choncho chifukwa cha nkhani zakale m'maganizo mwawo komanso mantha m'mitima mwawo. Pali omwe amadalira maubale kuti atsimikizire kufunikira kwawo. Pali ena omwe amadzimva kuti atsekerezeka chifukwa samadzimva kukhala otetezeka kokwanira kuti awafotokozere zakukhosi kwawo. Zifukwa zina zimadza chifukwa cha mbiri yathu komanso mapulogalamu athu pakukula kwathu chifukwa cha momwe tidalandirira ndi kukondedwa kapena kusalandira izi.
Chifukwa chake, timadzitchinjiriza muzikhulupiriro kuti mwina sitife oyenera kapena kuti munthu winayo akuchita china chake kutilakwira, kutsimikizira kuti sitife oyenera. Zikhulupiriro izi nthawi zambiri zimabwerera ku zilonda zathu zoyambirira tili ana. Tidakulira m'malo opanda ungwiro momwe timayang'aniridwa ndi moyo ndi anthu opanda ungwiro.
Ndiye tingakhale bwanji omasuka mkati mokakamira kunyamula zotere kapena zipsinjo za anthu? Yankho lagona pa malo opatulika a mtima.
Kuwongolera motsutsana ndi chikondi
Ndikosavuta kudzudzula ena komanso zomwe takumana nazo popanga zosayenera izi. Ufulu waumwini ndi luso lolimbikitsidwa, osati chinthu chomwe tingapatsidwe. Ndi ntchito yathu yamalingaliro kuchiritsa zomangira zomwe zimatimanga, komanso ndi ntchito yathu kulola 'winayo' kuti achite ntchito yawo kuchiritsa zomangira zomwe zimawamanga. Izi zitha kuchitika kuchokera pamalo okhwima m'maganizo omwe ali ndi omwe amavomereza osatineneza.
Timapanga malingaliro otsekereza m'mabanja kuti atipatse mphamvu. Komabe, kukhala 'olondola' nthawi zambiri kumatipangitsa kukhala 'olimba' mopitilira muyeso pazomwe takumana nazo. Timayamba kuumitsa m'mbali ndikupanga malire mozungulira mitima yathu. Njira zowongolera izi nthawi zambiri zimakhazikitsidwa kuti zititeteze ku mantha athu opwetekedwa - osakondedwa. Ngati timapanga zolephera zathu, timakhala ndi nthawi yoyang'anira omwe amalowa komanso kutalika kwake. Komabe kuwongolera kotereku komanso kupusitsa kumapangitsanso kudzipondereza, kutalikirana ndikumverera kotsekerezedwa. Ngati mpanda wa zingwe kuzungulira mtima wako ulipo, ndizovuta kutuluka monga momwe wina angalowere.
Kudzikonda komanso koona mtima ndiye mankhwala abwino kwambiri
Tikulakalaka kukhala omasuka. Ndipo njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli ndiyo kudzikonda moona mtima, koona komanso koona.
Tikakhala kuti tikukana zowawa zathu zakuya, timakwiya, timanga makoma ndikudzudzula dziko lapansi chifukwa chomwe miyoyo yathu ndi ubale wathu zikuvutikira. Njira yokhayo yosinthira mphamvu iyi ndikutsegula mtima wanu ndikudziyang'ana nokha ndi chifundo chachisomo, chisomo ndi kukhululuka ndikulowerera m'malo omwe mwavulazidwa. Makomawo adzayamba kuchepa mukadzilola kuti muyambe kukonza malingaliro osafunikira a kudzikayikira, kudziimba mlandu kapena kudzikayikira komwe mumakhala nako (ndipo nthawi zambiri mumachita manyazi). Tikakhala ndi udindo wathu ndikumavutika, chitseko cha khola chimayamba kutseguka. Kuwona mtima kwanu kungakhale kowopsa kugawana nawo, koma chowonadi choterechi ndikuchotseredwa kumachotsa mkwiyo, mantha, mkwiyo ndi kudzudzula komwe timakonda kupereka kwa ena. Sali ndiudindo pakubwezeretsa kwathu ndikukula kwathu.
Chikondi chilidi yankho. Osati chikondi chodziwikiratu kapena "chilichonse chimapita" ngati chikondi chapamwamba, koma chikondi chomwe chimavomereza ndikudalira kuti muli bwino kukhala opanda ungwiro, kuti muchiritse ndikukondeka pamaso pa wina. Kuti mukhale ndi ufulu mkati mwa chibwenzi chokhazikika, muyenera kukhala ndi ufulu mkati.