Zamkati
- 1. Tiyeni tiyambe ndi chinthu chogwirika kwambiri - zachuma
- 2. Kuda nkhawa zakukhala "wokwanira" kwa mwana
- 3. Funso la kusalana
- 4. Kusatekeseka nthawi zonse ndikudzimva waliwongo
Kukhala kholo limodzi kumabwera ndi zinthu zambiri, tiyeni tichotse izi. Koma, tiwonetsenso kuti kulera ana, makamaka, ndi chinthu chovuta kuchita. Chokondweretsa kwambiri motsimikiza, koma chovuta.
Kholo lokhalo lokhalo (makamaka mayi, koma mu 2013 panali abambo 17% ku US nawonso) akukumana ndi zovuta zina zambiri - zamaganizidwe, chikhalidwe, komanso ndalama. Chifukwa chake, kulera okha kholo kumakhaladi kotani, ndipo kumawonekera bwanji paumoyo wa ana ndi kholo?
1. Tiyeni tiyambe ndi chinthu chogwirika kwambiri - zachuma
Kulera mwana ndichinthu chodula, ndipo kuzichita wekha zingaoneke ngati zosatheka kuyamba. Mosasamala kanthu za kuchuluka kwa ndalama zomwe mumalandira kuchokera kwa kholo linalo ngati zilipo, inu pokhala wopezera zofunika zonse za inu ndi ana anu zitha kukhala zowopsa.
Kupeza maphunziro apamwamba mwina ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yopezera mwayi, koma kukhala ndi udindo komanso kusamalira zina ndi zina nthawi zina kumakhala kosatheka. Mantha awa nthawi zambiri amakakamiza makolo omwe akulera okha ana kuti agwire ntchito yomwe ali oyenerera ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwira ntchito zamisala.
Zinthu ngati izi, ngakhale nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosatheka kuzipewa, mwatsoka, zimatha kuwonongeka pamaganizidwe.
Makolo ali ndi nkhawa. Nthawi zonse. Ngati ndinu kholo, ndiye kuti mumadziwa momwe ntchitoyo ilili yovuta, komanso zinthu zingati zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikusinkhasinkha pakudzuka kulikonse. Ndipo kholo lokhala lokha silikhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi nthawi yopuma. Ngati atero, zonse zitha kuwonongeka. Izi mwina sizingakhale zoona zenizeni, koma chotsimikizika ndichakuti kholo lililonse lokha limamva choncho.
Zotsatira zake, ndianthu opanikizika kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi, ngakhale atakhala kuti sawoneka choncho.
2. Kuda nkhawa zakukhala "wokwanira" kwa mwana
Popeza kuti ayenera kukhala mayi ndi bambo, ayenera kuchita zonse zowalangiza, kufunikira kosewera. Kuphatikiza apo, munthu ndi woposa kholo chabe - tonsefe tili ndi chosowa choti tikwaniritse pantchito zathu, kukhala ndi moyo wachikondi komanso kukhala pagulu, komanso zonse zomwe ena amapeza.
3. Funso la kusalana
Ndizochepa kwambiri masiku ano azungu zakumadzulo kuti kholo limodzi (mayi, makamaka), aweruzidwe chifukwa cha momwe aliri, koma kholo limodzi limatha kumverera zosavomerezeka pano ndi apo. Monga sikokwanira kuthana ndi zovuta zonse zakukhala ndi kholo limodzi, pafupifupi amayi onse oterewa adaweruzidwa kamodzi pa moyo wawo.
Kukhala mayi wosakwatiwa kumadza ndi manyazi oti mwina ndi achiwerewere komanso kutenga mimba kunja kwa banja, kapena mkazi woyipa ndikusudzulidwa. Ndipo kuthana ndi tsankho lotere kumatha kupangitsa moyo watsiku ndi tsiku kukhala wokhumudwitsa kwambiri.
Chifukwa chake, inde, kulera kholo limodzi kumakhala kovuta m'njira zambiri.
4. Kusatekeseka nthawi zonse ndikudzimva waliwongo
Pali mantha opanda pake okhudza ana anu osakulira m'banja lathunthu. Koma, mukayamba kusinkhasinkha pazonsezi, kumbukirani kuti kwa mwana ndibwino kuti akule ndi kholo limodzi lokonda komanso losangalatsa kuposa momwe angakhalire m'banja lathunthu lomwe mumamenyera nkhanza nthawi zonse, ngakhale kupsa mtima. .
Chofunika kwa mwanayo ndikukula ndi kholo lomwe ndi laubwenzi komanso lachikondi.
Kholo lomwe limapereka chithandizo ndi chikondi. Yemwe ndi wotseguka komanso wowona mtima. Ndipo zinthu izi sizimalipira chilichonse ndipo sizimangodalira wina aliyense koma inu nokha. Chifukwa chake, nthawi yotsatira mukachoka m'malingaliro mwanu kuyesa kuchita zonsezi, ingodzichepetsani ndikukumbukira - zomwe mwana wanu amafunikira kwenikweni ndi chikondi chanu komanso kumvetsetsa kwanu.
Ziribe kanthu momwe tikufunira kuti zikhale zofanana ndikugawana katundu, sizili choncho. Kaya ndinu amayi kapena abambo a mwana (kapena ana) omwe mumadzikweza panokha pazifukwa zilizonse, ndi msewu wopita patsogolo. Komabe, mutonthozedwe podziwa kuti ndi njira yofananira kwa makolo omwe amachita limodzi tsiku lililonse chifukwa kulera ana ndi kovuta. Muyenera kuyesetsa kwambiri, koma, monga takuwonetsani m'nkhaniyi, ndichopindulitsa kwambiri chomwe mungakhale nacho, chomwe chingapangitse inu ndi ana anu kukhala opambana momwe mungathere.