Zamkati
- 1. Musamachite chikondi mwachisawawa
- 2. Gwiritsani ntchito mwayi wanu mukakhala nawo
- 3. Kuzindikira nthawi yoyenera
- 4. Mutha kuphonya chikondi chanu kwamuyaya
- 5. Siyani zakale ndi kupitiriza
Mkazi wanga sayenera kudziwa izi koma ndimasowa chikondi changa choyamba - nthawi zina. Koma ndikulakwitsa kwanga kuti sizinayende momwe tidakonzera. Sindinali wokonzeka, kapena bwino, sindinadziwe zomwe ndimachita. Ndipo panthawi yomwe ndimabwerera ku malingaliro anga, zinali zochedwa kwambiri. Kumwamba kumadziwa kuti ndinayesetsa kuthetsa vutoli. Ndidayesera kuti ndibwezeretse chikondi changa koma mpaka lero ndikulemba izi, sindinathe kulumikizana ndi chikondi changa choyamba.
Ndili mkati moyesetsa kuyambiranso kulumikizana ndi bwenzi langa lomwe ndidamuwona komaliza ndili mchaka chachitatu ku koleji, ndidamva kudzera mwa bwenzi kuti anali atakwatiwa kale. Zinandipweteka kwambiri. Zinanditengera nthawi ndithu kuti ndiyambenso kuyenda ndikupita patsogolo koma ndaphunzira kuchokera kulephera kubanja langa.
Inde, ndinapezanso chikondi ndipo ndili ndi ana atatu tsopano ndi mkazi wanga. Koma ndimabweretsa zomwe ndaphunzira kutayika kwa chikondi changa choyamba mmoyo wanga ndi banja langa lero.
1. Musamachite chikondi mwachisawawa
J, momwe ndikufunira kutchula chikondi changa choyamba, adandichotsa. Kamodzi m'moyo wanga, ndinali mchikondi. Ayi, sindinalinso wachinyamata. Ndinali makumi awiri ndipo ndinali nditamaliza kale sukulu yasekondale. Ndinakumana ndi J, kapena kuyika bwino, J ndipo tidakumana kunyumba kwa amalume anga. Amakonda kwambiri mkazi wa amalume anga ndi ana ake.
J, yemwe amakhala pafupi, amabwera mnyumbamo kangapo pamlungu. Amasewera ndi ana ndipo timalankhulana. Sipanatenge nthawi tinayamba kukondana. Ndiye chinthu chimodzi chidatsogolera ku china ndipo J adakhala bwenzi langa.
Ndinazindikira kuyambira pachiyambi pomwe kuti J anali mwa ine. Momwe amandiyang'ana komanso kuyankhula nane. Ndipo momwe ndimamverera nthawi iliyonse yomwe anali pafupi. Ena amalitcha chemistry. Zinali zodabwitsa kwambiri. Popeza ndidakhala bwenzi langa, J anali kundikonda. Ndimamukondanso koma sindinali wokonzeka. Ndinayenera kupita kukoleji. Zaka zingapo tili pachibwenzi ndipo pamapeto pake tinalowa koleji. Ndinali kupita kusukulu mumzinda wina. Sindinkasamala za J pofika pano. Moyo unali kuyembekezera.
Nditabwerera kutchuthi mchaka changa chachitatu, Jane yemwe anali ku koleji nayenso anali atabwerera kutchuthi. Iye anali ponseponse pa ine. Poyang'ana m'mbuyo, zikuwoneka ngati kuti akufuna kundiuza china chake. Koma sindinamvere. Ndidali kuwerenga buku lolembedwa ndi David J. Schwartz lomwe ndidanyamula. Anandilanda bukulo kundiuza kuti ndibwere ndikatenga bukuli ndikakonzeka. Sindinabwere. Patapita kanthawi ndinabwerera kusukulu.
Nditamaliza maphunziro anga, tsopano ndinali kufunafuna J. sindinamupezenso. Iwo anali atasamukira kwina kulikonse. J adandichokera!
2. Gwiritsani ntchito mwayi wanu mukakhala nawo
J anali mwayi wanga pachikondi chenicheni. Anasamala. Nthawi zonse ankandithandiza. Koma sindinawerenge kwenikweni pazomwe amachita. Zinkawoneka ngati zabwinobwino kwa ine ndipo ndinali ndi nsomba zazikuluzikulu kuti ndizizungulira kuganizira za tsogolo langa. Chifukwa chake sindinazindikire zomwe anachita mpaka nditazindikira kuti sindingamupezenso. Kenako adandimenya ngati mwala pamphumi. Chikondi changa choyamba chinali kuchoka kwa ine. Koma tsopano ndinali wopenga. Ndinamufuna kwambiri. Ndidachita zonse zotheka kuti ndimufikire. Kenako mnzake yemwe adadziwa za izi pamapeto pake adandiwuza "nkhani zoyipa"; J anali atakwatira kale.
Ndinaphonya mwayi wamoyo wonse. Angadziwe ndani? Mwinanso anali pamavuto nthawi yomaliza yomwe tidali limodzi. Mwina adandifuna kuti ndimutsimikizire kuti ndiripo kwa iye ndipo ndili ndi zolinga zamtsogolo.
3. Kuzindikira nthawi yoyenera
Nthawi yanga sinali ya a J. Pamene anali wokonzeka kukwatiwa sindinali. Koma ndikadamumvera ndikadakhala kuti ndidadziwa zomwe amafuna ndipo titha kuvomerezana. Ndinkafuna kumukwatira. Sindinali wotsimikiza komabe. Ndinali kuyembekezera nthawi yoyenera. Koma sindinazizindikire.
4. Mutha kuphonya chikondi chanu kwamuyaya
Monga ndidanenera koyambirira, ndimamusowabe J - nthawi zina. Ndikulakalaka ndikadapanda koma ndikutero. Makamaka, ndisanakumane ndi mkazi wanga, ndimakonda kulingalira za J. Ndidzasunthika ndikuganiza ndikuyenera kudzipangitsa ndekha kubwerera. Ndikudziimba mlandu chifukwa chokhala wakhungu kwambiri kuti sindinawonepo mwayi wachikondi chenicheni komanso chisangalalo chomwe ndinali nacho patsogolo panga. Koma kukumana ndi mzanga wina, yemwe tsopano ndi mkazi wanga, kunandipatsa mwayi watsopano wachikondi.
5. Siyani zakale ndi kupitiriza
Ndine wokwatiwa wosangalala ndipo tsopano ndikubweretsa maphunziro onsewa muukwati wanga. Ndapeza J anali wokoma koma pali moyo pambuyo pake. Ndili ndi mkazi wachikondi wokongola yemwe wakhala wokondedwa wanga. Ndamusiya J ndikupitiliza ndi moyo wanga.
Ndimabweretsa zomwe ndaphunzira kuchokera kutayika kwa J muubwenzi wanga ndikuwona kuti ndizokukumbutsani kuti musalakwitse zina. Mwanjira yachilendo, tsopano zikuwoneka kuti kutaya J chinali chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe chidandichitikira.