Zamkati
- 1. Funsani zolinga zanu
- 2. Phunzirani kuzindikira momwe mukumvera
- 3. Yesetsani kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza nokha
- 4. Tsamira mavuto
- 5. Yesetsani kupanga zisankho
- 6. Lolani mpata woti mukangane
- 7. Funsani thandizo
- 8. Phunzirani kunena “Ayi”
- 9. Dziyang'anireni nokha kudzera mwa wokondedwa
- 10. Pezani mawu anu
Ngakhale ndichizindikiro cha ubale wabwino kulola wokondedwa wanu kukuthandizani mwakuthupi, mwamaganizidwe, komanso momwe mukumvera, mafundewo amasintha kukhala opanda thanzi tikasiyana ndi kuthekera kwathu kudzithandiza tokha ndikulimbana ndi kuthana ndi kudalira.
Chiyanjano chodalira chimatanthauza kusowa kwa thanzi ndi kumamatira.
Kuti chikondano chikhale bwino ndikofunikira ndikofunikira kusintha ubale wodalirana, kusiya kuwononga zosowa zanu komanso kudzidalira, ndikubwezeretsanso chidwi ndi mnzanu.
Zofanana zomwe zimalimbikitsa kulumikizana ndi kulumikizana, zikakokomezedwa, zimatithandizanso kuti tikhale otanganidwa kwambiri muubwenzi wathu.
Ndipamene munthu amayamba kufunafuna chithandizo chodalira mgwirizano muubwenzi, ndikuphwanya mayendedwe aubwenzi wodalirana.
Malinga ndi akatswiri pankhani yodziyimira payokha pamaubwenzi, kuchiritsa ubale kuchokera kudalirana kumakhala kovuta, ngati kusiyidwa, kumangokulira pakapita nthawi.
Tatsala ndikulimbana ndi mafunso oti, "tingathetse bwanji kudalira?", Kufunafuna njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimapereka chithandizo chodalira, kuti tithe kusintha ubale wodalirana osadziyang'ana tokha.
Pakusakanikirana miyoyo iwiri, pamakhala mgwirizanowu wolankhulidwa komanso wosanenedwa momwe izi zimachitikira, ndipo musanadziwe, zitha kuwoneka ngati moyo umodzi wothandizidwa ndi anthu awiri.
Komanso, penyani izi:
Ngati mwadzipeza nokha munjira izi zodalira, nazi njira khumi zokhazikitsanso malire abwino ndikukonzekera ubale wodalirana.
Malangizo 10 kuthana ndi kudalira maubwenzi
1. Funsani zolinga zanu
Mwa kudalira kokhazikika, nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti tasowa njira popanga zisankho muubwenzi. Dzifunseni nokha ngati zolinga zanu ndizopindulitsa kapena za mnzanu.
Tikadzipeza tokha nthawi zonse kuyika zofuna ndi zofuna za mnzathu patsogolo pa zathu, timakonda kuzinyalanyaza tokha ndikupanga mkwiyo kwa mnzathu.
Kumvetsetsa cholinga chamakhalidwe athu kumatipatsa mwayi Chitani kuchokera kumalo opatsirana mphamvu, m'malo mochita zomwe anzathu akumva.
2. Phunzirani kuzindikira momwe mukumvera
Chimodzi mwazomwe zimachitika mwamphamvu pakudziyimira pawokha ndikudziwikitsa kwambiri momwe mnzathu akumvera, ndikudzizindikiritsa momwe timamvera. Kumverera kumapereka chidziwitso chambiri komanso chitsogozo.
Chifukwa chake, ngati timayang'anitsitsa kwambiri momwe mnzathu akumvera, titha kuchita zinthu moyenera komanso kuwayang'anira, ngakhale titakhala otani.
Tikamazindikira kwambiri momwe timamvera, ndipamenenso timatha kuyamba kukwaniritsa zosowa zathu ndikukhala ndi ubale wodalirika.
3. Yesetsani kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza nokha
Njira zodalirana zimayamba kukula tikayamba kugwiritsa ntchito anthu ena ngati njira yothanirana ndi zovuta zathu komanso momwe timamvera.
Sikuti timangofunikira nthawi yokhala chete komanso malo oti tizindikire momwe tikumvera, koma Nthawi yomwe timakhala tokha ndiyofunikanso kukulitsa chidaliro kuti titha kudzisamalira tokha komanso momwe timamvera.
Monga ubale uliwonse, kudalirana kumamangika pakapita nthawi, ndipo ubale wathu ndi ife eni sunasiyana. Dzipatseni nthawi yoti mudzidziwe nokha kunja kwa chibwenzi chanu.
4. Tsamira mavuto
Monga anthu, Ndife olimbikira kuti tipewe zowawa komanso zovuta, zomwe zimatitsogolera pakupanga njira zopulumukira.
Koma ngakhale anthu adapangidwa kuti azitha kupewa kuwawa, zomwe zimachitikira anthu zidakonzedwa kuti ziziphatikizira.
Pankhani yodziyimira pawokha, titha kuyesa kuwongolera zomwe takumana nazo, kupewa zovuta komanso zosasangalatsa, poyang'ana kwambiri ndikusamalira bwenzi lathu.
Mwambi wakalewo umati, “ngati uli bwino, ndili bwino.”
Mpaka titaphunzira kuti tili ndi kuthekera komanso kuthekera kosamalira zovuta, tidzapitilizabe kudzipeza munthawi izi zopewa.
5. Yesetsani kupanga zisankho
Tikataya gawo lathu pachibwenzi, timatayikiranso mwayi wathu wofotokozera zomwe tikufuna ndi zosowa zathu.
Dzipatseni mpata wokonzekera kupanga zisankho.
- Tchulani malo odyera omwe mukufuna kupitako kukadya chakudya chamadzulo.
- Nenani "ayi" pakuyitanidwa kwaposachedwa.
Podzipatsa nokha mwayi wopanga zisankho zotere, mudzazindikira za inu nokha, ndikudzidalira kuti mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu anu.
6. Lolani mpata woti mukangane
Pakati pazinthu zodalira, pali mutu wotsatira kuti tipewe mikangano. Titha kukhala ovomerezana kwambiri ndi zomwe okondedwa wathu aganiza kuti tipewe kusamvana komwe kumakhala kovuta.
Sikuti izi zitha kukhala zopanda thanzi zokha, zitha kukhala zosatheka kwenikweni.
Mu anthu awiri akubwera limodzi muubwenzi, pamakhala kusiyana malingaliro.
Kudzipatsa nokha chilolezo kuti musagwirizane kumakupatsani mwayi woti mnzanuyo akudziweni, ndipo kumakupatsani mwayi wokhala pachibwenzi kuti muphunzire kulankhulana.
Kulimbana, ngakhale kumakhala kosasangalatsa, ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti ubale ukhale wathanzi.
7. Funsani thandizo
Ngakhale njira zodalira nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati kudalira kwambiri ena, ndizosowa kumva zopempha zothandizidwa.
Kudzidalira kumachitika tikamayendetsa zibwenzi kuti zizichita zinthu zina popanda kunena dala zosowa zathu kapena zokhumba zathu. Komabe, sichichokera pamalo acholinga choyipa koma koposa pakufunika kofikitsa zotsatira zomwe mukufuna.
Kuti tileke njira yolankhulirana yokhayokha yomwe imalimbikitsa kudalira, tiyenera kuyamba kuyeseza kupempha thandizo.
Yambirani zazing'ono momwe mungafunikire, mwina kufunsa wokondedwa wanu kuti akupatseni minofu, kuti mukhale ndi chizolowezi chololeza pempho lothandizidwa kuti limveke.
8. Phunzirani kunena “Ayi”
Kuopa kukanidwa ndiimodzi mwamawonekedwe omwe ali pachiwonetsero chodalira.
Poopa kukanidwa muubwenzi wodalirana, titha kupanga nkhani kuti tiyenera kuchita gawo linalake kuti tikhale ndiubwenzi. Izi zimatipangitsa kukhala ndi chizolowezi chonena kuti, "inde," kuti tikwaniritse udindo wathu, mosasamala kanthu za zosowa zathu.
Ngati kuli kovuta kunena, "ayi," mkati mwa chibwenzi, ndiye "inde," nthawi zonse amawonongedwa.
Kutsimikizira malire athanzi kumafunikira kukulitsa gawo lathu muubwenzi.
9. Dziyang'anireni nokha kudzera mwa wokondedwa
Kodi mungamve bwanji bwenzi lanu lapamtima, mwana, kapena wokondedwa wanu atakhala pachibwenzi chomwe muli nacho?
Funso ili nthawi zambiri limapereka chidziwitso chokwanira pamachitidwe aubwenzi wanu omwe sakukuthandizaninso.
Ngati mungadane ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kuti agwire nawo gawo pachibwenzi, chomwe chimakupangitsani kusewera
- Kodi mungayembekezere chiyani wokondedwa wanu?
- Kodi mungagwire bwanji kuti mupeze izi?
Dziloleni kuti muziyembekezera zomwezo kwa inu monga momwe mungachitire ndi omwe mumawakonda.
10. Pezani mawu anu
Kawirikawiri maubale amakhala ndi magawo makumi asanu / makumi asanu owona, koma Mitundu yodziyimira payokha imakhudzidwa pamene mnzake akulandila zochepa Danga mkati mwaubwenzi.
Mukamaloleza kuchita chibwenzicho, mumadzipatsanso chilolezo chogwiritsa ntchito liwu lanu ndikulimbikitsa zosowa zanu.
Patsani wokondedwa wanu mwayi wokudziwani bwino popanga mawu anu amveke. Mosiyana ndi maubwenzi odalirana, maubale abwino amasinthasintha mokwanira kuti onse awiri akhale ndi malo okhala.