Zamkati
- Kodi kulankhulana momasuka mbanja kumawoneka bwanji?
- 1. Mvetserani ndi kutengera momwe olankhula bwino amalankhulira
- 2. Lankhulani mofewa kuti akumve
- 3. Muzipangitsa mnzanu kukhala womasuka
- 4. Onetsani kuti mukumvetsera
- 5. Lolani kukhala chete
- 6. Kusunga nthawi ndikofunikira
- 7. Lemekezani malingaliro a mnzanu, ngakhale simukugwirizana nawo
Kuyankhulana kumachita mbali yofunika kwambiri muubwenzi wathu wonse, kaya ndi waluso kapena waumwini.
Koma kulankhulana momasuka ndi mbali yofunika kwambiri m'banja. Kulankhulana momasuka mbanja nthawi zambiri kumayankhula nkhani zazikulu pakamwa, potero zimapewa zovuta pakati pa okwatirana.
Kotero, kodi kulankhulana momasuka ndi chiyani? Ndikulankhulana bwino komanso mosabisa osawopa chiweruzo, kapena zokambirana zikukula kukhala mkangano. Kuyankhulana momasuka mu ubale ndikofunikira kuti moyo wachikondi ukhale wautali.
Kungakhale lingaliro labwino kufunsa upangiri kuchokera kwa othandizira awiriwa kuti mulimbitse chibwenzi chanu. Iyi ndi njira imodzi yodziwira ubale wanu ndikulimbikitsa kulankhulana momasuka m'banja.
Ambiri aife sitidziwa momwe tingalankhulire moyenera. Mwina sitikhala omasuka kunena zosowa zathu, kapena mwina sitikudziwa momwe tingachitire. Mwamwayi, ndi machitidwe ena, maluso olankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima amatha kuphunziridwa.
Kodi kulankhulana momasuka mbanja kumawoneka bwanji?
Kotero, kulankhulana momasuka mu chiyanjano ndi chiyani? M'banja labwino komanso lokondana kapena ubale wachimwemwe, maanja amalankhulana momasuka, momasuka, ndikuwona kuti ali otetezeka akamafotokozera zakukhosi kwawo kwachinsinsi.
Amayankhula momasuka nkhawa zawo ndikumva kwawo pakabuka zovuta ndikuthokoza pomwe zinthu zili bwino.
Anthu okwatirana akamayankhulana momasuka onse amalankhulana mwaulemu osati mokakamizana kapena moopsezana kapena mwano.
Amamvetsera mwatcheru, kuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe wokondedwa wawo akunena mwachidwi m'malo momusokoneza mnzawo ndikuwonetsa zomwe zili zolakwika.
Pamapeto pa nkhani, banjali limakhala lokhutira ndi zomwe akambiranazo ndipo zimawoneka kuti nkhawa zawo zamvedwa ndikuvomerezedwa.
Nawa maupangiri otseguka olumikizirana omwe angayambitse inu panjira yakulankhula bwino, momasuka ndi mnzanu.
1. Mvetserani ndi kutengera momwe olankhula bwino amalankhulira
Khalani ndi nthawi yomvetsera momwe anthu omwe mumawakonda amagwiritsira ntchito mawu awo. Nkhani za pa wailesi yakanema, wailesi, ndi ma podcast zimadzaza ndi anthu olankhula bwino omwe amadziwa kuperekera uthenga mwaulemu komanso mosangalatsa.
Dziwani zomwe mumakonda pamalankhulidwe awo:
Kodi amalankhula momveka bwino?
Kodi amafunsa omvera awo mafunso abwino, ochititsa chidwi?
Kodi akuwonetsa kuti akumvetsera anthu ena akamalankhula nawo?
Yesani ndikuphatikizira zinthu zomwe mumakonda pamitundu yawo yolankhulirana munjira yanu yolankhulira.
2. Lankhulani mofewa kuti akumve
Oyankhula pagulu abwino amadziwa kuti chinyengo choti omvera anu amvetsere ndikuyankhula mofewa. Izi zimakakamiza omvera kuti atsegule makutu awo ndikukhalabe tcheru. Mungachitenso chimodzimodzi ndi mnzanu.
Lankhulani mwaulemu mukamalankhula nawo. Osangowonetsa kutentha ndi kukoma mtima, koma adzawalola kutsegula makutu awo kuti amve zomwe mukunena.
Palibe chomwe chimatseka zokambirana mwachangu kuposa kukweza mawu, kufuula kapena kufuula.
3. Muzipangitsa mnzanu kukhala womasuka
Kuchita izi kungawathandize kuti azimasuka nanu. Gwiritsani ntchito njira yolankhulirana yosonyeza kudzimva kuti ndinu wotetezeka. Pamodzi ndi mawu ofatsa, mawu olimbikitsa angathandize mnzanu kuti azilankhula nanu momasuka. “Chilichonse chomwe chikukusautsani, mungandiuze.
Ndikulonjeza kuti ndidzakumvanso bwinobwino osadula mawu. ” Izi zimakhazikitsa mwayi woti winayo atsegule popanda kuwopa kuti adzamunyoza kapena kumunyalanyaza, ndipo zimathandizira kukondana.
4. Onetsani kuti mukumvetsera
Pakakhala kusokonekera kwachilengedwe pazokambirana, kufotokozanso zinthu zina mwanjira ina yomwe mnzanu wangokuwonongerani ziwonetsa kuti ndinu otengana, mulipo, ndipo kwenikweni kuwamva iwo. Mwachitsanzo:
“Zikumveka kuti mwakhumudwitsidwa ndi ntchito yanu pakali pano. Zomwe wanena za bwana wako zindikwiyitsa. Kodi ndingatani kuti upezeke bwino pano? ”
Kugwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo ngati izi:
- Kuti mwamvetsetsa vuto la mnzanu, ndipo
- Ndinu wokonzeka kuwathandiza
5. Lolani kukhala chete
Nthawi zina timafunikira kulingalira zomwe tikufuna kunena tisanazinene (ndipo ndiyo njira yabwino yopewera kutulutsa zinthu zomwe sitikutanthauza.) Kulankhulana momasuka muukwati sikutanthauza kungotumizira mawu. Patsanani malo anu opumira.
Ngakhale mutangofunika kuyika "Hmmmm .... ndiloleni ndiyiganizire imeneyo" mukamaganizira, zikuwonetsa mnzanuyo, mulipo ndipo mukungofunika nthawi kuti musinkhesinkhe pazomwe zanenedwa.
6. Kusunga nthawi ndikofunikira
Simukufuna kuyambitsa zokambirana zofunika pamene mukutuluka pakhomo kuti mukapereke ana kusukulu. Ndipo mungafune kusiya zokambirana ngati mukuwona kuti mnzanu watopa atakhala tsiku lonse kuofesi, kapena wakwiya chifukwa cha zomwe adakumana nazo tsikulo.
Sitingathe kulankhulana momasuka nthawi zonse, koma titha kusankha mphindi yabwino kwambiri, kuti kulumikizana kwathu kuchitike bwino kwambiri.
Khalani tcheru ndi dongosolo, malingaliro, ndi zina ngati mukufuna kukhazikitsa zochitika zothandizirana pakati panu ndi mnzanu.
Izi zati, ngati china chake chachitika chomwe chikuyenera kuthetsedwa, musadikire nthawi yayitali. Kulankhulana moona mtima n’kofunika kwambiri kuti tisasunge mkwiyo uliwonse m’banja.
Kukhazikika pamavuto mwakachetechete sikothandiza.
Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha mphindi yoyenera kuti mutsegule zokambiranazo kuti mupeze zotsatira zomwe mukufuna kulumikizana momasuka.
7. Lemekezani malingaliro a mnzanu, ngakhale simukugwirizana nawo
Chimodzi mwa zida zofunika kwambiri zoyankhulirana chomwe mungagwiritse ntchito pamene inu ndi mnzanu simukugwirizana pa china chake ndikufotokoza monga izi:
“Ndikumvetsa malingaliro anu, koma ine ndikumverera mosiyana. Kodi tingavomerezane? ”
Izi ziganizo ziwiri zimamuwuza mnzanu kuti mwawamva ndikuwamvetsetsa. Ikuthandizani kuti muzilemekeza malingaliro anu, omwe amatsimikizira momwe mumamvera.
Pomaliza, zimabweretsa mnzanu ku chisankho chovomereza kuti awone malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake, ngakhale malingaliro awa sakugwirizana.
Imeneyi ndi njira yolemekezeka kwambiri yochotsera zomwe zingasanduke mkangano ndikulimbikitsa kulumikizana momasuka.
Maanja akuyenera kuyesetsa kukhala ndi njira zabwino, zopindulitsa kwambiri zopangira kulumikizana kwabwino m'banja. Kukhoza kocheza bwino ndi njira imodzi yabwino kwambiri yolankhulirana ndi mnzanu.
Komanso, kulankhulana momasuka mbanja kumachepetsa kusiyana pakati pa maanja ndikulimbitsa mgwirizano womwe amakhala pakati pawo.
Onetsetsani kuti mumapatula nthawi tsiku lililonse kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito ena kapena malangizo onse otseguka pamwambapa. Ukwati wanu ndi chisangalalo zidzakhala zabwino kwambiri.