Zamkati
- CHOCHITA 1: Khalani omvera
- Gawo 2: Lekani kuvala nkhope yabodza
- STEPI 3: Khalani opezekapo nthawi zonse
- STEPI 4: Kambiranani ndi mawu akuti "INE NDINE .."
- STEPI 5: Yesetsani Kuleza Mtima
Sindikukondananso. ” Ndazimva nthawi zambiri ndikucheza ndi makasitomala. Heck, ndanena ngakhale inemwini. Kusakhala "M'chikondi" kumverera, Ndi chiyani? Chikondi ndi chiyani? Mu maubale, kukhala mchikondi kumatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana. Ndikudziwa kuti kwa ine zimatero. Kugwa mchikondi kumatanthauza kuti palibe kulumikizana, osagwirizana. Nyumba siyingayime pamaziko osakhazikika.
A Gottman's, banja lotsogola pantchito yolangiza mabanja, adapanga chodabwitsachi kukhala maziko oyenera ogwirira ntchito. Amatchedwa ubale wabwino. Chabwino, mbali zonse za nyumba zikuyimira kudzipereka ndi kudalirana. Awo ndi makoma omwe amagwirizira nyumbayo pamodzi. Ndipo ngati zinthu ziwirizi ndizofooka, titha kuyang'ana pakati, zomwe zimagwirizira mbali zosiyanasiyana zaubwenzi limodzi. Yoyamba ndi Love Maps. Mwachidule, awa ndi malo okondana, ndipo ili ndi dera lomwe limafunikira kusamalidwa kwambiri.
Funso: Mukukumbukira momwe mudakondera mnzanu? Nkhani yanu yachikondi ndi yotani? Pamaso pa ana, ngongole yanyumba isanakwane komanso kungokhalira kungokhala ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku; KODI NKHANI YANU YA CHIKONDI NDIYI? Munachita chiyani limodzi? Munapita kuti? Munakambirana chiyani? Mumakhala nthawi yayitali bwanji limodzi?
Kuyambitsanso nkhani yanu yachikondi ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino. Lekani kuzipangitsa kuti zizimveka ngati ntchito, ndipo yambani kuyanjananso. Kutaya kutayika kwa chikondi sikukutanthauza kuti ubale uyenera kutha. Zimangotanthauza kuti iyenera kuyambiranso. Sinthani zomwe mukufuna ndikusowa. Zikutanthauza kuti ndi nthawi yoti kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kudzuke. Chabwino, ndi chiyani chimenecho? Mutha kufunsa. Kumeneku ndiko kuyambiranso kapena kuphunzira kulankhulana, kukambirana ndi kugawana wina ndi mnzake monga mnzanuyo ndi mnzanu wapamtima yemwe mungamuuze chilichonse, ndipo mutha kusangalala nawo. Munthu ameneyo, amene saweruza, amamvetsera ndikufunafuna kumvetsetsa, osati kungoyankha pazomwe akunenazo. Anthu ena akamva zotengeka, amakonda kudzimana komanso kukukuta mano. Pamenepo maso atha kutuluka. Ndimangoseka.
Tiyeni tizipange zosavuta. Monga anthu, Tonsefe tili ndi kutengeka. Kumva kukwiya ndikumverera. Kumva kutopa ndikutengeka.
Maganizo ndi ulusi wamba womwe umatimanga mosasamala kanthu za kusiyana kwathu. Tiyeni tiwononge mawu, Kutengeka- E-Motion. Choyambirira E chimatanthauza kuti Motion ndiye mayendedwe ake. Chifukwa chake, kutengeka kwanu kumabwera chifukwa chosuntha, ndikusungabe ubale wathanzi, wachikondi, wogwira ntchito, wosangalala. Kusuntha kwaubwenzi kuyenera kupitilirabe kutuluka ndikungoyenda pang'ono.
Nayi vuto lachitetezo chachisanu kuti muganizire:
CHOCHITA 1: Khalani omvera
Zimatengera kukhala otseguka kuti mulandire zatsopano zomwe mwina sizingakhale zachilendo kwa inu. Landirani chochitika chatsopano pochita china chosiyana limodzi kapena china chomwe simunachite kwakanthawi. Ngakhale mutakhala poyamba, mukuzengereza chifukwa
Kumva "Mwachikondi" kulibe. Monga mutu wa kampani ya nsapato ku Nike umati, "Ingozichita." Ndiko kufunikira koyambitsa kusuntha kwaubwenzi kuti usinthe. Payenera kukhala gawo logwirira ntchito. Uku ndiye kuyenda kwa E-kuyenda.
Gawo 2: Lekani kuvala nkhope yabodza
Izi zikutanthauza kuti muyambe kuphunzira kukhala owona mtima ndi momwe mumamvera, ndipo mnzanuyo akhale woonamtima kwa inu. Nthawi zonse ndimafunsa makasitomala anga kuti zikukuyenderani bwanji ndipo mukumva bwanji? Mayiko awiri osiyana; Zomwe mukuchita ndizapamwamba kwambiri, pomwe mumakhala ndi nthawi yoti mudziyang'anire nokha ndi mnzanuyo zimakupangitsani kuti muchotse chovalacho. Zabwino sikumverera. Zabwino sikumverera. Yambani kumveka ndikumverera, mayendedwe mthupi lanu. Kumverera kotopa, kusangalala, kukhumudwa, kukondwa, nkhawa, ndi zina zotero. Yambitsiraninso ndikumverera koteroko, ndikuyamba kuwona momwe muli ndi mtima kuti mumvetsetse nokha, kuti mutha kulumikizana ndi mnzanuyo; ndipo mnzanu akuyenera kumvetsera poyesa kumvetsetsa. Osachitapo kanthu, osayankha, osateteza, komabe mukhale pamenepo.
STEPI 3: Khalani opezekapo nthawi zonse
Ndikudziwa momwe zimakhalira kukhala ndi zambiri m'maganizo mwanu kuti simuli munthawiyo ndi mnzanu. Mukuganiza zokonzekeretsa ana kusukulu. Kodi muyenera kumaliza bwanji ntchitoyi? Ndi ngongole ziti zomwe zikufunikirabe kulipidwa ??? Ingoyimani!
Imani pang'ono, Pepani, Pumani! Mukamayankhula ndi mnzanu. Khalani munthawiyo. Ino ndi nthawi yopanda kudzikonda. Ikani zolinga zanu pambali ndikukhala ndi nthawi kuti mumvetsetse dziko la mnzanu popanda kupereka upangiri kapena kuweruza pokhapokha mnzanu atakufunsani upangiri. KHALANI PANO!
Yesetsani kudziyika nokha mu nsapato za mnzanu ndikuwona momwe mungamvere, kapena ngati simukugwirizana. Funsani. Pewani funso la Chifukwa. Sichiitana kukambirana kosavuta komanso kosavuta. Funsani, "Zatheka bwanji?" Nchiyani chimakupangitsani kumva choncho? Chikuchitika ndi chiani?" Khalani ndi chidwi ndikuwonetsa kukhudzidwa posonyeza kuti mukufuna kudziwa zomwe zikuchitika mdziko la mnzanu. Pitani muzochitikira zawo.
STEPI 4: Kambiranani ndi mawu akuti "INE NDINE .."
Mawu oti "INE NDINE" amatenga umwini pazomwe mwakumana nazo, ndipo amasunthira chidwi chanu pazomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna. Ayi, kulankhulana m'maganizo sikunena kuti, "Ndikufuna inu .... Ndiye, kulumikizana kumatha kutsekedwa chifukwa cholinga chake chasinthidwa kukhala chodzudzula m'malo mokhala ndiudindo pazomwe" Ndikufuna "ndikufuna zomwe mnzanu akuchita cholakwika. Mawu oyambira ndi "Inu" atha kudzetsa mkwiyo, kudziteteza komanso kudzikana.
STEPI 5: Yesetsani Kuleza Mtima
Kugwa m'chikondi sikunachitike mwadzidzidzi. Zimamanga pakapita nthawi. Apa ndipomwe phindu la upangiri wa maanja limabwera pachithunzichi kuti zithandizire momwe mnzake aliyense angawonere kuti amvetsetse komwe kutha kwachitika, ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zikusowa pachibwenzi zomwe zingayambitse, komanso momwe angabwezeretsere ubale kapena kuyamba kukhazikitsa Mkhalidwe wogwirizana mwa wokondedwa aliyense. Kumbukirani, ndi njira. Pangani chisankho kuti mukufuna chibwenzicho, ndipo ndinu ofunitsitsa kuchita zomwe zimafunika kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino, wachikondi. Ndizotheka kuyambiranso chinthu chachikondi.
Mutha kutero! Khulupirirani izi.