Zamkati
Patsiku lililonse, amuna ndi akazi mamiliyoni mamiliyoni ambirimbiri akufuna thandizo kudziko la zibwenzi.
Iwo akufuna kuti apeze munthu mmodzi wapadera. Mwina okonda moyo wawo. Kapenanso mwina amangofuna wina woti azicheza naye, ndikusangalala naye, osasandulika chibwenzi chachikulu.
Mulimonsemo, anthu ambiri masiku ano amayesetsa kukhala ndi zibwenzi zowathandiza kuti apeze munthu wangwiroyo.
Koma kumbukirani nthawi zonse, wogula, chenjerani!
Kwa zaka 29 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa komanso wothandizira kwambiri David Essel wakhala akuthandiza amuna ndi akazi mdziko la zibwenzi, powakonzekeretsa, kukonzekera, komanso kuyang'ana mtundu wa munthu amene mukufuna .
Monga munthu amene wagwirapo ntchito ndi ambiri monga mphunzitsi / mlangizi m'mbuyomu, David amakonda kuti anthu akufuna thandizo, koma pali mtundu umodzi wamphunzitsi yemwe simukuyenera kugwira nawo ntchito.
Zolemba ndi zakugwira ntchito ndi makochi azibwenzi
Makochi ambiri mdziko la zibwenzi, amayendetsa pulogalamu yodzazidwa ndi umphumphu.
Cholinga chawo ndikuthandiza kasitomala kuti azichita zinthu mwadongosolo pankhani ya anthu omwe akufuna, mtundu wa anthu omwe sangawagwire ntchito, komanso kuthandiza pakulemba mbiri yawo makamaka patsamba lapaintaneti.
Koma tsiku lina, ndinawerenga nkhani mu New York Times yonena za mphunzitsi wazibwenzi yemwe ali ndi umphumphu, yemwe akulimbikitsa makasitomala ake kunama kwa omwe akufuna kukhala pachibwenzi nawo, zomwe zidzawabwezeretse nthawi yayikulu.
Ndipo tikudziwa bwanji kuti mphunzitsiyu alibe umphumphu? Chifukwa amadziyesa kuti ndi kasitomala, pakuyanjana koyamba ndi omwe angakhale nawo pachibwenzi.
Izi ndizoseketsa, zimandidetsa nkhawa kwambiri, ndipo mwina ndichimodzi mwazinthu zoyipa kwambiri zomwe zimapangitsa munthu padziko lapansi kukhala wotsogolera kapena upangiri.
Chifukwa chake malinga ndi nkhaniyi, amafunsana ndi kasitomala, amawadziwa, kenako ndikupita kudziko lapaintaneti ndikudziyesa kuti ndiye kasitomala.
Chifukwa chake akunama, kwa omwe angathe kukhala nawo, ponena kuti ndiwomwe sali ndipo makasitomala omwe akumulipira akunamiziranso, chifukwa akayamba kucheza okha, zomwe amayenera kuti akhala akuchita kuyambira pachiyambi. , ambiri sangauze munthuyu kuti ali ndi chidwi kuti si iwo omwe amalankhulana kale.
Kodi mukukhulupirira kuti izi ndizovomerezeka?
Chenjerani, ogula samalani
Ndikadakhala kasitomala wake, ndikadanyansidwa ndi zomwe amachita. Ndimamuuza kuti ndizosavomerezeka.
Ndikadakhala kasitomala wanu ndipo sindinaulule kwa yemwe ndingakhale naye bwenzi kuti si ine amene ndimalankhula nawo masiku angapo apitawa milungu kapena miyezi, koma anali mphunzitsi wazabwenzi, mukuganiza kuti zingachitike bwanji bwenzi latsopanoli?
Ndikadakhala mnzake wothandizana naye, ndipo ndidakumana ndi wina patsamba la zibwenzi yemwe adandiuza kuti samalumikizana nane, kuti anali mphunzitsi wazabwenzi yemwe adalemba kale, ndikanawathamangitsa m'moyo wanga mwachangu kuposa inu atha kukhulupirira, chifukwa tsopano ayamba chibwenzi chonama!
Ndikukhulupirira kuti phungu wamkulu wophunzitsa za chibwenzi ayenera kukhala pano kuti athandizire kasitomala wawo, koma osanamizira kuti ndi kasitomala.
Uku kumatchedwa kusowa umphumphu, uku kumatchedwa kusowa kwamakhalidwe.
Ndikuvomereza ndi mtima wonse kuti mamiliyoni a anthu atha kupindula kwambiri pokhala ndi mphunzitsi wazabwenzi kapena mlangizi, koma ine 100% sindimagwirizana ndi momwe munthuyu, wophunzitsira chibwenzi uyu akuyendera, polimbikitsa makasitomala ake kunama, komanso iye kunama omwe angakhale abwenzi poti ndiwomwe sali.
Yakwana nthawi yodzuka
Mukakumana ndi munthu wamtunduwu, asiyeni posachedwa ndikupeza mlangizi wazobwenzi kapena mphunzitsi yemwe ali wowona mtima.
Ntchito ya David Essel'yi imavomerezedwa kwambiri ndi anthu monga malemu Wayne Dyer, ndipo wotchuka Jenny McCarthy akuti "David Essel ndiye mtsogoleri watsopano wamaganizidwe abwino."
Bukhu lake la 10, nambala yina yogulitsidwa kwambiri, yomwe ili ndi mutu wathunthu komanso zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala oyenera mdziko la zibwenzi ndi chikondi, amatchedwa "focus! Sulani zolinga zanu, chitsogozo chotsimikizika cha kupambana kwakukulu, malingaliro amphamvu ndi chikondi chachikulu.