Zamkati
- Chinsinsi chimodzi chomwe chingapangitse kapena kuswa mwayi wanu wopeza chikondi
- Zovuta zakuti chibwenzi, kukondana ndizokulu
- Osakhala pachibwenzi mpaka mutakhala osangalala kwambiri
- Kuzindikira mikhalidwe ya wokondedwa komwe sikudzagwira ntchito kwa iwo
- Ndipo imodzi mwa makiyiwo?
- Kutulutsa mkwiyo kwa omwe kale anali okonda
Mamiliyoni a amuna ndi akazi pakadali pano, akufunafuna chikondi. Kufufuza chikondi. Ndipo ambiri aiwo azipanganso zomwe adachita m'mbuyomu.
Ngakhale sakudziwa kuti akupanga zolakwika zazikulu padziko lonse lapansi.
Kwa zaka 29 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa komanso wothandizira kwambiri, David Essel wakhala akuthandiza anthu mamiliyoni ambiri kuyenda m'njira yoyenera kuti apeze chikondi chachikulu.
Chinsinsi chimodzi chomwe chingapangitse kapena kuswa mwayi wanu wopeza chikondi
Pansipa, David akukambirana mfundo yayikulu yodzilekanitsa yomwe ingadziwe, ngati simuli pabanja pakadali pano ngati mungapeze chikondi chomwe mukuchifuna, kapena ayi. “M'dziko muno muli zipsinjo zambiri zoti muzikondana.
Amayi, makamaka, amamizidwa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi zolemba m'magazini, intaneti, kuyankhulana pawailesi komanso pawailesi yakanema kuti ngati ndinu mkazi wokhwima, wopanda bwenzi, payenera kukhala china chake cholakwika ndi inu.
Amuna, nthawi zambiri, amathanso kumva kukakamizidwa kuchokera kwa abale awo, ndi anzawo akamagwira nawo ntchito poyang'ana pozungulira ndikuwona maanja omwe akuwoneka osangalala, kapena mwina akuyambitsa mabanja, ndipo ifenso amuna timamva kuti tili kumbuyo kwa mpira eyiti.
Zovuta zakuti chibwenzi, kukondana ndizokulu
Chifukwa chake kukakamizidwa kukhala pachibwenzi, kukondana, ndipo mwina kukhala ndi banja ndichachikulu kwambiri, kotero kuti ambiri a ife sitimazindikira kuti timalakwitsa chimodzi chomwe chingaletse mwayi uliwonse wokhala ndiubwenzi wathanzi mtsogolo .
Ndipo kulakwitsa kwakukulu kotani kumene, kuti ngati sitisintha pakadali pano, kungatithandizire kukhala ndi moyo wokhala ndi maubale ocheperako kuposa omwe timayembekezera?
Osakhala pachibwenzi mpaka mutakhala osangalala kwambiri
Ndi izi: sitiyenera konse, konse, kukhala pachibwenzi mpaka titakhala osangalala kwambiri tokha osakwatira.
Kodi anthu ambiri amachita chiyani pamapeto pa chibwenzi? Amayang'ana kulumpha kulowa wina kuti apewe kuyang'ana mkati.
Kupewa kuyang'anitsitsa maudindo obwerezabwereza omwe amasokoneza chikondi m'miyoyo yawo.
Kuzindikira mikhalidwe ya wokondedwa komwe sikudzagwira ntchito kwa iwo
Amalumpha mwachangu pabedi la wina, kuti asazindikire zomwe wokondedwa sangawagwire ntchito. Ndipo zovuta pokhapokha ngati mukucheperachepera ndikupeza njira yowonera zolakwa zanu zam'mbuyomu, ndipo nthawi yomweyo kupeza njira yopita ku chisangalalo chokha, chikondi sichikhala chachabe.
M'buku lathu latsopanoli lachinsinsi lotchedwa "Angel on the surfboard: Buku lachinsinsi lachikondi lomwe limafufuza mafungulo a chikondi chakuya", timakambirana zofunikira zazikulu zisanu ndi chimodzi zomwe tonsefe timafunikira kuti timvetsetse kuti tipeze ubale weniweni, wachikondi.
Ndipo imodzi mwa makiyiwo?
Chimodzi mwazifungulo ndikuti tiyenera kuphunzira kukhala osangalala kwambiri tisanabwerere kudziko la zibwenzi.
M'mabuku osangalatsa komanso osangalatsa ngati bukuli, Sandy Tavish, katswiri wodziwa zaubwenzi yemwe akufunafuna mafungulo achikondi chakuya chomwe mwina adachiphonya pomwe amalemba buku lake kuzilumba za Hawaii, akukumana ndi mayi wina wopuma pantchito yemwe wokongola kwambiri, koma wosokonekera kwambiri zikafika pa amuna ndi dziko la zibwenzi.
Ngakhale ndi kukongola kwake konse, amakhala ndi manyazi chifukwa cha zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti azikhala wokhumudwa, komanso wamanyazi okhudza amuna ndi maubale.
Pokambirana nawo pagombe, Sandy adamufotokozera zakufunika kwakanthawi kanthawi kochepa, ndikupanga moyo wosangalala tili osakwatira, kuti tikope wina yemwe sanakwatirane ndipo koposa zonse amakhala wokondwa mdziko laumbeta .
Zimatengera kukakamizidwa ndi Sandy kuti amutengere mayi wachinyamata wopuma pantchito, Jenn, paulendowu ndi nzeru zake koma kumapeto kwa bukuli akuwona nzeru zomwe Sandy amalalikira.
Kutulutsa mkwiyo kwa omwe kale anali okonda
Palinso mafungulo ena asanu ofunika kwambiri achikondi chakuya chomwe timasanthula m'buku losangalatsali, koma kwa iwo omwe sanakwatirane pakadali pano akuwerenga nkhaniyi, palibe china chofunikira kuposa kubweza, kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri kumasula mkwiyo wanu kwa omwe kale anali okonda, kenako ndikupanga moyo wosangalala pompano.
Ndipokhapo pamene tili okondwa kwambiri tokha ngati osakwatira, pomwe titha kuperekanso ubale wina uliwonse chilichonse chomwe tili nacho chokhudza mphatso zathu, maluso athu, ndi chikondi chathu.
Chifukwa chake pakadali pano, ngati simuli pabanja, chepetsani chidwi chanu pa nkhaniyi.
Kwa zaka pafupifupi 30 zapitazi ndathandizira anthu masauzande ambiri kutsatira pulogalamu yomwe tafotokoza pamwambapa, ndikukhala osangalala kwambiri popanda bwenzi lawo, kuti athe kupeza ubale wabwino womwe timasowa ambiri pamoyo wathu.
Ndikofunika ntchitoyo. Ndikofunika kukhala oleza mtima. Ndipo ndibwino kukhala osakwatiwa kwakanthawi pang'ono kufikira mutapeza njira yomwe imaphatikiza chisangalalo ndi umbeta.