Zamkati
- Kodi kupatukana kungapulumutse banja?
- 1. Nthawi
- 2. Zolinga
- 3. Kulankhulana
- 4. Madeti
- 5. Ana
- 6. Chithandizo chachitatu
Nazi zochitika zenizeni.
"John ndi Katie akhala m'banja losasangalala kwazaka khumi akukhala ndi nkhawa komanso mantha osatha".
Pambuyo paukwati zaka zambiri ndikulera ana, John adayamba kuganiza kuti sakukondwa ndi banja lake. Anali kulemedwa ndi nkhani zakukhulupirira,kusayankhulana, ndi kukondana mavuto omwe akusokoneza banja lawo.
John adauza mkazache kuti akufuna kupatukana. Mkazi wake adagwirizana ndipo onse adaganiza zopumula miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kuchokera kuukwati wawo. "
Zinthu zambiri zimatha kusokoneza banja lanu. Koma, mutha kupulumutsa banja lanu musanafike kukhothi kuti musudzule.
Koma, 'tisiyane kapena ayi?'
Kulekana kumawoneka ngati njira yothandiza kwa ambiri. Izi zikupereka mpata wolingalira za zinthu zofunika zomwe zikusokoneza banja lanu.
Koma zonse zisanatayike, muyenera kuyesa kusunga banja lanu, komaliza. Kupatula apo, chisudzulo sichingakhale njira yokhayo yothetsera mavuto am'banja.
Kodi kupatukana kungapulumutse banja?
Pali zifukwa zazikulu zitatu zopatukana ndi mnzanu.
Choyamba, ndi gawo limodzi pakusudzulana. Mabanja ambiri akudziwa kuti banja lawo silitha ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito kupatukana kuti adzipatse nthawi isanakwane. Nthawi zina, maanja amapatukana kuti apeze lingaliro la banja lawo, (monga John ndi Katie). Atapatukana, John ndi Katie adatha kuyanjananso ndikupangitsa banja lawo kukhala lolimba.
Kupatukana kungathandize kukulitsa ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikupulumutsa banja lanu, pamapeto pake.
Kusankha kupatukana ndi mnzanu si kophweka. Amuna ndi akazi omwe amasankha kupatukana amawonedwa ndi akunja monga omwe afika poti banja lawo latha.
Mwinanso, ayesapo njira zina zingapo kuti athandize ukwati wawo, koma palibe chomwe chingawathandize. Chifukwa chake pamapeto pake amapatukana ndipo pamapeto pake amathetsa banja.
Ndiye ndichifukwa chiyani maanja amapatukana koma osasudzulana? Pali mbali ina ya izi, pambuyo pa zonse. Maanja samaima kuti aunike phindu lakuchiritsika lodzipatula. M'malo mwake, ngati zichitike m'njira yoyenera (komanso pazifukwa zomveka) ndi mapangano omveka koyambirira, sizingangopulumutsa ukwati wanu komanso kuwonjezeranso.
Kuti mukwaniritse cholinga chomaliza (kulekana kupulumutsa kapena kukonza banja lanu), muyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti zinthu zingapo zilipo musanalowemo.
Nawa maupangiri ochepa kapena maupangiri akulekanitsa okwatirana omwe angathandize -
1. Nthawi
Izi zitha kukhala zosiyana kwa banja lililonse, koma miyezi 6 mpaka 8 yakulekana nthawi zambiri imawerengedwa kuti ndiyabwino.
Chovuta chachikulu pakulekana kwakutali ndikuti nthawi zambiri kumatha kuchititsa onse awiri kukhala omasuka ndi moyo wawo watsopano, kuwapangitsa kukhulupirira kuti kusiyana kwawo sikungathetsedwe kapena kuti ali bwino motere.
Ndicho chifukwa chake kukhazikitsa ziyembekezo zomveka komanso zomveka ndizofunikira kwambiri. Pokhazikitsa nthawi yopatukana, mumavomereza kuti ino ndi nthawi yomwe nonse muyenera kuthana ndi kusamvana kwanu.
Ngati sizingasankhidwe, zingayambike zatsopano zomwe zingayambitse kusamvana. Kodi kulekana kumagwirira ntchito kupulumutsa ukwati? Inde, pamakhala nthawi zina pamene kulekana kwakutali kumathetsa kotheratu maubwenzi onse pakati pa okwatiranawo.
Chifukwa chake, ngati muyenera kupulumutsa banja lanu ku chisudzulo, muyenera kulingaliranso za nthawi yopatukana mbanja musanatuluke pakhomo panu.
2. Zolinga
Kodi mungasunge bwanji banja lanu mukamasiyana? Kukambirana ndi mnzanu nthawi zonse ndiyo njira yabwino yopatulira ndi kuthetsa mavuto limodzi ngati gulu.
Musaganize kuti nonse muli patsamba limodzi. Kambiranani ndi kuvomereza kuti nonse mukuchita izi kuti muthe kuthetsa mavuto anu komanso kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino.
Mwachitsanzo -
Ngati m'modzi mwa awiriwa akufuna kupulumutsa banja, koma winayo akuganiza kuti ichi ndi chiyambi chabe cha chisudzulo, izi zitha kubweretsa zovuta zazikulu. Ndiye chifukwa chake kukambirana nkhaniyi pasadakhale ndikofunikira kuti izi zitheke.
3. Kulankhulana
Mutaganiza kuti nonse mufunikira kuthetsa mavuto anu popitiliza kupatukana kuti mupulumutse banja, kambilanani za momwe mudzayankhulirane nthawi imeneyi.
Kusalumikizana konse sikungathandize kukwaniritsa cholinga chotsirizira. Sankhani kuchuluka kwa zomwe mumachita kale. Ngati wina akufuna kukambirana tsiku lililonse, koma winayo akufuna kuti zizikhala mlungu uliwonse, ndiye kuti onse ayenera kupanga chisankho.
Ngati mukufuna kupulumutsa banja lanu, muyenera kuchita chimvano pa nthawi yopatukana kwakanthawi.
4. Madeti
Kodi muyenera kupatukana musanathetse banja? Kodi muyenera kusiya kuonana pambuyo podzipatula?
Kulekana sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kusiya kukondana. Sankhani kangati pomwe mudzakumana ndikukhala limodzi.
Pitani masiku a chakudya chamadzulo ndikulumikizananso mwamalingaliro ndi mnzanu. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi imeneyi kukambirana momwe mungathetsere mavuto omwe akuyambitsa mavuto m'banjamo. Pezani njira zatsopano zomwe mungabweretsere m'banja lanu.
M'malo mochita zibwenzi zakuthupi, onetsetsani kuti mukumangika ndi kuyeserera. Izi zingakuthandizeni kupulumutsa banja lanu pa chisudzulo.
5. Ana
Kupatukana kungakhale nthawi yosokoneza kwa ana anu, chifukwa chake tsatirani njira zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala kholo logwirizana. Yankhani mafunso a ana anu limodzi ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukuwongolera mayankho anu olakwika (monga kukwiya, kuyitanira mayina, ndi zina zambiri) pamaso pawo.
6. Chithandizo chachitatu
Kufunafuna wina wachitatu, monga wothandizira, atsogoleri achipembedzo, kapena mkhalapakati (wachibale kapena bwenzi), atha kuthana ndi mavuto anu.
Ndikulimbikitsidwa kuti mupeze thandizo linalake panthawi yopatukana kuti muteteze banja lanu pa chisudzulo.
Mapeto
Tikawona kuti mnzathu akutithawa, mwachibadwa timakhala pafupi ndi iwo ndikupanga chilichonse chomwe chingafunike kuti ateteze banja. Lingaliro lodzipatula, kapena kupanga mtunda panthawi yotere, limadzetsa mantha, mantha, kukaikira, komanso kuda nkhawa kwambiri.
Kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi kumakhala kovuta makamaka ngati mgwirizano uli wofooka kapena chibwenzi chafooka kwambiri.
Koma pogwiritsa ntchito chisamaliro ndi luso (nthawi zambiri mothandizidwa ndi katswiri), kupatukana KUNGakhale kothandiza kwambiri kuti anthu awiri akhale ogwirizana. M'malo mwake, kupulumutsa ukwati wanu mutapatukana kumakhala kosavuta.
Dziwani kuti chida ichi si cha iwo omwe sakufuna kukhala ndi anzawo. Choipa kwambiri chomwe mungachite kwa iwo ndikunamizira kuti mukufuna kuchita zinthu zina.