Zamkati
- 1. Ndalama ndizofunika
- 2. Mwina mungavutike kugwiritsa ntchito bwino nthawi yanu
- 3. Osayesa kukonza mnzanu
- 4. Zizolowereni maudindo atsopano
- 5. Mutha kukhala ndi zifukwa zambiri
Zomangira zaukwati zili ngati mgwirizano wina uliwonse - zimakhwima pang'onopang'ono. ~ Peter De Vries
Ukwati ndi malo abwino. Ili ndi mphamvu yakukhazikitsa njira ya moyo wathu. Banja lolimba limachepetsa zovuta zomwe timakumana nazo. Koma monga ubale wina uliwonse, pamakhala zovuta pomwe malingaliro achikondi angawoneke kuti awuma. Kwa ma veteran ambiri okwatirana, chaka choyamba chaukwati ndi chovuta kwambiri komanso chofunikira kwambiri. Padzakhala zokumana nazo zatsopano zambiri, zina zabwino pomwe zina sizabwino kwenikweni. Kusintha kosavuta kwa matchulidwe kuchokera kwa 'ine' kupita ku 'ife' kumatha kubweretsa kuchuluka kwa malingaliro osiyanasiyana ndi mayankho. Chaka choyamba chaukwati chimadzazidwa ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana, zosayembekezereka zomwe zimayesa chikondi chanu ndi kuleza mtima kwanu onse. Mukamakumana ndi zochitikazi, ubale wanu umalimba ndikukhazikitsa maziko a moyo wanu wonse limodzi.
Apa, tikubweretserani zinthu zisanu zomwe zingakudzidzimutseni mchaka choyamba chaukwati-
1. Ndalama ndizofunika
Lingaliro la ndalama zophatikizika ndi kuyenda kwa ndalama zikuwoneka zosangalatsa koma simuyenera kuiwala maudindo onse ndi zovuta zomwe zimabwera ndi ndalama zomwe munalandira mutalowa m'banja. Mwambiri, zachuma ndizomwe zimayambitsa mavuto ndi mikangano pakati pa okwatirana. Malinga ndi kafukufuku yemwe adachitika ku Utah State University, maanja omwe amakangana pankhani zachuma kamodzi pa sabata ali ndi mwayi wopitilira 30% kuposa omwe amakangana kangapo pamwezi. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kumalankhula momasuka za ndalama ndi zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito. Yesetsani kufikira mgwirizano wogwirizana pazinthu zonse zokhudzana ndi ndalama musanathetse mikangano iliyonse pamutuwu. Musaiwale kudziwitsa mnzanu ngati pali ngongole zilizonse musanalowe m'banja.
2. Mwina mungavutike kugwiritsa ntchito bwino nthawi yanu
Kusamala magawo anu kuti mupeze nthawi yocheza ndi gawo limodzi lofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wanu. Khazikitsani zolinga zomwe mungakwanitse zokhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanuyo ndikugwiritsa ntchito bwino nthawi yanu limodzi. Ganizirani pakupanga zokumbukira zomwe zingakuthandizeni mtsogolo munthawi yamavuto.
3. Osayesa kukonza mnzanu
Anthu ena mwachibadwa amayesa kukonza zinthu zowazungulira ngati akuwona kuti china chake sichikugwirizana ndi malingaliro kapena chiyembekezo chawo. Mwinanso mudachita izi mudali pachibwenzi. Koma zinthu zimasintha pambuyo paukwati. Ndi zovuta zina ndi ziyembekezo za mgonero, khalidweli limatha kupezeka ngati lopondereza kapena lopondereza. Muyenera kukhala osavuta mu ubale watsopanowu. Phunzirani kudzisintha nokha musanapeze zolakwika mwa mnzanu.
Monga momwe wina ananenera- Kupambana mu banja sikubwera kokha chifukwa chopeza wokwatirana naye, koma chifukwa chokhala mkazi woyenera.
4. Zizolowereni maudindo atsopano
Zimamveka mosiyana ndikulankhula ndi bwenzi / bwenzi lanu lanthawi yayitali ngati mnzanu. Zidzakhala zosangalatsa kuvomerezedwa ngati Mr. ndi Akazi pamodzi, pagulu. Kwa anthu ena apabanja, kusinthaku kumatha kukhala kovuta kuvomereza ndikukulunga mutu wanu mozungulira. Ndipo inde! Ino ndi nthawi yomwe mudzapereke mwayi wosankha umodzi wanu.
5. Mutha kukhala ndi zifukwa zambiri
Mudzamenya nkhondo. Zimangodalira momwe mungachitire ndi mikhalidwe yanu. Izi zitha kubwera ngati cheke chenicheni makamaka chifukwa musanalowe m'banja mnzanu atha kukambirana mosiyana. Koma tengani nawo pang'ono. Wokondedwa wanu ndi watsopano ku mgwirizanowu monga momwe mulili. Kulandira zolakwitsa ndi mbali yakukondana. Kumbukirani izi!
Moyo ndi mtolo wa zodabwitsa kwa aliyense. Tonsefe tikuyembekeza kukhala ndi ukwati wamaloto ndikukhala ndi banja labwino. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi ndi pomwe timazindikira momwe moyo udziyambire wokha komanso momwe tingachitire ndi zochitika zina. "Chaka chilichonse chaukwati chitha kukhala chovuta ndipo, mwina chifukwa choti ziyembekezo nzochuluka, zotsalira mwina zimapweteka kwambiri mchaka choyamba," akutero mlangizi wa ubale, a Susie Tuckwell.
Mwachidule, kuti tikhale ndi moyo wachimwemwe ndi wamtendere, nthawi zonse tiyenera kuyamikira zomwe tili nazo ndikuwerengera madalitso omwe tili nawo. Chaka choyamba chaukwati wanu ndichofunikira kwambiri koma pali nthawi yoti mugwiritse ntchito limodzi komanso zambiri zomwe zikuyembekezeredwa kuti zichitike, chifukwa chake musadere nkhawa kwambiri zomwe sizinachitike malinga ndi kukonzekera kwanu.