Zamkati
- 1. Tidakwatirana tili achichepere komanso othamanga kwambiri
- 2. Kuyankhulana koopsa
- 3. Wonyenga wamba
- 4. Njira zosiyanasiyana
- 5. Palibe moyo wogonana
Sitimakonda kulingalira kuti timangoyamba kumene m'banja lathu, koma ziwerengero zilipo: Maukwati 46% ku United States amathetsa banja. Maukwati onse samathera pazifukwa zofanana, chifukwa chake timaganiza kuti timalankhula ndi anthu osudzulana kuti timvetse zomwe zawononga banja lawo. Nkhani ya aliyense ndiyapadera, koma zonse zitha kutithandiza kumvetsetsa zovuta zina zomwe tifunika kupewa kuti titha kukhala ndi maukwati achimwemwe okhalitsa.
1. Tidakwatirana tili achichepere komanso othamanga kwambiri
Susan, yemwe banja lake lidatha ali ndi zaka 50, akutiuza zomwe zidachitikira banja lake. “Ndinakumana ndi Adam pantchito yankhondo; mchimwene wanga anali mu Gulu Lankhondo ndipo anandiitanira ku phwandoli pamunsi. Tidali achichepere kwambiri — tili ndi zaka za m'ma 20, ndipo zokopa zathu zidakhala pomwepo. Ndikuganiza kuti nanenso ndinakopeka ndi zomwe ndimadziwa zokhudza moyo wankhondo-kuti ndikakwatiwa ndi Adam, ndikadakhala ndi moyo wapaulendo komanso wamagulu. Ndiye atatsala pang'ono kutumizidwa milungu isanu ndi umodzi titakumana, ndinamukwatira. Kulakwitsa kotani.
Tinali achichepere kwambiri ndipo sitinkadziwana kwenikweni.
Zachidziwikire kuti kutumizidwaku kunali kovuta paukwati wathu ndi moyo wabanja, koma tidazipangira limodzi ana. Koma banja lathu linali lodzaza ndi ndewu komanso mkwiyo, ndipo anawo atakula napita, tidasudzulana.
Ngati ndikadachita izi mobwerezabwereza, Sindikanakwatirana ndili wamng'ono chonchi, ndipo ndikadadikirira ndikumacheza ndi munthuyo kwa chaka chimodzi kuti ndidziwe kuti anali ndani kwenikweni.”
2. Kuyankhulana koopsa
Izi ndi zomwe Wanda ananena zokhudza banja lake. “Sitinalankhulanepo. Izi ndizomwe zidasokoneza banja lathu. Ndinkadzitamandira kwa anzanga za momwe Ray ndi ine sitinamenyere, koma chifukwa chomwe sitinamenyepo chinali chakuti sitinayankhulane konse.
Ray anali atatsekedwa, kupeŵa kwathunthu nkhani iliyonse yomwe ingamupangitse kumva kanthu kena.
Ndipo ndili ndi chosowa chachikulu chomuuza mnzanga za zinthu — zosangalatsa kapena zomvetsa chisoni. Kwa zaka zambiri ndimayesetsa kuti andilimbikitse ... kuti tikambirane zovuta zomwe zimabweretsa mavuto m'banja lathu. Amangotseka ndipo nthawi zina amatuluka m'nyumba.
Pomaliza, sindinathenso kuzitenganso. Ndinayenera kukhala ndi mnzanga yemwe amatha kumasuka nane pazonse, yemwe anali ndi malingaliro. Chifukwa chake ndidatumiza chisudzulo ndipo tsopano ndikuwona mnyamata wamkulu yemwe amatha kukhala wokondana kwambiri. Zimasinthiratu! ”
3. Wonyenga wamba
Brenda adadziwa kuti amuna awo anali pachibwenzi asanayambe chibwenzi. Zomwe samadziwa, komabe, ndikuti adafunikira kupitiliza kuwona zibwenzi zingapo ngakhale atamangidwa mfundo.
"Ndinkakonda kwambiri mwamuna wanga wokongola, wosangalala, wamphwando," akutiuza. "Philip anali moyo wachisangalalo, ndipo anzanga onse anandiuza kuti ndinali ndi mwayi kuti mwamuna wanga anali wokongola komanso wokonda kucheza.
Sindinkaganiza kuti anali wokangalika pa mapulogalamu azibwenzi ndi mawebusayiti mpaka nditapeza uthenga wochokera kwa mayi wina wondidziwitsa kuti amuna anga akhala akuchita zibwenzi naye kwazaka ziwiri zapitazi.
Ha, kudzuka kotani nanga! Sindinadziwe koma ndikuganiza kuti ndiye kuwopsa kwa masamba onsewa okhudzana ndi intaneti-munthu wanu akhoza kukhala ndi moyo wapawiri ndikubisa mosavuta. Chifukwa chake ndidakumana naye ndipo ndidazindikira kuti uwu ndi gawo la umunthu wake ndipo sungasinthe. Ndinalembetsa chisudzulo pambuyo pake. Ndili ndi chibwenzi chachikulu tsopano, yemwe siwowoneka bwino kapena wochezeka ngati Filipo, koma wodalirika yemwe sangadziwe kuti pulogalamu yachibwenzi ndiyotani! "
4. Njira zosiyanasiyana
Melinda akutiuza kuti iye ndi mwamuna wake adangopatukana. “Ndizachisoni kwambiri chifukwa m'malingaliro mwanga banja limakhala lamoyo. Koma tikamakula, zokonda zathu ndi moyo wathu zimangopita mbali zosiyanasiyana. Ndikulingalira tikadakhala kuti tidalimbikira ntchito kuti timvetsetse zosowa za wina ndi mnzake, koma ndimafuna kuti mwamuna wanga “wachikulire” abwerere, munthu yemwe anali mnzanga wapamtima, yemwe ndimangocheza naye pomwe sitinali kugwira ntchito.
Pafupifupi zaka 15 tili m'banja, zonsezi zidasintha. Amathera Loweruka ndi Lamlungu akuchita zinthu zina ndi zina — mwina akumangoganizira za malo ake ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kukachita mpikisano wina. Zinthu izi sizinandisangalatse ngakhale pang'ono kotero ndidakhazikitsa gulu la anzanga, ndipo sanali m'modzi wa iwo.
Chisudzulo chathu chinali chosankha chimodzi. Sizinali zomveka kukhala limodzi ngati sitikugawana chilichonse.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndipeza wina yemwe angafune kugawana nawo zomwe ndimakonda pamoyo wanga, koma pakadali pano, ndikungopanga zanga, ndipo bwenzi langa likuchita zake. ”
5. Palibe moyo wogonana
Carol akutiuza kuti kusakhala ndi moyo wapamtima, wapamtima ndi udzu womwe udasweka ngamira ndikumabweretsa mavuto m'banja.
“Tinali titayambitsa ukwati wathu ndi moyo wabwino wogonana. Chabwino, sizinali zomatira zomwe zimatigwirizanitsa, ndipo wakale wanga analibe chikhumbo chofanana ndi changa, koma timagonana kamodzi pa sabata, osachepera.
Koma popita zaka, izi zidachepa mpaka kamodzi pamwezi. Posakhalitsa tidzakhala tikuyenda miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, chaka chimodzi, osagonana.
Nditagunda 40, ndipo ndinali womasuka kwambiri pakhungu langa, libido yanga inali moto. Ndipo wokondedwa wanga samangokhala ndi chidwi. Ndinadziuza mumtima kuti ndiyenera kumubera kapena kumusiya. Sindinkafuna kuchita chibwenzi — iye sanayenere kutero — chotero ndinamupempha kusudzulana. Tsopano ali ndi wina yemwe ali woyenerana kwambiri (iye safuna zogonana, malinga ndi iye) ndipo inenso ndili choncho. Zonse zili bwino zomwe zimathera bwino! ”