Zamkati
- 1. Konzani masiku ausiku
- 2. Sinthani chizolowezi chogona
- 3. Osanyalanyaza mawonekedwe anu
- 4. Chitani nawo zinthu zomwe mumakonda kuchita
- 5. Muzidabwitsana ndi mphatso zazing'ono kapena manja
- 6. Kukopana ndi mnzako
- 7. Uzani mnzanu chifukwa chake mumawakonda
Kaya mwakhala ndi mnzanu miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi (kapena kupitilira apo!), Kukondana ndikofunikira muubwenzi.
Izi zimabweretsa funso, chifukwa chiyani kukondana ndikofunikira m'banja?
- Ndi mafuta ofunikira omwe amachititsa kuti ubale upite patsogolo.
- Zimasunga ubale wamoyo, wosangalatsa komanso watanthauzo.
- Manja achikondi ndi wokondedwa wanu amakupangitsani kumva kuti mumafuna, mumakondedwa ndi kusamalidwa.
- Amakukumbutsani kuti mnzanu sakusankha inu koma amayamikira kupezeka kwanu m'moyo wawo.
Tsopano popeza mukudziwa momwe kukondana ndikofunikira muubwenzi, ndi njira ziti zomwe zingaphatikizire kukondana m'banja lanu?
Pambuyo pazaka zochepa zaukwati, sizachilendo kukondana komanso chisangalalo chaubanjacho mpaka kuchepa pang'ono.
Komabe, kuyesetsa pang'ono kungabwezeretse kuyambiranso kwachikondi komwe mumakonda.
Mukazindikira kufunikira kokhala paubwenzi mutha kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro awa omwe angakuthandizeni kuyambiranso kumverera kokondana.
Komanso, penyani kanemayo kuti mumvetse chifukwa chomwe ubale wanu ukhoza kutsika:
1. Konzani masiku ausiku
Pambuyo pa sabata la masiku atali kuntchito kwanu, lingaliro lakukavala ndi kusiya nyumba yanu (ndi ana) kupita ku lesitilanti yabwino lingawoneke ngati ntchito yayikulu.
Koma ngati mutachita izi, mudzamva kuti ndinu achichepere, amoyo komanso ngati mukubwezeretsanso dzina lanu lachiwerewere.
Kudya chakudya chamadzulo ndi wokondedwa wanu mukamakondana kungapindulitse ubale wanu ndikuthandizani kumvetsetsa kufunikira kokhala pachibwenzi.
Mausiku ausiku amakupatsirani malo amodzi m'modzi momwe mungayang'anire chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu - banja lanu.
Lembani mzere pansi pamutu chifukwa chake kukondana ndikofunika muubwenzi, pitilizani kufuna kuyambiranso kulumikizana ndi mnzanuyo kuti musunge chibwenzicho.
2. Sinthani chizolowezi chogona
Kwa anthu ambiri omwe akhala okwatirana kwa nthawi yayitali, kugonana kumatha kukhala kwachabechabe.
Mukudziwa zomwe mungachite kuti mutembenukirane, ndipo nthawi ndi yochepa, ndiye kuti mumadutsa masitepe kuti "mugwire ntchitoyo." Izi, ngakhale zili zopindulitsa, zitha kuwononga chibwenzi chanu.
Aliyense amafunika kudzimva wosiririka komanso wokongola, chifukwa chake khalani ndi nthawi yopanga zomwe mumakonda.
Bwererani kuzinthu zoyambirira zomwe mudali nazo pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chanu.
- Kunyengerera wina ndi mzake pang'onopang'ono.
- Gwiritsani ntchito mawu anu kufotokoza zomwe mumakonda, komwe mumazikonda, chifukwa chomwe mumazikondera, komanso momwe mnzanu amachitira izi kapena izo.
- Sinthani momwe mumakhalira pachibwenzi.
Pofuna kuwonetsa kufunikira kwa kukondana pachibwenzi, yambitsani zinthu zatsopano - maudindo, zoseweretsa zogonana, kugawana zongoyerekeza, kusewera.
3. Osanyalanyaza mawonekedwe anu
Anthu omwe ali pabanja nthawi yayitali ali ndi mphatso yakumverera otetezeka mu maubale awo.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zokwatirana - simukuwona kufunika kokondweretsa wokondedwa wanu nthawi iliyonse mukakumana.
Kumbukirani masiku oyambilira omwe mumakhala maola ambiri patsogolo pa chipinda chanu, ndikutulutsa ndikuyesera zovala zosiyanasiyana?
Kumbukirani momwe mudaperekera mawonekedwe anu akuthupi, ndikupita kokameta tsitsi, splurge pakauntala ya zodzoladzola, kugula zovala zamkati zokongola?
Ndi liti liti lomwe mudachita izi? Kodi kusakhutira kwanu ndi kudzisamalira kumakhudzanso kufunikira kocheperako pachibwenzi, momwe mumapangira zinthu?
Bweretsani chibwenzi muubwenzi wanu pobwerera, osachepera pang'ono, ku masiku azibwenzi aja. Samalani ndi mawonekedwe anu.
Zibwezeretsanso chisangalalo muubwenzi wanu (makamaka ngati mudzaonekera tsiku lotsatira usiku ndi zovala zamkati zazing'ono pansi pa diresi lanu latsopano).
4. Chitani nawo zinthu zomwe mumakonda kuchita
Pomwe zikuwoneka kuti chilichonse chakhala chosasangalatsa komanso chosasangalatsa muubwenzi wanu, fufuzani zokonda zatsopano, masewera kapena zovuta zomwe palibe aliyense wa inu adayesapo kale.
Phunzitsani mpikisano wa 10K (kuyenda kapena kuthamanga), patulani nthawi madzulo aliwonse kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito jigsaw puzzle limodzi, kusewera masewera apakanema limodzi, kuchita ma yoga a mabanja.
Cholinga ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake kukondana ndikofunikira muubwenzi, kusangalala limodzi komanso kuyandikira.
5. Muzidabwitsana ndi mphatso zazing'ono kapena manja
Izi siziyenera kukhala zowala kapena zodula.
Kungolemba mawu achikondi pang'ono positi-pafupi ndi chikwama chake, kapena pizza yodabwitsa yomwe imaperekedwa kuofesi yake mukadziwa kuti akuthamangira nthawi yamasana ndipo sangathe kutuluka, zinthu zazing'onozi zimatha kunyamula nkhonya yayikulu yachikondi chifukwa amati " Ndikuganizira. ”
6. Kukopana ndi mnzako
Ndichoncho, kukopana ndi mnzanuyo. Mwaiwala za zaluso zotayika zija, sichoncho?
Ngati mwapeza yankho lolondola la funsoli, kodi kukondana ndikofunikira m'banja, ndiye kuti mukudziwa kale kuti pali zinthu zochepa zokondana kuposa kukopana.
Kukopana wina ndi mnzake mukamatsuka mano madzulo. (Mwinanso kupinimbira pang'ono, kapena dzanja lopusa likudyetsa malo ake ovuta?)
Kukopana mukakhazikika kuti muwone pulogalamu yomwe mumakonda, ikani dzanja lanu pa ntchafu yawo ndikupatseni kufinya pang'ono. Kukopana ndi kusinthana mawu masana... "Ndikuyembekezera kukhala pafupi ndi iwe pabedi usikuuno!"
Zonsezi zikuthandizani kumvetsetsa kufunikira kokhala paubwenzi pa chibwenzi ndikukumbukira momwe zimakhalira kukhala pachimake cha chikondi pomwe kukondana kunali kwakukulu ndipo simumatha kuthana.
Bweretsani!
7. Uzani mnzanu chifukwa chake mumawakonda
Pali njira zambiri zomwe mungauze chikondi chanu kwa wokondedwa wanu, kuwonjezera pa "Ndimakukondani". Nanga bwanji "Ndimakonda momwe mumasamalirira tonsefe", kapena "Ndimakonda kununkhira kwanu" kapena "Ndikuyamikira kuti mumakumbukira kutenga zobwezeretsanso sabata iliyonse."
Mfundo ndiyakuti kambiranani ndi mnzanuyo kuti mumawawona, mumawayamikira, ndipo simumawaona mopepuka.
Kukulunga
Pamene onse awiri akumbukira kusunga gawo lachikondi lomwe lili pachibwenzi, kuti wina ndi mnzake akhale wosangalala ndikumverera kuti amakondedwa, izi zimasintha kukhala mgwirizano wokhalitsa komanso wokhutiritsa.
Chibwenzi chikamwalira pachibwenzi chomwe pamapeto pake chimakhala ubale wosweka, ndi zingwe zonse zidulidwa.
Kufunika koti chibwenzi chibwenzi sichingagogomezeredwe mokwanira. Kukondana ndi lawi lomwe limapangitsa kulumikizana ndi kukondana kwa awiriwa kukhala amoyo.
Mukawona ndikumva kuti ubale wanu ukuyenda mumsewu wokhumudwa ndikukhutira ndiubwenzi, imani kaye, ndikufunsani, chifukwa chiyani kukondana ndikofunikira muubwenzi.
Anthu okwatirana omwe amayesetsa kuti chikondi chawo chikhalebe chamoyo amapindula ndi maubwenzi osangalala.
Chifukwa chake, musalole kuti moyo wamba usokonezeke chifukwa chofunikira kukondana.