Zamkati
- Kodi maubale opanda mawonekedwe achikhulupiliro amakhala bwanji?
- 1. Nthawi zonse mumawafunsa umboni wa chilichonse
- 2. Mumayang'ana mosalekeza malo awo ochezera
- 3. Mumafuna mapasiwedi kumaakaunti awo
- 4. Mumamva mantha ndi anthu okongola mukakhala ndi mnzanu
- 5. Mumafunsa ena kuti atsimikizire kuti mnzanuyo ali kuti
Kodi mudayimapo kuti mudzifunse kuti 'kodi mumakhulupirira wokondedwa wanu?'
Mwayi wake ndikuti ngati mwadzifunsa funsoli, mwina pangakhale chidziwitso chochepa cha kusakhulupirika pachibwenzi chanu.
Ndipo ngati pali kukayikira kulikonse kuti ubale wanu sukuyenda pakukhulupirirana ndiye kuti ikhoza kukhala nthawi yoti mumvetsere zazing'ono zanu ndikuyamba kudziwa chifukwa chake. Makamaka chifukwa maubale osakhulupirika samayenda bwino - kudalirana ndiye mwala wapangodya waubwenzi.
Kodi maubale opanda mawonekedwe achikhulupiliro amakhala bwanji?
Nthawi zambiri pamakhala zifukwa ziwiri zomwe mungadzifunse kuti 'kodi mumakhulupirira mnzanu?'
- Chifukwa pakhala pali zochitika zenizeni zomwe zingalimbikitse kusakhulupirika - monga kusakhulupirika, kusalemekeza, kunama nthawi zambiri kapena kukhumudwitsidwa mobwerezabwereza m'malo mwa mnzanu kapena mnzanu.
- Ngati mwakhalapo ndiubwenzi wopanda kukhulupirirana m'mbuyomu ndipo mukuvutika kukhulupirira aliyense.
Mwa maubwenzi onse awiriwa, pali yankho nthawi zonse, lomwe limayamba ndikuphunzira momwe mungakhalire ndi chidaliro kapena kuphunzira kudaliranso.
M'magawo onse awiriwa, upangiri ungakuthandizeni mtsogolo ndikukulepheretsani kukhala ndi ubale wosakhulupirika.
Vuto ndiloti; nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kudziwa ngati mumamukhulupirira mnzanu. Chifukwa chake kukuthandizani pano ndi zitsanzo zina zamomwe tingakhalire ngati sitikhulupirira wokondedwa wathu.
1. Nthawi zonse mumawafunsa umboni wa chilichonse
Kuchita kuzindikira ndi chizolowezi chabwino motsimikiza, ndipo pakhoza kukhala nthawi zina pamene mungafunse umboni wazomwe mnzanu akukambirana nanu. Kusiyana kwakuti umboni wofunikirayo sikudzakhala umboni kuti anali owona mtima ngakhale, koma koposa kuti awunikenso zowona zawo - pali kusiyana.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukupeza kuti mukufuna umboni wotsimikizira kuti zomwe mnzanu kapena mnzanu akunena, kuchita kapena kuganiza ndizowona ndiye kuti ndi chitsanzo chotsimikizika cha ubale wopanda kukhulupirirana.
2. Mumayang'ana mosalekeza malo awo ochezera
Apanso yankho la izi limadalira nkhaniyo. Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mumagawana nawo zapa media media, foni, ndi imelo kuti zitheke ndipo ndichinthu chofananira - osati chosowa, ndiye kuti mwayiwu ndi chisankho chabwino.
Koma ngati mutha kulowa nawo chifukwa mudawafunsira (kuti muwone momwe amalumikizirana) kapena ngati mungayang'ane malumikizidwe awo mosakayikira mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, muli ndi mwayi wokhala pachibwenzi popanda kukhulupirirana.
3. Mumafuna mapasiwedi kumaakaunti awo
Pokhapokha mutakhala ndi chifukwa chofikira maakaunti a mnzanu kapena wa mnzanu (mwachitsanzo bizinesi kapena zifukwa zaumoyo) ndiye kuti kufunafuna mwayi wopeza maakaunti awo ndichinthu chomwe chimayikiridwa. Makamaka ngati mukufuna kuti muzitha kuwunika.
Khalidwe lolamulirali ndi malo otsetsereka opita ku chibwenzi popanda kukhulupirirana komwe mungafunikire kuthana nawo mwachangu kuti musawononge chinthu chomwe chingakhale chabwino.
4. Mumamva mantha ndi anthu okongola mukakhala ndi mnzanu
Kuchita mantha ndi anthu okongola kukhala pafupi ndi mnzanu sizitanthauza kuti muli pachibwenzi popanda kukhulupirirana. Mutha kukhala osadzikweza kapena osadzidalira.
Koma ngati siziri choncho, simumakhulupirira wokondedwa wanu mokwanira kukhala wokhulupirika kwa inu.
5. Mumafunsa ena kuti atsimikizire kuti mnzanuyo ali kuti
Kutsimikizira kuti mnzanu kapena mnzanu ali kuti ndi komwe kumangokhala kokayikitsa zomwe sizingangotanthauza kwa inu komanso kwa mnzanuyo ndi anzawo kuti simukukhulupirira.
Kupatula apo, ndi chifukwa chiyani mungamve kufunsa mafunso okondedwa wanu?
China chake chikuyendetsa khalidweli, ndipo sichingakhudze kukhulupirirana. Ndipo mwina ndi nthawi yoti mukhale pansi ndikudzifunsa nokha chifukwa chomwe muliri pachibwenzi popanda kukhulupirirana kuti mudzakhale ndi mwayi wokonza izi.
Kusakhulupirika pachibwenzi kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa osati paubwenzi wokha komanso pamaganizidwe ndi thanzi la onse awiri kapena okwatirana. Ngati mukuwona kuti simumkhulupirira mnzanuyo si nthawi yoti muchitepo kanthu, kuti muthe kusangalala ndi ubale wachikondi komanso wodalirika mtsogolo?