Zamkati
- Partner's odwala matenda amisala ali ndi zambiri pam mbale zawo
- 1. Lankhulani ndi munthu wina za kutayika kwanu
- 2. Sankhani nokha zinthu zofunika kuzitsatira ndipo pitirizani kuzitsatira
- 3. Zindikirani malire anu
- 4. Khalani ndi pulani ya zomwe mungachite ngati matenda akukula kwambiri
- 5. Khalani ndi othandizira awiri omwe nonse muli omasuka kukhala nawo
Malumbiro aukwati nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mawu oti, "zabwino kapena zoyipa." Ngati mnzanu akuvutika ndi nkhawa yayikulu yamavuto amisala, zoyipa nthawi zina zimamveka ngati zosatheka.
Matenda okhalitsa monga Major Depression Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, ndi Bi-Polar Disorder, kungotchulapo zochepa, zimatha kuyambitsa nthawi zolepheretsa zizindikilo zomwe zimalepheretsa anthu kugwira ntchito m'moyo wawo watsiku ndi tsiku.
Othandizana nawo omwe akuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa matendawa nthawi zambiri amadalira kuti agwire ntchito yowonjezerapo kuti akhalebe ndiubwenzi komanso kuti moyo wawo ugwire ntchito.
Partner's odwala matenda amisala ali ndi zambiri pam mbale zawo
Anthu omwe amakhala ndi nkhawa yayitali amakumana ndi zovuta zomwe zimawonjezeka kwambiri, kuwononga mphamvu kotero kuti ali ndi mphamvu zokwanira zogwirira ntchito m'moyo umodzi.
Amawimba mlandu kuti asankhe komwe agwiritse ntchito mphamvu zawo zochepa; ngati atchera khutu kuntchito sadzakhala ndi mphamvu zotsalira polera ana, kukonza nyumba kapena kucheza ndi anzawo komanso abale.
Izi zimasiya wokondedwa wawo pantchito yowasamalira, zomwe ndizopweteka kwambiri komanso zotopetsa.
Kuphatikiza apo, zina mwazomwe zimachitika chifukwa chokhudzidwa ndi nkhawa monga kusokonezeka, kukwiya komanso chiyembekezo chofala, nthawi zambiri zimangoyang'ana kwa mnzake yemwe amawononga thanzi la mnzakeyo komanso ubale.
Nthawi izi ndizotopetsa kwa aliyense wokhudzidwa. Ngakhale ndizovuta kukumbukira mukakhala momwemo, ndi chithandizo choyenera ndikuwunika izi zidzatha ndipo magawo osamalira amzanu abwerera.
Pamene inu ndi mnzanu mukumana ndi imodzi mwazomwezo, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuyendetsa mafundewo ndikukhalabe athanzi.
1. Lankhulani ndi munthu wina za kutayika kwanu
Ambiri aife tidapangidwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukondedwa ndi kukondedwa, kusamalidwa ndikusamalidwa ndi amene timamukonda. Dzipatseni nokha chisomo ndi chisomo kuti mumve kutayika chifukwa chosakhala ndi mnzanu panthawiyi yemwe angathe kukupatsani chikondi ndi chisamaliro chomwe mukufuna. Wonjezerani chisomo ndi chifundo chomwecho kwa wokondedwa wanu, podziwa kuti akusowanso gawo lofunikira laubwenzi.
Pezani munthu yemwe ndi bwenzi laubwenzi wanu yemwe mungamulankhule za kutayika komwe mukukumana nako.
Kungakhalenso kothandiza kulemba za momwe mukumvera ndikuganizira zogawana ndi wokondedwa wanu pamene ali pamalo abwinobwino.
2. Sankhani nokha zinthu zofunika kuzitsatira ndipo pitirizani kuzitsatira
Sankhani chinthu chimodzi kapena ziwiri zomwe mumadzipangira nokha zomwe sizingakambirane. Mwina mukupita kumalo ogulitsira khofi Loweruka lililonse m'mawa kwa ola limodzi, ndikuwonera makanema omwe mumakonda osadodometsedwa sabata iliyonse, kalasi ya yoga sabata iliyonse kapena kucheza usiku ndi bwenzi.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ziyikeni pa mndandanda wazomwe muyenera kuchita ndikutsatira.
Mnzanu yemwe sangakhale naye pa moyo sangathe kuyika zabwino zanu patsogolo, munthu yekhayo amene angakhale inu.
3. Zindikirani malire anu
Ndikosavuta kugwera mumsampha woganiza kuti ungathe ndipo uyenera kuchita zonsezi. Chowonadi palibe munthu m'modzi yemwe angachite chilichonse popanda kuwononga thanzi lawo m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo.
M'malo mwake, sankhani mipira iti yomwe mungalole kuti igwe.
Mwinamwake zovala ziyenera kutsukidwa koma osati kupindidwa. Mwinamwake ndibwino kuti mudumphe chakudya chamadzulo ndi apongozi anu, kapena kuti mupatse ana anu nthawi yowonjezera sabata ino. Ngati mnzanu ali ndi chimfine, mwina mungadzipatsenso zina mwazomwe zimachitika mukakhala athanzi.
Nthawi yakukhumudwa kapena matenda ena amisala, malamulo omwewo angagwiritsidwe ntchito. Matenda amisala ndiovomerezeka monga matenda ena onse.
4. Khalani ndi pulani ya zomwe mungachite ngati matenda akukula kwambiri
Kupanga pulani ndi wokondedwa wanu akakhala athanzi kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kukhazikitsa dongosolo pomwe kulibe. Dongosololi lingaphatikizepo abwenzi, abale ndi othandizira azaumoyo omwe mungawafikire pomwe mungafune komanso njira yachitetezo ngati cholinga chodzipha kapena magawo amankhwala ndi gawo limodzi lamavuto.
Kumbukirani, simuli udindo wanu pa matenda amisala okondedwa anu ndipo simulinso ndi udindo wawo.
5. Khalani ndi othandizira awiri omwe nonse muli omasuka kukhala nawo
Katswiri wazachipatala yemwe amadziwa zovuta zamatenda amisala angakuthandizeni kukambirana zovuta zomwe zimabwera muubwenzi wanu, komanso kukuthandizani kupeza mphamvu zapadera zomwe ubale wanu uli nazo.
Wothandizira amathanso kukuthandizani kukonzekera ndikukwaniritsa njira zomwe zatchulidwazi kuti inu ndi mnzanu mukhale ogwirizana polimbana ndi zodandaula zamavuto amisala limodzi.
Mavuto azovuta zamavuto amisala muubwenzi sayenera kutanthauza kutha kwaubwenzi kapena kutha kwa thanzi la munthu. Kukhala ndi dongosolo loyang'anira zizindikirazo, kukhazikitsa kudzisamalira komanso kupitiliza kukambirana zavutoli kumatha kubweretsa chiyembekezo ndikubwezeretsanso m'moyo.