Zamkati
- Njira zothetsera mavuto
- Mantha ndi misozi
- Sewerani seweroli
- Kukondana
- Machiritso ogonana
- Zosavuta komanso zamphamvu
Ngati mnzanu adachitiridwa zachinyamata ali mwana kapena adachitiridwa zachipongwe, atha kukhala kuti mosazindikira akubweretsa zina mwazomwe amamuzunza pabedi laukwati. Zitha kukhala zosokoneza komanso zokhumudwitsa nonsenu, kudziimba nokha kapena kusungulumwa zomwe simungathe kufotokoza. Komabe, pali njira zina zomwe mungamuthandizire kuti azimva kukhala wotetezeka komanso wokondedwa kuti athe kufikira zokumana nazo zakuya komanso zolemera zakugonana.
Njira zothetsera mavuto
Ana akawopsezedwa kuti achita zosayenera, kaya zoopsezazo ndi zenizeni kapena ayi, amaphunzira kudziteteza. Amatha kulimbitsa matupi awo, kupeza njira zoti akhale "osawoneka," kapena kuchita zinthu zosonyeza kupanduka. Nthawi zambiri, machitidwe awa amalowetsedwa mu psyche ndipo mosazindikira amapititsidwa m'moyo wachikulire. Zimatenga nthawi, kulimba mtima, komanso kuleza mtima kuti muchepetse zikhalidwe zotetezera, koma ndizotheka kuzithetsa ndikukhala omasuka kukhala ndi moyo wosangalala wogonana.
Mantha ndi misozi
Ngakhale amakukondani kwambiri ndipo amafuna kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino wogonana nanu, kufunikira kodziteteza kumatha kuyambitsa mantha, misozi, ndi malire mukamamuyandikira kuti mugone naye. Kusangalala kwanu kwachimuna kumamverera ngati kukakamizidwa ngati atseka kuyankha kwake kwachibadwa. Zotsatira zake ndikuti mwina amakukankhirani kutali kapena akuti inde pomwe akutanthauza kuti ayi.
Sewerani seweroli
Njira yoyamba yomwe mungamuthandizire ndikumakambirana. Tsegulani njira zolumikizirana ndi kumvetsetsa, kumudziwitsa kuti mukufuna kumuthandiza ndipo ndinu okonzeka kupezeka ndi chilichonse chomwe chingachitike. Ngati zokhumudwitsa zibuka zomwe sizimveka bwino, khalani naye limodzi ndikumulimbikitsa kuti azimva chilichonse chomwe akumva. Zowonjezera, sizokhudza inu, chifukwa chake musazitengere nokha. Nthawi zambiri pamakhala chizolowezi chofuna kupangitsa kuti kutengeka kutanthauze china chake, koma mwina sichingagwirizane kwathunthu ndi zomwe zikuchitika pano. Palibe chifukwa chogawa nkhani kapena sewero. Apempheni kuti azingomva m'malo mongobwezeretsa kutengeka, ndipo izi zimawapatsa mwayi kuti amasule ndikumveka.
Kukondana
Njira yachiwiri yomwe mungamuthandizire ndikupanga nthawi yocheza ndi chilakolako chomwe chilibe cholinga chogonana.Mpatseni nthawi yoti afunde ndipo amulole kuyang'anitsitsa ndi kumugwira, kumpsompsona, komanso kukumbatirana popanda cholinga. Khazikitsani nthawizi ndi mgwirizano wapakamwa kuti sizokhudzana ndi kugonana, koma pakulimbitsa chibwenzi. Mukamakondana limodzi, mumapangitsanso chitetezo ndi kudalirana, zomwe ndi maziko olimba ogonana.
Machiritso ogonana
Njira yachitatu yomwe mungamuthandizire ndikumuitanira kumalo ochezera omwe amayang'ana kwambiri iye. Momwemonso, amatha kukhala omvera, osakhazikika pang'ono. Mukakhala pansi moyang'anizana ndi miyendo yake atakutidwa ndi yanu, kaya patebulo losanjikiza, pabedi, kapena pansi. Onetsetsani kuti ali ndi zokwanira kuti azikumana nanu popanda vuto. Muwuzeni kuti nthawi ino ndi yoti alandire chikondi chanu ndi mphamvu yakuchiritsa. Khalani naye limodzi ndikuyang'ana m'maso mwake.
Funsani chilolezo kuti muike manja anu pa thupi lake, ndipo ngati akuvomera, ikani dzanja limodzi modekha pamtima pake (pakati pa mabere ake) ndi linalo pamimba pake ndipo muwapumitse pamenepo ali chete. Akamasuka kuti alandire, funsani ngati mungathe kuyika dzanja lake m'chiuno, ndipo ngati akuti inde, chotsani dzanja m'mimba mwake ndikuligoneka pang'ono pamwamba pa chitunda chake. Lingaliro silolimbikitsa dera, koma kubweretsa kupezeka ndi mphamvu yakuchiritsa.
Ndi dzanja limodzi pamtima pake ndipo linalo pamalo ake ogonana, pumani ndikupemphani kuti apume. Khalani pomwepo ndi chilichonse chomwe chingachitike, ngakhale chikuwoneka kuti palibe chomwe chikuchitika. Ngati zingachitike, muuzeni kuti azimva bwino ndikulola kuti zisunthe. Mufunseni ngati angafune kuti manja anu azikhala paliponse pathupi lake ndikutsatira malangizo ake. Khalani nacho mpaka chimveke chokwanira.
Zosavuta komanso zamphamvu
Kuchiritsa kophweka, kwamphamvu kumeneku kumatha kubweretsa malingaliro ndi zokumbukira zomwe mwina zidayikidwa kalekale. Ngakhale zingawoneke ngati zosasangalatsa kuyambitsa zinthu zakale, zimakhala zopindulitsa pamapeto pake. Angafunikire kuthandizidwa ndi akatswiri ena kuti amuthandize kuthana ndi zomwe zingatuluke. Momwe zimatulukira, zimatha kumasulidwa ndikuchiritsidwa, ndipo adzakhala ali panjira yoti akhale wotseguka komanso wopezeka pachibwenzi chachikondi, chachimwemwe, komanso cholumikizana.