Zamkati
Nthawi zambiri anthu amayang'ana zinsinsi za ubale wabwino, kaya ndiukwati kapena chikondi chokha, koma chowonadi ndi ichi: palibe zamatsenga, zobisika, zothetsa-zonse zomwe ziziwonetsetsa kuti banja lanu likhazikika kwamuyaya kapena kuti chikondi chanu sichidzatha.
Chikondi ndi banja ndichinthu chomwe inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kuchitira limodzi.
Ngati ubale wanu ukufota, ndiye zimangotenga maupangiri abwino ochepa owongolera moyo wachikondi chanu. Komabe, zimafunikira chisamaliro chachikulu ndi chidwi kuti mubwezeretse ubale wanu pachisangalalo ndi chisangalalo chomwe mudali nacho kale.
Choyang'ana ichi ndikuti nthawi yochuluka ndi khama lomwe mumayika kuti mukwaniritse moyo wachikondi, chikondi chanu chimakhala ndi chikondi chochuluka.
Mwamwayi, simuyenera kugwira ntchito nokha: pali maubwenzi ambiri olimba okonda upangiri wa moyo kapena malingaliro pa moyo ndi chikondi kunja uko kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe mungasinthire moyo wachikondi chanu.
Otsatirawa ndi ena maupangiri achikondi ofunikira kuti iye ndi iye asangalale ndi moyo wachikondi:
1. Chilichonse sichingakhale changwiro
Palibe changwiro, makamaka osati maubale. Ubale wonse uli ndi zovuta, katundu, ndikukwera ndi kutsika; ichi ndichinthu chomwe nthawi zambiri anthu amaiwala akalowa muubwenzi.
Kuyika mnzanu ndi wokondedwa wanu pachimake nthawi zambiri kumatha kukhala kopanikiza kwambiri kwa mnzanu yemwe ayenera kuchita zomwe mukuyembekezera komanso kukupanikizani mukalephera kuzikwaniritsa.
Mwinanso kupembedza, kulangiza, kudzudzula, kapena kudzudzula wokondedwa wanu kungakhale kovulaza komanso kuwononga banja lanu.
Kulandira zofooka za mnzanu ndikuwonetsa kuti mumamvetsetsa kuti amathanso kulakwitsa ndikofunikira kuti mumve kulumikizana ndi mnzanu. Kuwonetsa kumvera ena chisoni komanso kunyoza zochepa ndizomwe ubale uliwonse umafunikira kuti mukhale wolimba.
Tsoka ilo, kuiwala mfundo yofunikayi nthawi zambiri kumadzipweteketsa zinthu zikavuta!
Koma chowonadi chake ndi ichi: chikondi ndi ukwati nthawi zonse zimakhala zopanda ungwiro, ngakhale mutakhala bwino pachibwenzi chanu. Pulogalamu ya chinthu chofunikira ndikuzindikira kuti zolakwika sizachilendo, ndipo pitirizani.
2. Kulankhulana bwino
Kuyankhulana ndiye maziko aubwenzi uliwonse. Popanda kulumikizana, ubale umatha. Ukwati wopambana kapena mgwirizano uyenera kutengera kulumikizana, pomwe onse awiri amalumikizana mosazengereza.
Chimodzi mwazambiri mbali zofunika za kulankhulana bwino ndi kumvetsera.
Zolakwitsa zomvera zomwe maanja amapanga ndi izi:
- kupezeka pakuchezera komanso kumangolota za china chake
- Kuganizira kwambiri zoti ndinene kenako,
- kuweruza wokondedwa wawo powamvera, ndipo
- kumvetsera ndi lingaliro lokonzedweratu ndi cholinga chenicheni.
Kumbali inayi, kuwonetsa chidwi chenicheni komanso chidwi chopanda kuweruza kapena zotsatira m'malingaliro kumatha kuyambitsa zokambirana zabwino.
Kusintha moyo wachikondi chanu ndikuwongolera momwe mumalankhulirana bwino ndi mnzanu, tsatirani malangizo awa achikondi kwa iye ndi iye:
- Nthawi zambiri Malingaliro obisika amatha kukulira ndi kukhala owopsa kwambiri. Onetsetsani kuti mukufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu komanso malingaliro anu mosaweruza.
- Popereka kutsutsa, ndikofunikira kuti agawidwe m'njira yabwino. Izi zikhoza kukhala kuti mnzanu adziwe za zizolowezi zawo zoyipa kapena zosasangalatsa; zonsezi m'njira yomwe imawalimbikitsa kuti aganizire zosintha ndikusintha madera awo.
– Mvetserani zomwe mnzanu akunena, yesani kumuyang'ana pamaso, osagwiritsa ntchito mawu osagwiritsa ntchito mawu kuti mufotokozere cholinga chanu chakumvetsera, ndipo musanene kuti zomwe mukuwonazo ndizotanthauzira.
Kuyankhulana kwabwino kungakhale zinthu monga kudziwitsa wokondedwa wanu kuti mumawakonda, machitidwe apamtima monga kupsompsonana ndi kugwirana, mpaka kuzinthu zosavuta monga kuyamikila luso la kuphika la mnzanu.
3. Osadandaula zazing'onozing'ono
Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mumakondana kwambiri, mutha kudzipeza nokha kukangana ndi kukangana za zopusa ndi zopanda pake.
Kupanikizika pazinthu zazing'ono zomwe sizofunika si machitidwe abwino ndipo nthawi zambiri zimayamba kukhala pachibwenzi kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu ndi zazing'onozi.
Maanja amapanga zovuta zawo komanso zomwe angachite ngati atakhala pa chibwenzi, zomwe zitha kukhala zovuta m'banja. Kudzudzula pazinthu zomwe sizikhala zofunikira mzaka 10 kulibe phindu.
Mwachitsanzo, tinene kuti mnzanu amaiwala kuchita zovala zambiri. Yankho la izi likhoza kukhala kuchita katundu wina limodzi! Kapenanso tinene kuti mnzanu akukana kuyika mpando wa chimbudzi pansi - pangani chikwangwani chopusa ndikuchipaka pafupi ndi chimbudzi.
Kudzilekerera ndikuseka zazing'ono kumabweretsa ubale wopanda nkhawa. Komabe, Kumva bata komanso kusadandaula ndi zinthu zazing'ono kumatha kukhala kusintha kwa inu ndi mnzanu chifukwa ndi chibadwa chomwe chakhala chikusinthidwa kwakanthawi kapena chifukwa chazovuta zina zomwe adakumana nazo.
Kuphunzira momwe mungathetsere nkhawa kungakuthandizeni kukulitsa moyo wachikondi komanso ubale wanu. Nazi zinthu zina zomwe mungachite kuti muchepetse nkhawa yanu.
- Njira zopumulira
Nthawi zonse muziyeseza njira zopumulira monga yoga ndi kusinkhasinkha kuti mukhale chete. Osati kokha njirazi zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro osadodometsedwa komanso imatsitsimutsa thupi lanu ndikuwonjezera kudzimva kukhala bwino.
- Mverani ndi kulankhulana
Kulephera kwa maanja kumvetsera ndikulankhulana muubwenzi wawo ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zokhalira ndi moyo wachikondi wokhala ndi nkhawa. Kuthetsa nkhaniyi ndikuzindikira njira zokulitsira kulumikizana muubwenzi kungakuthandizeni kukulitsa moyo wachikondi.
-Kusakhala ungwiro kapena kuzengereza
Mavuto oyesera kukhutiritsa wokondedwa wanu amatha kusiya aliyense atatopa komanso kupsinjika. Kuchuluka kwa chilichonse sikuli kwabwino, muyenera kudzikongoletsa nokha kuti muchite zabwino osati anzanu.
Kukhala chimodzimodzi ndikofunikira kwambiri monga kusintha ndikusintha chibwenzi. Kusiyanitsa ndiko kumvetsetsa nthawi yoti mudzikakamize komanso liti pomwe simuyenera.
Mofananamo, osanyalanyaza zofuna ndi zoyembekezera za mnzanu ndipo ndikuyembekeza kuti akumvetsetsa ngakhale mutazengereza motani. Ngakhale lonjezo lokhalira limodzi pamavuto ngakhale pang'ono limakhala ndi malire.