Zamkati
- 1. Gonjetsani kukayika kwanu ndi mantha anu
- 2. Khalani ndi ziyembekezo zenizeni
- 3. Lankhulani ndi mnzanu za ndalama
- 4. Kulingalira za kudzipereka
- 5. Sinthani momwe mungathetsere kusamvana
- 6. Pitani kokalakalaka nthawi ndi nthawi
Pakangolengezedwa zaukwati, aliyense kuchokera kumabanja, abwenzi, abale, komanso ngakhale omwe ali nawo pachibwenzi ali ndi upangiri waukwati usanachitike kwa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi. Ngakhale mkwatibwi aliyense atha kupindula ndi maupangiri angapo asanakwatirane, sikuti nsonga iliyonse iyenera kutsatiridwa.
Koma, kukwatira ndichinthu chachikulu kwambiri m'moyo ndikukonzekera bwino banja ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri komanso yokhayo yochitira izi.
Tangoganizani, mudzakhala mkwatibwi posachedwa! Musanavale chovala chokongola chija, yendani modutsa, ndikapsompsone mkwati wanu pali zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kuzisamalira.
Kuchokera pakuwongolera zomwe mudaganizirane za momwe ubalewo upangidwira, kusintha ndi banja lanu latsopano, zovuta zolumikizirana, ndi zina zambiri, pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimalangizidwa ngati maupangiri aukwati usanachitike. Mwa izi, tikambirana maupangiri asanu ndi limodzi othandiza kwambiri kwa akwati kukhala.
1. Gonjetsani kukayika kwanu ndi mantha anu
Imodzi mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri asanakwatirane kwa mkwatibwi ndikuti asiye kupsinjika ndi mantha zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi chake. Posakhalitsa akwati nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha okhudzana ndi banja. Mwina makolo anu adasudzulana moipa, mumadandaula kuti simudzakhala mkazi wabwino kapena simunakhalepo ndi mwayi m'mabanja am'mbuyomu.
Kaya mantha anu ndi otani, pangani mtendere ndi zakale ndipo yang'anani zapano. Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungachitire ndi izi, mutha kupeza upangiri usanakwatirane ndi mlangizi nokha kapena ndi mnzanu.
2. Khalani ndi ziyembekezo zenizeni
Izi ndizowonjezera zofunika kwambiri pamndandanda wazamalangizo asanakwatirane kwa akwati. Ndikosavuta kukulungidwa mu nthano za mabanja, koma nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti mukukumana ndi moyo wamtsogolo. Zoyembekeza zikuyenera kuwonetsa izi.
Kukhazikitsa zoyembekezereka komanso zolinga zake ngati imodzi mwamalingaliro ofunikira asanakwatirane kwa akwati chifukwa akuyenera kumvetsetsa kuti moyo wake usintha kwambiri poyerekeza ndi mkazi wake (makamaka ngati akwatirana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha).
Ngati mwasokonezeka m'malingaliro (ndipo izi ndizabwinobwino), mutha kufunsa akatswiri kuti akalandire upangiri asanakwatirane kuti akuthandizeni kuchotsa kukayika kwanu.
Zalangizidwa - Asanakwatirane
3. Lankhulani ndi mnzanu za ndalama
Kuganizira awiri - iyi ndiye mantra yoti mkwatibwi akhale. Malangizo a akatswiri asanakwatirane kwa mkwatibwi amaphatikizaponso kuganiza ngati mukuyenera kuti mupeze ndalama zowirikiza ndikuwonjeza zolipirira. Chifukwa chake mayi aliyense ayenera kupatula nthawi yokambirana mozama ndi wokondedwa wake za zachuma.
Ambiri adakambiranapo kale kapena adakopa pamwamba koma inu ndi bwenzi lanu muyenera kukambirana chilichonse chokhudza ndalama za wina ndi mnzake kuphatikiza ndalama, katundu, ndi ngongole. M'malo mwake, zingafanane ndi kubera mnzanu wa muukwati ngati simubisa zomwe abwenzi anu akuyenera kudziwa.
4. Kulingalira za kudzipereka
Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mkwatibwi angachite tsiku lake laukwati lisanachitike ndikulingalira za kudzipereka kumene akufuna kudzachita. Patulani nthawi yoti inuyo muganize. Kukhala ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha tanthauzo la banja kwa inu kumakonzekeretsa moyo wanu watsopano ngati mkazi.
Ngakhale anthu ambiri amasiya nsonga zokongola kuti mkwatibwi akhale, momwe amasamalira ubale wake wosinthika ndi wokondedwa wake atakwatirana sizimayankhulidwapo. Kotero monga momwe aliyense wokhala pafupi ndi mkwatibwi amakonzekera tsiku lake laukwati lomwe likuyandikira, ndi ochepa omwe amadziwa zomwe akumva.
Lingaliro loyambitsa kudzipereka kwa moyo wonse nthawi zina limamupangitsa munthu kukhala wopanda nkhawa ndipo atha kusiya mnzake wabwino. Chifukwa chake kuyeserera kudzipereka kwanu tsiku la D-tsiku chisanachitike ndichimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri asanakwatirane ndi okwatirana.
5. Sinthani momwe mungathetsere kusamvana
Kusintha momwe mungathetsere kusamvana kudzakuthandizaninso mtsogolo. Monga imodzi mwamalangizo ofunikira kwa akwati musanalowe m'banja, izi zimakhudza nkhani yomwe ili yofunika kwambiri koma nthawi zambiri amanyalanyazidwa.
Anthu apabanja amakhala ndi zosamvana ngakhalenso mikangano koma kulimbikitsa maluso anu othetsera kusamvana pasadakhale kumathandiza kuti nthawi za mikangano zisakhale mavuto akulu. Kusintha momwe mumathana ndi mikangano kumatanthauza kukulitsa luso lanu lolankhulana, kuphunzira kukhala odekha panthawi yamavuto, komanso kufotokoza malingaliro anu polemekeza malire.
6. Pitani kokalakalaka nthawi ndi nthawi
Simungaganize kwambiri za momwe moyo wanu wachisangalalo udzakhalire mutakwatirana koma imodzi mwamalangizo asanakwatirane kwa mkwatibwi ndiyenso kuganizira zokhala ndi mwamuna wake. Zachidziwikire, kukhala pachibwenzi ndikumverera agulugufe m'mimba mwanu nthawi iliyonse mukamuwona mnzanuyo sizingachitike kangapo mutakwatirana koma muyenera kupereka muzipinda mobwerezabwereza kuti mukope mnzanu.
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