Zamkati
- 1. Zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo ndi malamulo
- 2. Zifukwa zamankhwala
- 3. Zifukwa zamaganizidwe
- 4. Zifukwa zachitukuko
- Ubwino:
- Kuipa:
Maubwenzi aplato ndi maubwenzi apamtima osagonana. Apa tiwona zabwino ndi zoyipa zakudziletsa komanso kukhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima ndi munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi ndi cholinga chosankha wokwatirana naye.
Tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chake munthu angafune kukhala pachibwenzi cha platonic popanda kugonana.
1. Zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo ndi malamulo
Anthu ambiri amayamba kudziletsa asanakwatirane chifukwa cha zikhulupiriro zawo. M'mayiko ena, ndizosaloledwa kuti anthu okwatirana azigonana asanakwatirane, chifukwa chake njira yokhayo yokhazikitsidwa ndi kugonana ndiyo njira yokhayo yotsalira kwa okwatiranawo.
2. Zifukwa zamankhwala
Anthu ena ali ndi zifukwa zamankhwala zodziletsa asanakwatirane. Mwachitsanzo, munthu wapabanja atha kuchita ngozi yagalimoto ndipo adotolo mwina adalangiza wodwala kuti asachite chilichonse chovuta, kuphatikiza kugonana, mpaka atadziwitsidwa.
Mabanja oterewa amaphunzira momwe amadziletsa paubwenzi. Ophunzira omwe akuyamba pulogalamu yobwezeretsa magawo 12 nthawi zambiri amalangizidwa kuti asamagonane kwakanthawi kwakanthawi kuti akhalebe otanganidwa ndi pulogalamuyi.
3. Zifukwa zamaganizidwe
Anthu ena amalumbira osakwatira pazifukwa zamaganizidwe. Choyamba, kuti apange njira yatsopano yamaganizidwe yosintha zina m'miyoyo yawo kapena kutenga nthawi kuti achire kuchokera pachibwenzi chakale. Makolo ambiri omwe akulera okha ana amadzipangira kudziletsa ndikuphunzira momwe angapewere kukhala pachibwenzi kuti angolera ana.
4. Zifukwa zachitukuko
Lamulo lodziwika bwino lamasiku ano la "miyezi itatu" ndichitsanzo chazachikhalidwe chazomwe zimachitika pagulu la platonic.
Malamulo abwenzi oterewa amapereka ufulu wokwanira kwa azimayi omwe amalangizidwa kuti azikhala ndi zibwenzi ndikusangalala kucheza ndi amuna anzawo koma amadikirira miyezi itatu asanayambe kugonana ndi wokondedwa wawo chifukwa zimakhazikitsa maubwenzi ambiri.
Mosasamala zifukwa zomwe munthu angasankhire kudziletsa, sizitanthauza kuti munthuyo safuna mnzake. Amafunikirabe kukhala ogwirizana komanso okondana kwambiri ndikukhala ndi chibwenzi koma ndikumvetsetsa kuti sipadzakhala kugonana. Anthu ambiri amakhala ndi zibwenzi zapakatikati mwa miyezi, ndipo ena zaka asanakwatirane.
Maanja amaphunzira momwe angathanirane ndi kudziletsa pachibwenzi popeza maubwenzi aplatonic amakhala ndi phindu lawo. Koma, munthu amafunika kumvetsetsa zabwino ndi zoyipa zakudziletsa asanadzipereke kuubwenzi wodziletsa.
Ubwino:
- Kutenga nthawi yodziwana ndi munthu musanachite zogonana kumatanthauza kuti simukukhala pachibwenzi ndi magalasi ofiira. Chifukwa chake, simungamasulire molakwika machitidwe osavomerezeka kukhala ovomerezeka.
Mwachitsanzo, munthu amene mungaganize kuti amakukondani mwina atha kukhala wolamulira. Khalidwe lokhala ndi nkhawa ndilovomerezeka, koma machitidwe a freak control ndiwosokoneza.
- Kupatula nthawi yodziwana ndi munthu musanagonane kudzakupatsani nthawi yolankhula zinsinsi. Zokambirana zanu ziwulula zambiri zokhudzana ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana kapena matenda opatsirana pogonana omwe muyenera kudziwa. Makamaka, ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi ana ndikuyamba banja.
- Anthu apabanja amapewa zogonana nthawi ndi nthawi pamene akukonza chibwenzi chawo kuchokera kukhulupilirana, ulemu, ndi kudzipereka. Kupeza chidaliro, ulemu, ndikudzipereka ndizo zabwino zazikulu za "lamulo la miyezi itatu".
Kudziletsa mbanja ndi lamulo lomwe limalangiza abambo ndi amai kuti asamagonane ndi omwe akuyembekezereka kukhala naye kwa miyezi itatu. Lingaliro ndikuchotsa anthu osakhulupirika ndikupeza zamakhalidwe osabisa kapena zinsinsi.
Anthu ambiri samangokhala ngati samagonana mwachangu chifukwa sakufuna kwenikweni chibwenzi. Ngakhale atakhala kuti anena kwina kuti atenge katunduyo. Amatha kukhala okwatirana. Zikatere, simukadakhala ndi ndalama nonsenu, chifukwa chake tayikani katundu.
Ukwati wa Plato mwina ndi lingaliro labwino kuti mudzisungire ulemu ndikudzidalira.
Kuipa:
- Oposa m'modzi. Ngati malire sanakhazikitsidwe, wokondedwa wanu atha kutenga nawo mbali pamaubwenzi apamtima amodzi ndi kuganiza kuti sakugonana.
Chifukwa chake, atha kukhala ndi abwenzi ambiri. Vuto ndikusowa kudzipereka komanso kudziletsa. Mmodzi wa abwenziwo amatha kukhala "mnzake wokhala ndi zabwino".
- Moto wapita. Ngati chibwenzi cha platonic sichikopa chidwi chogonana chomwe onse amagawana, ubalewo sudzapitilira gawo lina. Mutha kukhala ngati banja kapena njira zina.
- Kuswa kudziletsa. Ngati awiriwo ali okwatirana, zosowa za wina m'modzi zogonana zitha kukhala zamphamvu kuposa mnzake, kukakamiza wina kuti apite kunja kwa chiwerewere.
Ukwati sunapangidwe kuti ukhale mgwirizano wapamtima wokhalanso ndi kudziletsa ngakhale kutakhala kofunikira kutero kwakanthawi kochepa.
Pomaliza, pali zifukwa zamankhwala, zachipembedzo, zamaganizidwe, komanso chikhalidwe cha anthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azichita zibwenzi za plato ndikudziletsa.
Phindu la maubale opanda Platonic limapereka mwayi kwa omwe ali nawo nthawi yakukhazikitsa ndi kulimbitsa chidaliro, ulemu, ndi kudzipereka kuubwenzi. Kumbali inayi, itha kuyambitsa abwenzi angapo muubwenzi ngati malire sanakhazikitsidwe.
Kuphatikiza apo, kukopeka ndi chiwerewere kumatha ndipo chibwenzicho sichikulowera kwina. Maubwenzi amtunduwu mwina sangakhale njira yabwino kwambiri yokwatirana pokhapokha ngati dokotala walangiza.